Are You Capable Of Fixing You?

As you said, it is easier for people to see other people's flaws than to see their own. Even the biblical scriptures speaks about fixing yourself before you try fixing some other person's flaws. I think if we are set in our ways it is difficult to change. However, change for anyone is possible if you really want to change. Some people may need professional help to break the habit of fixing everyone else's problem.

I'm always fixing myself, and trying to improve myself in certain areas. Right now i'm working learning self-control which is very important for all people. I'm also learning to control my anger.

I am guilty of plenty of things and I am like you I don't need a prescription to help me I am normally always happy and joking around and most the time in a good mood, even when things are bad, but I try to keep my head up during hard times, I have wanted to change many things in my life and still do but it is very hard to do, I am me and always will be. I have people telling me to change my ways but I can not listen to anyone but me I will always be me and the person I am Life is too short to take sh...t seriously all the time! Have a good day and hope you have a good one.

I've been reading a bit of this--- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming An interesting read if you're into self-improvement and all. If you take time and read the article, you'll find out a lot of things you may not know of.

I am. When I am judging I always ask my self: oh yeah? and who the hell you think you are? and become little humble again, it's so easy to look at someone else doing something I would never do and yet, that person is way better than me in something else. I was a very coward child, I would even say excuse me when I was the one being pulled. I fought for years to change that, even to shake my self in fear to confront thing. One day I came to Japan and they bully because of racism, because I wasn't japanese...I took it for months without end and one day I realize I wasn't afraid of getting killed or something, I reacted, one by one I was facing those groups and it came. The good thing is that I never gave up in having courage. I hated my self so much for being afraid of everything.

the hardest thing to do in life is to fix your own, have you ever seen a broken radio fixing itself, i really don't know when thing were broken,electrician can fix it, a broken road, the engineer can fix it, broken tooth dentist were there, when you're injured definitely the doctors can fix it, so in everything you need someone because you can't see the whole you even if you look at the mirror

Hi Ezra and welcome to my lot. A good discussion. You are right none of us are without flaws. There was only one person ever born that didn't have any flaws and what did we do to HIM? We put HIM on a cross and killed HIM! Yes I can see what is wrong with me and know how to fix it. I know I have many faults and am trying to fix them all but I can't be prefect so I will fix what I can and be happy that God gave me what HE gave me and will try to do my best to be good to others and that is all I can do. After all you can't teach an old dog like me any new tricks....LOL Been there done that!

You know that is a rather good question. And the fact remains that we are a lot easier to look at the flaws of others, because it is something that we are not biased for. We see things as they truly are, for better or for worse. Plus there is that ingrained approach in our life, where we wish to help others, no matter what the circumstances are. However, ourselves, that is another matter entirely. It just is really unfortunate but it is very true that we are often times the last people who really do see something that is wrong about ourselves. Often, we are blind to the things that are wrong, mostly because we see only what we want to see. And it is plainly obvious that the last thing that we want to see is something wrong with our own lives.

Oh, WOW, this really hits home for me. I consciously try to change into a better person and ask people for honest opinions. I used to be selfish and took advantage of people and it didn't feel good, so that's what got me on the road to "fixing myself up". People has told me I've come a long way, but others don't, now I seem like I'm constantly trying to improve myself as fast as I can in order to prove to people that I'm not the same kind of person as I used to me. It's a bitter pill to swallow, because I still bear the stigma of being "not right in the head" (I have mental illness that Io'm on medication for). I know I'm not perfect, but well...I WANT to be perfect, I WANT people to see that I'm not the evil selfish brat who is nothing but a burden. *sigh* It's a life-long process, I suppose. At least I'm aware, and I'm proactive, though, I can definitely take comfort and that :-)

I am an open minded person. Anything, that is perceived as wrong with me and my attention was called, would be taken with grain of salt. I take them as constructive criticism, which i know i need to correct for my betterment. I also know what my flaws are and i am trying to overcome them. Should others would tell me about it, i would inform them i am trying to correct them.