What should i do?

Hi Lukisanaku, I can feel you on this situation. Considering that you rely only for your mother's support and now here she is having bad times too. But what I can tell you is don't be so affected of what is happening. You can discuss with your mom that you have to focus with your studies, just spare this time for you and after the sem..you would be able to help her to find work. Being a single mom is really difficult, but let her know that you need to take your studies seriously. Because if you will be affected with such problems, it will ruin your studies that would also have effect on looking for job. So better take it one at a time, for you to be able get rid of those predicaments. Hoping you could cope up, you just have to be patient and determined in attaining your dreams and goals in life. Happy mylotting.

Why not run to your dad and ask for financial assistance, the fact that they were divorced with your mom, It does not mean that his obligations with you and your siblings also end. So go talk to him about your financial problem, make a call for him, for sure he can't resists you.

Your mothers problems and debt is not yours. If you can work and make extra money do it. Pay your mother something for living there to help her out if you aren't already. You should sit down with her and figure out a budget to help with the bills. I'm assuming your brothers are old enough to work. Between four grown working adults there is no reason you all can't keep the household going unless your mother has a problem with shopping and spending too much money on other things besides trying to pay the rent. If she is having trouble because she doesn't get paid enough maybe she should look into getting a better job or finding something to do to make extra money.

Hello dear, I know it is very easy to advice another person. U and yr mother seem to have been going thru hard life for quite long now. It must be very frustrating for u at this moment as u are torn between yr studies and mother's problems. But remember one thing, yr mother must be in debt because of the family only. It must hv been really hard for her to raise kids and look after their needs. But bad days do not remain for ever. Whenever u are frustrated take ten long deep breaths. It will immediately calm u down. If u hv positive attitude, this bad phase too will pass peacefully.

Hey i also experienced that when i was in school.My father was full of debt because he build a new house.And he use to come home depressed and and my mother didnt work also.Any how we all suffered a lot without money.Those days were best of my life and i wanted to learn well as i wanted to enter local University.because of money problems i had to neglect some learning task as i was trying to help my family while learning.I was a kid around 18 at that time and there were no part time jobs.So i saved some pocket money,class money,bus fair(looks silly ah..) and unwanted spending(parties,drinking,trips,buying new cloths).That was a great relief at that time and i was able to save my father getting heart -attack..i wanted to do all.but when exams come i was far behind my friends.They achieved there targets and i couldnt.Some managed to enter university and i couldn't.I was lost in life and now i have to pay for my higher education as well which should have gotten free..But things which i did wasnt good for me.even that affected my education as a youth(personality).Andi lost most of the things without knowing.(fun,love,friends,education)..Even now i experience consequences of those and my parents suffer a lot too. I was a hero at that time for my parents and to my self.Other friends they enjoyed there schooling and managed to achieve there targets by asking every thing from there parents(but there parents suffererd)...But now both there parents and they are happy. I SAY YOU LEARN WHEN THERE IS AN OPPERTUNITY.gIVE YOUR MAXIMUM AND GET MAXIMUM FROM YOUR MOM TOO..DO NOT DO THE MISTAKE I DID.STUDENTS MUST ONLY LEARN FORGET OTHER STUFF.EARNING IS PARENTS JOB.DO NOT SPOIL YOR LIFE

Welcome to mylot Thanks for sharing your story, well you have not said, where you study, in school or college, what ever it is, you must give first priority to studies, stop feeling depressed, you can do some paet time job somewhere that suits you, choose your time accordingly.. god bless you friend cheers kalyani

well,i do think u have think about too much . the most impottant thing is the study now ,you can wait . you may search on the net ,when u come out from colleague ,what u can do . it is no need concider about this ,you may choose the best job for you . it is very important for the skill when u associate with the socity. so just do you have to do . you deserve the god's blessing .

In my opinion, no matter how stressed your mother is, you should tell her your problem. She will understand your plight and will help you find a solution to it. No mother wants to see her children suffering . She knows that you are bent in finishing your studies, so she would surely help you get through with it.

there is no river that can't be crossed.at present you must show your own some brave,courage,wisdom and mature... pls believe the hardship is temporary,after you master some skill,and that there is a good job will bring you prosperous life. come on!good luck

I am the same like you! But I realized that stressing myself won't help! Try to look life positively and pray to God... To Him, nothing is impossible my friend.. Just try reaching Him, and He will enlighten your path.. And I hope everything will be fine.