my best friend is LESBIAN...

I dont see what her being a lesbian has to with it..Heartbreak hurts no matter what your sexuality is...And like its been mentioned already, just talk to your friend the same you would a straight friend who is heartbroken..

Listen, being a lesbian does not change the fact that she is part of our society and wants to live following most of its standards. The thing is, wanting a commitment is more of a "society standard" in that it is more something that other people want from you than anything else. Now, think about the difference between passion and commitment. They are kind of opposite concepts. Now, what would you prefer, a relationship built on passion or a relationship built on commitment?

Just be there and listen to her. The genders of those in the relationship don't really matter. It's hard when people want different things from a relationship. I'm not sure I can give any more advice- I don't know the people involved or what their lives are like. But just be there for your friend. She's going through a hard time right now.

I think that you should treat this like a regular break up. It's the same thing like if she broke up with a guy. There's not that much difference really whether she broke up with a girl or a guy. Just tell her that she will find someone better and she deserves better.

Maybe I'm wrong but I think all brokenhearted are always the same: males, females, eteros or gays. There are no many word to say. Just try to understand what she want and let her alone if she wants to be alone, but you have to be ready if your friend wants to have your presence next to her. Well, that's all, treat her like a brokenhearted without thinking if her heart is broken for a man or a woman.

She's heartbroken and in a complicated situation. Being a lesbian doesn't really mean much. It's just the same if its with a straight person. Just do what any good friend will do and BE THERE FOR HER. Just listen to her and help her through this tough time. Try to cheer her up and mostly importantly listen to her.

its understandable why the girlfriend doesnt want to have commitments. I think she should understand her limits. No one is blaming her for being a lesbian, and i think she can still do something with it. Being lesbian is just a psychological thing. If she continues to be lesbian then she should know her limits and also understand others why they dont want commitments. I mean, who would want to?

That is tough. The girl is afraid of commitment because she still doesn't view your best friend as someone whom she could have a long-term relationship with. It's most probably because he's still looking for someone else. I am somebody who doesn't like to commit either. It's because, though I love my partner, I cannot imagine myself with the same partner after a few years. It's not that I don't love my partner, it's just that I'm still unsure about him. I still have reservations, I still have fears and a lot of what-ifs. You could try to tell your bestfriend to try and accept what the girl wants. If she can't accept it, then go look for another girl. Tying down a someone who doesn't want to be tied down will just cause problems for their relationship

just tell her that she can find someone who will be really for her. there are just some people who are not yet ready to commit, but don't lose hope as there is always someone for us out there.

i'm sure if your friend will try to be a real girl and try to find some love with the opposite gender she will be loved and accepted for what she really is, i'm not saying that im anti 3rd gender but doesn't she ever wanted to have a family in the future with her child around her arms and a husband who will take care of her as a woman and not being her taking care of another woman, but if she's really a man hearted chick, then maybe she can take the pain of a woman leaving her for a sake of a man. im sorry

I think that all you can do is be there for her. You can offer your opinion if she asks for it, but I think the most important thing you can do is be there to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on when she needs it.

we have all preference in life some would think its ok that nowadays this kind of relationship exist.,the problem is you,.come to think of it you really want to help but the question are ready to accept that your best friend is a lesbian and you want to help..maybe you don't accept your best friend is a lesbian that is why you can start on how are you going to help? what is important right now is for you to accept their relationship and from that point you know already how to help your best friend because accepting is just understanding..if you understand then you can relate...

There's really not a lot you can do other than be there for her. It's just like drama in any other relationship. The best advice I could give, is that she needs to decide if she wants to be with this person knowing they won't commit (whatever that means to her) or if she wants to end it and move on hoping for better next time. Relationships are hard now days and people don't seem to be to much for commitment for any length of time. One night stands, mass dating, and 3 month commitments seem to be the social norm. Preference aside, if she's looking for commitment then she needs to find that with someone who is looking for it with her or enjoy whatever the relationship is for the time being and realize it will one day end and possibly not on her terms. Last thing, nothing against lesbians. But working at a bar full of them, a lot of the younger ones tend to be in an identity crisis. A good deal of the younger lesbians I knew a year ago have boyfriends or even kids now. So, she might not commit because she's having issues with it. Ultimately your friend will have to talk to her girlfriend and come to a decision realizing it may hurt in the long run. The best thing you can do is be her friend.