How to get rid of toxic anger caused by bitterness and a devastated ego?
By gelayagui98
@gelayagui98 (1336)
Australia
March 28, 2011 8:21pm CST
It is easy to find yourself filled with anger when your spouse or lover has dumped you for another woman. especially if you are feeling a lack of control over the direction your life has taken. The feelings are justifiable and understandable, but that doesn't mean anger should become the driving emotion in your life?
4 responses
@saibal10 (89)
• India
29 Mar 11
The example you cited is really matter related to emotion which is hardest thing to control. But never you can move a betrayer in the right way because he should not be considered as a good friend of human being. So try to keep your mind calm and quite and then God will help you to find your way.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
29 Mar 11
You have a good opinion saibal, understanding the motivation behind someone else's action can help alleviate the anger you feel toward that person. You may not agree with what he or she is doing, but delving into his reason for doing it , and understanding his emotional frame of mind, helps you replace some of your feelings of anger with empathy.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
Yes I would be mad and that would make me forget him easily I think. I can control my anger and I can just pack his bag and tell him to leave the house or I will along with our son. then I can just move on with my life. Forget him and focus my attention on other things. But what really would trouble me is thatbif he leaves me suddenly without a reason at all.
I don't know how my life would go on when one day I would open my eyes and he's no longer beside me and all his things gone. Especially when he just told me he loves me and there's no problem between us at all. That would really make me go crazy.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
29 Mar 11
Adjust your expectations, you expected your marriage to last and your spouse to be around forever. Those are reasonable expectations and your anger is understandable. You need to get angry and get over it because to continue hoping that your expectations will be met. You have to adjust. Learn to live with the hand you are dealt, and move on with your life.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
when you loved someone so much and they dumped you in favor of another person that only means that they don't want to be loved so much then just let them go, they don't deserve you and don't waste your time and love for someone who wasn't worth for you, things always happen for a reason maybe there's a much more better who will come by in your loved that will return as much love as your love
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
29 Mar 11
Yes xien2xien if that will be the case, it is better for you to separate ways than to continue loving him knowing that he is not capable for your love. If you really believe in God, God give you much much better than him.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
If you are still young life must go on and so they still have a long way in pursuing their dream, however if your life is ruined at the weak and helpless time of yours what you can only do is to bear with it in pain, and just find comfort with your children and of course in serving GOD for the rest of your time, for HE is only our refuge against all miseries.
