Teenage daughters
By snyderblog
@snyderblog (82)
United States
March 24, 2011 3:09pm CST
Someone should examine my head, but I took in a teenage girl almost a year ago. I already have a teenage daughter. This little girl was 15 but her mom just stopped being a mom. She would come hang out at my house and after awhile she just wouldn't go home. Don't get me wrong, she is a great kid. Staight A student. Sweet. Clean. Her mom finally just told me I can have her. Yes, like that. Anyway, now that she has been with us for awhile and we have celebrated her birthday, bought her christmas presents and all that comes with being parents, she is settled enough to be so comfortable with us that she is starting to act like my own kids. I know, what did I expect? She is still a good girl but now sometimes acts like she is entitled to more like my car, my money. Not that we weren't ready to help her with all those things but now I have issues all the sudden. And the drama... wow teenage girls sure have drama. So why is this bothering me? Is it because she isn't my own blood. I do love her but I wish her mom would get a clue.
5 responses
@fenirose (46)
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10 Apr 11
you meant that her real mum just gave you her own daughter just like that? this is very suspicious. i am a mum too and i cant not give my child to someone just like that. try and find if this woman is really the biological mother. if yes why didnt she give her daughter for adoption? just be careful is this matter because you will take all the blames if something happen to that girl be wise.
@snyderblog (82)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Thank you all for your comments. I wanted you all to know, the mother of this girl has signed over guardianship to me. No fight or nothing. She has been with us for over a year now and now I can legally sign her school paperwork and take her to the doctor and everything else she needs. I still am in awe over someone just deciding they don't want to be a parent anymore. She is happier with us and now that we have all had time to adjust, things are looking up. Now, college. Got to figure that out. I will be looking for some funding to help her with that.
@bobmnu (8157)
• United States
12 May 11
This girl may be testing you. If I ask for all these things will she (Mom) reject me just like her real Mom. If you give in and treat her differently than your children then resent her. My suggestion, for what it is worth, is to treat her just like your children, after all that is the message you sent her when you took her in - she is one f the family now.
Some Mothers say that sit would be best if at age 13 girls were sent away and came home when they were 18. Those teen years are the most difficult but important to building a very positive relationship if you can survive them.
@Alnitak (423)
• Italy
24 Mar 11
I didn't get if you just took her in by words or you are also legally responsible for her and you are likely going to adopt her, because I think the legal matter could be a problem.
The girl is still young and even if she is the most perfect kid on earth she could having problem accepting your authority when it will be necessary because you could be "only" her friend's mum for her.
Moreover, one day her mother could decide she wants her back and this would be another legal problem because I guess you would have no right at all (it depends on your country laws).
So I think this is partially what's bothering you but I don't think your had need to be examined :D I think you're doing a great thing for this girl :)
@terryt52 (243)
• United States
24 Mar 11
If her mom just gave her away then I would suspect that she wasn't a mom in the first place. That is the very reason she has not left your home you are her mom figure. The period of time that she took to get comfortable is called the honeymoon period it is present in most children who go into foster care. Yes girls are drama and I am laughing as I say that I have two bio boys and adopted two girls and have an additional two other girls that I help and I will tell you that I think boys are much easier. God Bless you for taking her in. Good Luck
