I met someone online and I really like him....
@craziestqueenever (1819)
Philippines
March 26, 2011 2:55pm CST
I am really ashamed to tell you this but I can't help my self about how I feel for him.
I met someone online, we met in a Paid to Socialize Chat.The first time we chatted I do feel that he is a Great Man. He had shared to be about his past experiences about his Love Life and his current relationship. I liked him because of his Character online when he told that he is a writer and he is really Talented . I liked him because he is the Guy that I had been looking for. Not all guys are the same he is really different.
This is the first time that I had a crush on someone online. He doesn't know that I like him. How I wish one day we can meet in person. But the problem is he do have a girlfriend.
What will I do know? I don't want to tell him about my feelings for him I want our friendship online will remain.
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17 responses
@gwssgaa1008 (448)
• India
27 Mar 11
It is better to continue the friendship hurting his girlfriend and establishing your love may be not good
@gwssgaa1008 (448)
• India
28 Mar 11
Yes I think its better and if started to love or feel you then you can express and without that expressing your love I think its bad and he already have a girl friend so it will hurt him I think
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hi gwssgaa1008!
Yes. I will continue this as a friendship.
@IchaSweetz (51)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 11
Making a relationship with someone you met from online social networking sites is not that easy. I am one of those girls who fall in love with someone on the internet. We knew each other for about one year and then he visited my city. After three times meeting, he proposed me. I become his fiancee. Then I visit his city to know more about him. In fact, he is different from what I know from the virtual relationship. Everything is different. I finally broke up with him.
My advice is, you should know him first not from your virtual relationship but from your reality world. People could fake their performance, even their character, but what you see will not be the same. Don't do the same mistake as I did but be wise and concern about your future. My second advice, listen to your heart and remember, parents come first.
Thank you.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hi IchaSweetz!
Thanks for the response! Yes, I wanna know him better and I'm open to the possibility that he can fake his identity. I'm always concerned about my safety too.
Happy myLotting!
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
27 Mar 11
Well it all sounds very sweet, and its nice that you made a friend online that you like, but you must be very careful because people online are not always who they seem they say anything to a sweet girl, and try to take advantage of them. I'm not saying your friend isn't sincere but just stay on your guard, and take your time because I hear and read about so many tragic story's about crazy people online.
Fallow your heart but be careful and don't let your guard down too much yet, sweet heart be safe.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hello apples99 !
Thanks for the response! I'm always careful when I met someone online. I will remain safe online. Thanks again!
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 11
hi ,
Wow what a story. First of all you should be very careful online. 9 out of 10 are frauds. Now about falling in love online. It is easy to fall in love with someone online if you keep chatting with him. He is away and looks irresistible and since you can not touch him you yearn for him more. But in your case he has a girl friend. Yes you shouldnt tell him your feelings for this reason that he has a girl. Suppose you tell him and lets say he breaks up with his gf for you. Tomorrow you can be in same position. So if he is man of character he wont break with his girl for you and if he does, then he would break up with u when next Pretty young thing tells him she likes him. So take your pick.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hello agrim94 !
Thanks for the response! I'm always afraid of someone whom I met online. It should be better If I keep my feelings just for myself.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
27 Mar 11
I can imagine! I dated a guy from the internet once, we talked online for 5 months and in the last 2 we were beginign the telephone talk, just be careful, knkow him a lot before meeting him, there are married and even serial killers out there, ok? But I hope this is it, there are many people who founmd their soul mate online, there's not even the lost of time of getting to know, you can find people already that you know their intesrest.
Good luck girl!
When you date him make sure it's a place with a lot of people and stay in there.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hi katie0 !
Is it for real? That you can met your soulmate online? how I wish he is my soul mate. Thanks for the response.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
hello craziest,
I would suggest that you should be careful it's not easy to trust someone you just meet online we know that now a days only few people can honestly tell you who really they are. If he is on a relationship right now it's better to keep your feelings for yourself because what if the feelings is not mutual? there is nothing wrong in loving someone through online or in person just remember be careful always and think wisely.
happy mylotting
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
whatever you feel i understand because i've been there i just made a wise decision not to reveal my feelings it was hard but everytime i remember it i can't help not to laugh at myself .
just remember we can easily fall inlove to a person in a minute but it will takes a life time to know them.
have a nice day!
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hello bhabycatch013 ,
Thanks for the response! I'm afraid of someone whom I met online but this guy is really different! ( how I wish I can explain what I feel). You are right! I should get to know him better.
Have a nice day!
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
27 Mar 11
Hi. craziestqueenever. Welcome to myLot! I think that you should just be friends with him and nothing more. If he has a girlfriend, then someone else has his heart for now. That is what I dislike mostly about socializing chats, people tend to start to fall for each other being that they are on friendly terms. Before your feelings for him turn really seriously, just end it so that you won't be hurt in the end.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Wow, we do have the same experienced my dear and I am so attracted with a guy online. He does not have a girlfriend and we seem to be getting well together. Although he is not the best man around or he has many flaws with his character I still liked him. I do hate him sometimes and liked him as well. But in conclusion my feelings for him is more on the like side.
Don't be ashamed with your feelings it's quite normal. This week I am trying to get him out from my system and not to try to chat with him in one week. I just want to forget him because I know my feelings for him has no onward realities. It's best to wake up early on reality no matter how it hurts.
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
26 Mar 11
Sometimes, a friendship can be more important than a relationship. If he is done for you, so the time will give you the supply to your needs. If not, so you have won a new friend. I have a similar experience, as I met my husband in Internet. We were chatting during four month until we went to live together. At the beginning, when I started to know him, he lived in another country than me. And now, it's eleven years ago since we met us the first time and share two precious children.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hello camomile07 !
Thanks for the response! Really you met you're husband online? Good to hear that. I'm the type of person who doesn't believe in Love on-line. but It was that guy who made me realize that I can fell in love on-line.
Happy myLotting!
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
27 Mar 11
ohhhhhhhh friend dont fall in love and he has already girlfriend and you not seen the vardaat case in TV news so be careful before meeting with him
Because such type of cases are increasing day by day they can cheat you in rare cases it is successful. You dont know who is he? How can you judge he is good boy or men only on online chatting. So my advice is be careful and if you want to take the risk then go there and meet him.
@ashish3090 (254)
• India
28 Mar 11
I want to just remind you that we not get the correct details with whom we are chatting, so I would like to advice you dont tell your feelings to him just continue your relation as a friend and meet him in a public place try to know his background after that take the right decission..
@aryardian (16)
•
28 Mar 11
allow there
don't be shame of that. I have a friend that have the same experience, met on a socials networks n now she have 2 sons with her friend that only chat on it. just enjoy it.. i like your experience.
@geekychik (69)
• Philippines
28 Mar 11
Just enjoy the feeling of fondness unto him I think its better if you will not rush on anything since the guy has girlfriend and you just met him online. I mean there's nothing wrong in meeting online/chatting and there's nothing wrong in admiring people but try to hold your fondness first and try to get to know him better.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
27 Mar 11
Hi craziestqueenever, in some part of our journey in our life we some meet someone we want , but now i just can tell you that don't tell him your feelings, firstly because you can't trust someone who met you in online, secondly since he's having a girlfriend.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
27 Mar 11
Hello.
I am happy for you that someone is making you feel that way. Isn't it great that there is someone making us excited and fidgety in a positive way?
It is so early to tell if there can never be anything between you other than friendship. Since he still has a girlfriend, it would be best not to tell him about your feelings. Besides, you are miles apart to each other. He could be playing mind games with you without you knowing it. So, I'd say, let the friendship grow deeper into something that is build in mutual respect and understanding. From there, see what will happen next.
Don't worry, things could be more beautiful with you and him. Who knows but don't expect too much for now. Enjoy the moments spent with him.
@CONDLAUR (134)
• Romania
27 Mar 11
Making friends online is great. But a love friend is different. One the internet he could be very amusing or intelligent and other good qualities. This could be just a scam to you believe that him is great. I've met some people this way and when I've seen them in real life so some persons I did not like how they look or started to see that the persons are different from the Internet life. You can easily get the seeming wrong. But also it could be the other way, that you could really enjoy the person. Its just a matter of perspective, a matter of how you look to life and what do you want from life.