Am I falling out of love?

I don't think you're falling out of love so much as the excitement of "the pursuit" is gone now. It sounds like when you were pursuing a new boyfriend and it was a challenge for you. You were the one doing all the work, trying to have his attention, hoping to create a relationship. Then, when you told him he wasn't making any effort, he started to do what you asked of him. Now that you have him in your life, you're not particularly interested. Once relationships are no longer new, the shine and the lust sort of dulls down and it becomes calmer, less emotional... or the "highs" are outnumbered by the "every day" experiences. That's not a bad thing... in fact, I'd say it's pretty normal :) That's when you have established a more solid relationship with one another. Unfortunately, it seems like the thrill of the chase is gone for you, though, and you don't like what you caught :( How long have you been in a relationship with him?

First of all, I commend your partner for having noticed what changed in you. He noticed it, it could mean that he appreciates how you text and call him every day, making a move almost all of the time. As I am not an advocate of broken relationship and I would like to assume that you are not really and actually falling out of love. My dear friend, LOVE is not a matter of emotion, not a matter of feelings, not a matter of feeling that your heart beats faster when he is around, its more a matter of decision. Decision to stay in a relationship with or without him sending you a message, decision to continue doing good things for him without any expectations of returns, decision to just trust, respect and care for him without him showing any slight hint of reciprocating such acts. My friend, a mature love is mainly and really a DECISION. A good definition of love is in 1 Corinthians 13 www.biblegateway.com/passage/search=1+Corinthians+13&version=NIV God bless you! Have a great life! May God's hand be upon your relationship. "When you die, relationships don't."

In my opinion about your case. You feel that way. Because your being curious at first and not feel to falling in love with the guy...that is why when the guy change. You feel unhappy due to that aspect...now you confuse because the love that you expected is not really a love but curiosity

Falling out of love may not be the reason you are feeling this way. It is so easy to fall into a routine. Try doing something different for yourself or your partner. See if that doesn't do something to change the way you are feeling about your relationship.

Well, truthfully, you never Fell in love! What I mean is, you don't fall in or out of love because love is a choice, it's not a feeling. Obviously there is attraction and infatuation at the start, but Love, true Love, is a choice. If you only go by your feelings, you'll never have a relationship because even in the best of relationships, there are some things you simply can't find in a mate. Anyways, my point is, if you Love him, then it's a matter of choosing beyond your feelings. Ask yourself, 'Can I spend the rest of my life with this person?' If you can't answer that question honestly and truthfully, you might wanna reconsider your relationship. God bless you

I felt that way after putting in so much effort and not recieving the same from the other end. I sulked to and told my boyfriend I was feeling unappreciated and in the boat alone. He insisted that I didn't feel that way and then thing changed like your boyfriend did and my boyfriend started putting in more effort but I kinda lost interest too mostly because I felt like this was something I didn't have to bring to his attention for him to have to change but I think he should have felt that way from day one. I'm still trying to put all my feeling and emotions back like they were and sometimes I even pray to God that he could renew that feeling for me because I don't want to lose my boyfriend in order to start feeling that way because he might be gone and then it'll be too late.

i disagree about the, when you get comfortable with each other specially when youve been together for a long time can be mistaken of falling out of love. when you fall out of love that is clear. you might not accept the fact that you are falling in love but the signs are all clear. when you no longer enjoys that person's company and you no longer miss that person that much then i guess that is a falling out of love sign. i am married for 8 years now and we live together for three years before getting married so i dont believe that you can mistaken falling out of love of too comfortable. she still miss me when i am away and i still miss her too. we still send each other tex messages when i am at work or just out on an errand. i feel sad to here that you are in a situation like this, but you need to work it out or just talk about it, there might still be a chance on getting that love back. by the way welcome also to mylot hope you like it here.

I think you are currently feel bored because you are running and doing something that is routine. Maybe you just need time for reflection and solitude ..... Don't to be confused or feel wrong in this thing .. we all can feel bored and that's feel only can be lost when we can relax while contemplating what we expect from something we do routinely

You are not exactly falling out of love. There really comes a time in our relationships, when we become complacent with it. But when the relationship becomes threatened, that's the time when our sleeping feelings would be revived. We only realize the importance of things when they are about to be lost.

Hello geri! i think you are not falling out of love. You are just kind of at rest because of the much effort that you have made in the past and right now your lover is the one who is doing much effort because it seems it is his turn. I think both parties should give and take and that is what is happening to both of you. Just relax and you will find out soon maybe your the one who will be assertive again :)

your just being bored... not falling out of love... just persevere gal...

This situation often happens to people :-) I think it's because the people becomes boring to always striving for some who does not care :-D

ur not falling out of love ur just bored start going on dates with him again and enjoying ur time spent with eachother and have fun