When asked for a help, I become helpless….

Hi thanks, It depends on your friendship with this girl. If both of you are good friends then you may have the freedom to talk, in that case you can help your male friend. Since you don’t know about the real reason of their break up, you should ask your friend (male) what was the issue in between them. However, I really don’t understand why he can’t talk directly. It will be the best way to avoid the misunderstanding if any there and they can make the path smooth.

hello thanks, If you knew the girl personally then why not help your friend. If i were in your shoes,i will help my friend. I will have a talk with the girl and asks if she still love him,as simple as that. And would also asks is she's willing to reconcile with him once more. Now,if the girl's reply is positive,that would be fine,but if it's negative,that's sort of a little problem. Whatever the response from the girl,at least you have done your part as a friend. If the girl's response is negative,it's up to your friend to make the move. Ask your friend to personally approach the girl,anyway,it is his affair,so he should be the one personally has to resolve it. But then again,being a friend giving some help would be a great opportunity to do. Just give it a try,and hope everything will be fine and positive and they may lived happily ever after. happy weekdays

Iam a romantic at heart i would tell her.

Sorry to jump into your discussion...but you know what? I would tell your friend if he is really interested in her...to go and ask her himself! after all is not your problem...and at the end of the day I think he has not right to ask any one to do his job for him!

First of all, I have a really hard time believing that a fellow who is looking up an old flame for the express purpose of jumping into a marriage with her is actually ready for such a step. That just reeks of getting into such a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Ex's are usually an ex for a reason, so I don't know all the ins and outs of this relationship, but I'd just say that he would be a lot better off seeking her out as a friend first and seeing where things go from there. As to your part in this seeking of reignite an old flame? Tread carefully. If he was just wanting to get in touch with her I would say for for it, but it sounds like he wants you to play matchmaker for him and expects you to make sure all goes as he would like. I've been put in this situation before and it just put me in the position of being the bad person when things didn't go the way the guy wanted them to. This one guy I had grow up with looked me up on Facebook about a year ago and we started talking about old times when he looked through my friend's list and saw my little sister. He liked was he saw and asked me to set something up. Now, I know my sister and I knew that this was not going to end well. My little sister does not go for serious relationships, and she is into a lot of bad stuff. So I told him. He told me that he didn't care, he could change her and she would marry him when all was said and done. So, I went ahead and arranged a meeting. True to her style my sister did what she always did and he was heart broken. He also refused to talk to me for a very long time over it so I was hurt too, because I had lost a childhood friend. Another occasion. I knew these two people at my college that were seeing each other. The girl was in the same program as I, but she was not doing very well, and she ended up washing out and signing up for another program at the same school, but it had different hours. So the guy asked me to talk to her when I saw her and let her know that he still liked her. But, I never saw her so when I relayed this information to him he got very irate and threatened violence on me at school! Thankfully I had the wherewithal to laugh and point out the stupidity of that plan. But, it makes me very wary to play that go between for two people. I'd rather just give the guy the needed information to make contact and duck out, so that I don't feel responsible for what happens either way.

You can't really what her reaction would be as you don't really know why they broke up in the first place. And you never know, she might still be in love with him. And think about it, it won't hurt if you ask her because it's not to do with you anyway. You should just go ahead and ask her if worse comes to worst at least it doesn't really involve you but if things turn out really good then you should feel good about it as you helped them find happiness.

I would not involve myself to that extent if I were you. It sounds like it got messy in the past and if it gets messy again you will be caught right in the middle this time. If it were me I would simply tell the girl that your friend was asking about her. Pass along his number and leave it like that. This way you are giving them the game to play. You re-connected them then stepped back and let them decide from there!

Hi thanks: I am not sure if you have to do it. This depends. Do you think that your friend would do the same for you? Specially because I am not sure if they are sucha good match. His reaction when they break up was leaving? I don't think that's mature. But if he feels sorry for doing that and you consider a good friend you can take the risk and talk about him to this girl. And maybe some days after you knew if she still felt interested you can talk to her about how your friend is feeling and that he wants to make her comeback. ALVARO

IF your friend is serious about the girl, he should do the talking on his own, and not getting u to help him out with it. He lacks sincerity in doing so. After all, u are not the one marrying the girl, and why should u help? Since this particular girl is someone he likes, he should make an effort to secure her. There's nothing wrong in marrying someone he likes, and he should conquer his fear for his future.

Your friend should get marriage if she is ready. But I think she will not agree or may be here positive thinking is must and you should approach her. Because try every thing always successful.

hi friend, no other way of knowing all your questions unless you re link them back , seems like you hold the key to whatever the outcome would be, so just tell her your friend's intentions or tell the girl, I mean do both and let nature take it's own course, good luck to all of you

hello thanks, Since the guy is your friend and you know the girl personally why don't you give a try maybe they still love each other and this is the time for them to reconcile , just want to ak this proposals you mentioned is some kind of arrange marriage? (just curious) happy mylotting

Hi Thanks1962, you are saying that you know the gal personally and the guy is your fried... In that case its its difficult to say no to ur friend and also its difficult to speak to the gal about this... But when the guy wants the girl really if he loves her truely i think its better you make them meet directly(some how) and you friend should convience the gal, instead of you speaking and conviencing the gal... This wolud be of great help to ur friend also the credit of rejoining the couple will be urs... you just make them meet each other let they discuss the rest, this is my suggestion think if its rt or not and decide...

hi. as you are so close to her just just arrange a meeting to both your friend and her so that they talk to each other and they can remember those days which they had spend when they are in the same office so that they can build their relationship and later he can propose her..

Dear friend, If you are confident enough to make the matter to better position then why to hesitation just go head. Moreover if they both love each other I feel it would be easy for you. Still if they are in way to get married, I feel it would be better to consult with both families, moreover if you know their families will not put this into a mess. I feel it may depend upon these two persons acceptance to your words. Anyhow wish you all the best.

Hi sweetie. My personal advice and feelings about this. Stay out of it. He can either call her or go see her. You will get stuck in the middle and the messenger always get shot. He want her, he can talk to her. No offense.

Hi Thanks I like others would suggest that you have a chat with the girl atyour office about this. Do not give any word that you will talk about this with the girl to the boy. Once you know what actually got them separated or what went wrong (if there was anything or it was only what you thought) then, if things seem heading the right way you can discuss and help the friend. My way is a slower one and would take time as you are trying to ascertain the possibilities if any but without finding out the possibilities and the reasons it would be unwise to commit anything (that you will help or not) to anyone as both are friends of yours.

Hi thanks I don't see why not. I think you can talk to the girl and be completely objective about your approach, you certainly do not want to seem to her like you are forcing anything. But a few kind words about your friend might just re-spark her interest. This will also perhaps put some closure to your friend. If the girl is completely opposes then at least you can calmly speak to your friend and let him know so that he can put closure there Best of luck with this because you are being entrusted as a good friend and it can be a bit difficult. But you can do it.

Well, the ball is in your hands , so make good on it. Actually, you can talk to the girl about her former boyfriend winning her back. Try to entice the girl on the good qualities of her former boyfriend. Maybe she hasn't married because she's still pining for him to come back. So i guess, you should also try to help them reconciled. If they will be back in each other's arms , it will be a great help from you and you should be proud of it.