When she goes to college and he doesn't. ( a semi rant)

Hello sarahruthbeth, What you have heard is what is really happening now. Women who work want their men to earn more. I don't know how many women would agree to it, but it looks like these days something is on the change. Women want someone who can give them the upper status and so they want to marry someone who earns more than themselves. I am a male and i have been finding things like you heard on the radio or the television. Yes, it is true. This was one of the reason why my girlfriend broke off with me and i don't want to blame her right now, but in my heart it still burns me. They want security and stability and i guess she didn't see that coming in me and she didn't even give me the chance to prove myself and decided to break up with me. Well, time will come one day when i would one day stand on my feet and close the doors to her if she comes crying back to me. It's how things are now, sarah. Women look for security. Working women, its hard for them to fall in love with someone who doesn't earn much. Women like men who work and they like it even better if they earn more money. Money is in a way making way for love. As weird as it sounds, yes it is true to some extent. They see how much you earn and then think if they want to marry you. Happening in most arranged marriages right now, not that anything is wrong with that. But when love is broken it really hurts to know it was the money that mattered to the other side.

it would depend on his character, we have to have things in common, and a lot of times there isn't much in common when there is a big education difference, of course when I say this it could be the man who is very well educated and the woman is not. If you watch the big bang theory look at Penny great woman that she is, she doesn't have a clue of what the goes do for a living, she can't understand them.

MOney is a big part of any relationship...no matter what people say. More divorces happen when the money isn't there to support them like they like. Love can come and go too, but once the money is gone...ut takes a long time to replace it and lot of hard work. If the love leaves...it is much easier to find "new" love. But this reminds me of a gal I worked with. She worked her tail off at two jobs to help support her and her boyfriend while he went to school to be a teacher. After 5 years of living together and going to school, he finally graduated and they got married. 2 years later...they divorced. Why? cause he wanted to go back to his small home town in Texas to teach and she didn't want to go there. So, basically she paid his way through school and then left her. Money is important to any relationship. No matter what anyone says.

I agree with you on this point.A relationship is forged between two persons not because of money but because there is a chemistry between them that attracts and draws them to each other.If money were the only cause then it would be a business relationship and there is every possibility of it breaking up if and when one of the partners finds another person who has more of the lucre than he or she needs.After all itis a matter of the heart and not the purse that brings 2 persons to each other. There are many cases where a man could be earning less than his spouse, yet they have made their marriage successful.there are many stories of poor boy,rich girl and they are not just in novels but in real life.I have quite a few friends whose wives are highly educated than their husbands but that is only in their work environment and at home they do their duty as perfect housewives.The partners paycheck does not mean anything, it is their trust and understanding that matters most.

I don't ubderstand how that would make more single parents. I think that it would just help single parents be more self sufficant. I think men sometimes have feelings of resentment when their female partner is more financially established so to speak. Society had taught that the men are supposed to be the "bread winners." It doesn't matter to me the money they make as long as I don't feel used. I can take care of myself..I don't need to depend on someone else. I want to base my relationship on more than finances.

Lets consider different factors why women choose men who earns more. If you would look in a bigger picture. If you would look around.. check the world financial crisis.. poverty.. would you blame them if they chose financial stability.. I would say no. The thing is, girls should be clear in the begining of what they really want. If they think this man is no good for them.. then say it right away instead of letting us wait for nothing.

For my husband and I, education doesn't matter, money doesn't matter. We are both very intellectual people, and that works for us, but a lot of super-educated people go through life acting dumb as stumps, and a lot of uneducated people are geniuses. Just look at Irving Berlin!! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irving_Berlin

No, it's not a deal breaker. Not at all...

I don't understand this! Lots of men like whne their spouse or girlfriend makes more then them! Then I know men who hate when their wife or girlfriend makes more!So what is the problem here? Are woman thinking men are worthless and untrustworthy? Some are but not all of them!

I guess there will always be guys who will feel insecure about having a partner earning more than him. I think this is what this commentary is about. That sooner or later, the relationship would break apart. But, I give kudos to the guys who can be in this kind of relationship. One who is secure enough about himself, and be happy at what he is doing, even if he doesn't earn as much. I think those kind of guys are just all around better people. Me, I struggle with insecurity all the time.