Why do love hurts?

I experienced this kind of feeling I did everything for him and it seems like he didn't appreciate every effort I did for him. Our relationship lasted for 4 years but all i got was emotional burden so I decided to quit because I realize no one will save and comfort myself except me. Its like I don't deserve that kind of treatment he's giving me. And the moment I said its over thats the time I felt like I made the smartest decision in my entire life. Being in pain is just normal since we invested emotions but time will heal the pain definitely

Love has to be from within.It is not an overnight lesson.True love is when you are selfless and not expecting anything.It does work and one day you will be happy.When you expect and dont get it then you are hurt.

To really love someone , you have to opwen yourself up. You have to let therm see the Real you . So , if you do all that , and they reject you , it Really hurts.

I have been through this pain before. I lived with a man that for the first two years of our relationship he was as you described... but he was still a decent man to be with. After the birth of our first child together something truly flipped within him and he became very abusive. I was so stunned over the changed still and I ended up having another child by him before I realized that I was being abused. By that time I figure it would be better to stay in the relationship so that the children would have both of their parent's in their lives. But really I was tearing the family apart by kidding myself like that. In the end he left me but expected me to still be there at his beck and call. I had to completely sever ties with him in order to get out. Hopefully your situation doesn't end up like mine, but it could and preparing yourself to see the signs is the best you can do right now.

well i was with my ex for 12 and a half years and i felt that it wasnt right after about 8/9 years and i made the mistake of staying with him. thank god i got rid of him.

It's like planting a seed, waiting the proper season but not seeing any fruit. I.e. because you sacrificed things for the other's betterment, you want something to make your losses worthwhile for you.

I remember when I first fell in love and it was like a fever of the mind that I had never experienced before. I couldn't stop thinking about the girl I had met and I felt that I wanted to free myself to think about other things in life. There was also fear that it wouldn't work out and this was painful. It didn't work out, and later I met somebody else and went through a similar thing, but because I had gone through it once, I was more prepared and more confident with it. It is a powerful force that most of us go through, because after all, it's how we make sure that the human race continues. _Derek

Love is beautiful in the beginning. You will feel happy all the time and you felt like your life is complete. You can even say that you finally found heaven here on earth. However, some love is short lived. Some loved don't last long. And the most painful is that when the one you loved begun to changed. I experienced the same pain and maybe much more worse that you feel right now. But since I already know that when we enter in to a relationship we are bound to be hurt one way or another. In every relationship there's only two endings, that would be sad ending and happy endings. Only time can tell. I just wish that what you feel today will improved in the coming days. I wish you well!

1. To me Love is to sacrifice. If you love someone than it requires sacrifice. 2. If a person that you love seems does not respond to your loving, than sacrifice the love towards that person, and love that person from afar since they don't love you. 3. Yes we feel that we need love to live this life. Be happy that you can feel love, even if is only one sided love. some people even cannot feel love. 4. Love make the world turn around, but you controlled how fast it its turning.

Love has never been hurtful, it's just the person whom you love that puts a pain in you, because he/she decide not to give his/her love back to you. Once he decide to love back, LOVE is so a wonderful feeling to experience. Just give it a little bit time for that person and talk to him and understand his side of the story why he doesn't give you his love you so much needed.

It actually hurts because when we feel rejection, the mind sends the rejection feelings that makes our heart beats faster so the blood raises more that we feel the "hurt" feelings in our heart. well, this is my explanation why it "hurts" but of course, it hurts because we always want that whatever we give will be reciprocated, but how about you think that if someone loves you but you don't like or love that person, would you pretend to love or like her/him just to avoid him/her being hurt? it's only natural that we do not get always what we want.

I think the not received love that hurts, we are in love to someone but when we feel they are not feeling the same way so it's painful as rejection always is. But the right person for us always will feel the same way :p

That's really painful! Giving all your love but it's not being reciprocated. What hurts the most is when you love each other but can't be together because of some reason that you cannot both control. And what hurts the most is when he tells you I love you but I can't be with you. I cannot imagine the pain and I don't want to go through such pain. It might kill me I think. I too have the same question. Shui do love hurts?

coz it affects the heart.. also the mind... heheh

Love is the most beautiful feeling one can ever have and even a thousand times more beautiful when shared and given back.. ^_^ All the best to you Sheeny.

I'm sorry to hear that but thats love sheeny.. Always remember this: NO ONE IN THIS WORLD EXPERIENCED LOVE WITHOUT PAIN! That is the phrase I'm always saying to myself whenever I'm hurt because of love.. Nobody is perfect, and there's no single thing in this world that is permanent.. Think about this, you love someone because you want him/her to be happy, not because for a selfish reason that you just want to be happy. But if you're thinking that this person is not worthy anymore for the love you give, then I must say, you're not in love with this person anymore and it's time to let go of this love.

It hurts if you expect something from it. That's a lesson we should all learn in having relationships cause there are many times that we get hurt and we dont even learn the lesson about it. The thing is, we should have an emotional reserve and not trust 100% percent.

It's because you have connected your life with that someone. You have made him a part of you that's why a change or an absence of him will really make you feel incomplete. To love is to give a part of your life. Once two people entered a relationship, it's like giving half of their lives to each other, two become one. It would really leave a pain to your heart once your partner changes or gone. You would really feel the emptiness. It would take time for that wound to heal but when you find someone new who is willing to mend or complement the lost part of you, then it would really help for your wound to get healed faster. I know you feel so much pain right now, you should analyze the situation, if you think your relationship still has a chance, go for it, but if it's already cannot be fixed, then it's time to move one and take some time healing the pain. Take care of yourself.

Love should not hurt. Love is suppose to be a beautiful feeling. People cause the pain that hurts the love. I think that when this form of feeling is started we need to re-assess the love and reconsider if the person is worthy of continuing to love. I have been in this situation and granted waited too long to make sure I was not continually hurt. It is best to determine if the person is worthy of continuing on or without because once time/years elapse they do not return.

Love hurts because we tend to love someone and never leave some for ourselves. We build our world around them and when it collapse, we have nothing left...But I think that's love, full of sacrifices, love is not selfish. Love till it hurts as they say...