athiest or religion?
By Candace1972
@Candace1972 (18)
March 25, 2011 1:04pm CST
I know this is a touchy subject for a lot of people. I am a Lutheran and my husband is an athiest. We just had a baby girl in November 2010. We decided to let her decide for herself if she believes in God or not. In order to let her decide for herself she will have to hear both sides. In my opinion my husband is not very respectful when it comes to my beliefs. We have had many discusions on this subject and it usually ends up in a fight. I don't want my daughter to be disrespectful of others beliefs when she grows up. If my husband is disrespectful then she will learn to be that way too. How would you handle this situation? Or have you ever been in a situation like this? If so what did you do to resolve it?
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6 responses
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
26 Mar 11
I feel that the best way to handle it is not to discuss religion or any issues that concern Religion.It is not easy but one can try not to get ruffled or angry when discussions reach a certain point which can cause friction.I have seen many people become very touchy where their religion and beliefs are concerned ...It is a personal issue and it is better not to have as few discussions as possible esp since both you and your husband are strong in your beliefs...If a person does not agree with the others view point it does not necessarily mean that he/she is being disrespectful. I too find certain religious practices and beliefs ridiculous and I may point it out, but it is not that I am trying to be offensive...Religion , I feel is one of the single most powerful tool that has been used and has been the cause of maximum amount of misery to mankind...
@changjiangzhibin89 (16786)
• China
26 Mar 11
Everyone enjoys freedom of religious belief.My mother is a devout Catholic and she frequently persuades me to believe in it,but I am unmoved all the time.I think religious belief is good for old man so I support her at the bottom of my heart in religious belief.As for me, far be it from me to believe in religion.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
26 Mar 11
For me it is the same you must to value the thing unless you can't get sin by Jehovah God.
@abuomararman (23)
• India
26 Mar 11
I must say that if u do not have a religion. Purchase it from any online store. Please remember that life is very short. If you discard religion it becomes even shorter.Stand before a mirror. look at yourself and decide who has the capacity to design such a burning figure which is continuously taking the fuel of oxygren.I am nnot stricctly religious but I believe in the creator very confidently.
@SoldierofFortune (26)
• Argentina
25 Mar 11
Hi there Candace1972,
Well, it is a complicated situation.
When it comes to religion, politics and the "birds&bees" it is all very personal.
People tend to have big discussions about this but when the discussion is in a couple and even more about the raising of a little baby girl, it's tough.
The first recommendation that comes to my head is to talk, talk and talk some more with your husband.
He needs to understand as well as respect your personal belief.
If he doesn't respect you...it's going to be very difficult to raise your daughter in a neutral environment.
Besides kids cant really make up their minds till they're at the end of their teens years.
You have a LONG way to go and you should take advantage of this time to talk seriously about this with your husband.
If you don't do that, trouble may come your way. Mostly when kids reach the kindergarten years that's when all time shooting question begins. And surely will come the religion, God an Jesus questions. I would say you need to be both prepare for the answer you're going to give to your daughter.
Hope you can find a solution and mostly peace!
T/K