The reason behind a Man's TEARS
By xien2xien
@xien2xien (1382)
Philippines
March 28, 2011 9:00pm CST
Women are always soft hearted that even with a simple reason we do express our feeling in crying, when we are happy we do cry, the tears of joy, when we are hurt we also cry. But being a girl, it bothers me a lot when a man cry, when you look at them they were so tough and tall and strong and you can't imagine that they can cry for any reason.
Here's the deal, i'm making my way out of a relationship last night, my boyfriend called me i can tell by the way he talk that he's crying, so i press the end button. After one hour by boyfriend is knocking at my door, i open up and he was asking why i'm broking up with him, he's totally wasted and he was crying. I can't say anything why do i always felt sorry when my man cries, i easily felt guilt and my heart softened, so i just said go home, fix yourself i don't want to see you like that, you're a mess and broken, let's talk about this tomorrow. I finally convince him, he looked at me with a teary eyes then smile a bit and said "I Can't Live Without You, let's fix this tomorrow please".
Why did a man always cry when a girl is broking up with them, what's wrong with you TOUGH GUYS? What did i do to make you cry? I'm just trying to broke up with him last night it's the end of relationship and not the end of the world.....
6 responses
@niluhputu960 (98)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 11
The answer for your question "why did man always cry when a girl breaking up with him" it' s also related why girl always cry when guy breaking up him" . It show how much he loves you, how much meaning you for him in his life. Only love can makes guys cry, no matter how strong, big, intellectual. You will face that thing when you meet someone who really loves you so much, it will take time for him to realize that you can not be him anymore. Give the reason why you want to break up, for you as the person who break the relationship will not feel how much your boyfriend feel but just try to understand him, and give him a chance.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
every break up comes from one single reason.... i don't love him the way i used to love him before.... if i do love him why would i wanted a break up.... i'm considering his feeling for a long time, but what kind of break up would not let him get hurt? all kind and ways of break up will surely break his heart, i'm looking for a semi-pained break up
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
new boyfriend? please to take a quick look on my previous discussion please.... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2506255.aspx that explains everything
@niluhputu960 (98)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 11
You are right, love it should be 2 person who loves each other. The fastest way to get a rid of him by taking a new boyfriend, which will make him understand, that your relationship is over. You can say to him, you don't wan to hurt him anymore as you can feel that love again in you, you don't want to crash the relationship when it's settled, it will be more hurt than now.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Mar 11
I believe perhaps he is being sincere and not ready to let you go. I can understand you wanting to let him go and he not want to. I remember your older discussion and feel you need sometime alone to think.
I do hope all goes well with you and you can get past this for now. If you decide later you want to be him, that certainly is your decision do not make any decisions solely with what others think.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Reason why I mentioned not to be influenced just to imply to go with what you feel. As far as trying to fix, sweetie take it one day at a time. You can friend him and make it clear to him that perhaps you will see what time will dictate as far as if and if there will be a you two in the future.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
i don't care what others will think im just concered with his feeling, i wanted to break with him - okay granted true, but i'm not a heartless who will be rude about his feeling he's nice to me enough for me to take care of his feeling. i don't know later he will catch me up after work and we'll talk about fixing something i don't like to be fix, i hate to fix the relationship but i like to fix his heart... how will i do that?
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
you're suggesting that later tonight i will try to fix things and be in a good mood with him then make friend with him then what? when he thinks that we are in good term he will just fall in love more deeply and make it more harder to break up when things are rough in my side.... i don't know ma'am, i've done this before i mend his broken heart then while were talking about things i nicely told him that i needed space. but then again he won't let go of me
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
30 Mar 11
If your boyfriend was crying to you, it could mean one of two things:
1) He was completely wasted, as you suggested, and couldn't control his emotions, OR
2) He is completely human, as he should be, and doesn't worry about trying to control his emotions, thus using them in a healthy manner.
I really think society puts too much pressure on men to be inhuman. People cry. It happens. Personally, I'm less emotional than my husband, and therefore cry less often. At the same time, it doesn't mean my husband needs to grow up, nor does it mean he's overly depressed and needs to learn to handle things better. He's a man, yes, but he's also human.
Years ago, my husband and I had a few arguments that seemed to end up like the one you mentioned above. I get angry, my husband gets sad. He'd end up crying and telling me just how much I meant to him, and how much he enjoyed life with me. If you can get past society's disgusting boundaries and simply look at a crying man, one of whom you love, you may just find that it is one of the most sad and beautiful sights you will ever see. Nothing affects me more than seeing my husband cry. It seems to break down the world around me until the only thing that matters is making him feel better.
To you, maybe breaking up with him wasn't the end of the world. You could still mean the world to him. If this is true, then I think you both need to move on...you need to find a man who has yet to come to terms with emotions, and he needs to find someone who will see him as a beautiful individual despite the way he reacts to things. A man who cries...now THAT is a man.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
hello xien,
Ending up with a relationship with the person you really love is not that easy I like your man not because he cried but the guts to express his feelings with a tears is a tough one not all men can show this kind of attitude some of them will drink and act wasted when a relationship ended because this is how they prefer to release their emotions.
If the reason of breaking up is just a small thing and can still fix have talk and try to fix things up .
happy mylotting
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
hello bhabycatch, maybe you can visit my previous discussion for you to know the reason of break ups.... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2506255.aspx
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2507231.aspx ........ after reading that i guess you can be mad at me or you can wish for my boyfriend to move on and just leave me alone.... happy mylotting too
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
i am not in the position to judge you or get mad at you it's your life whatever your decision will be i hope you can face all the consequences later on
you are just enjoying your life in your own way but sometimes we need to consider soemone's feelings too.....
have a nice day ahead .
(Is it possible to have a Mylot Singles Conference soon?)
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
i would definitely love to be single and if ever attend in the mylot singles conference wahahahhah. thanks for understanding my situation, and don't worry i'm always thinking on their feeling that's why i'm committing all for the blame so that they won't get bitter in the end, i just hate it when they cry, they were like a baby who cries everytime they don't get what they want.
@blahokay1 (84)
• United States
29 Mar 11
this is a really sad story, I am a guy, and I have always cried extremely easy to emotional pain and sadness. The last part of your explanation makes yourself seem quite self-centered. It is the end of the world for him. He obviously loved, and still does love you very much.
One thing you should look to understand is that guys often have much stronger emotions, and can be hurt much more easily, than anybody thinks. We can hide them easily, and when cloak it with physical strength. One old friend of mine killed himself over a girl. He was planning to marry her, but she broke up with him very abruptly and out of nowhere.
I hope you can understand your boyfriend's pain, and I hope you two sort that out well.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
although i didn't experienced being cheated by a man, and i never cried for a man before, i do also have something or someone that i wanted and not wanting me, but i always stick in my mind that if they don't like or love me the way i wanted it to be, they they don't deserve me, if i'm breaking up with my boyfriend why does he have to cry why does he don't think that i'm worthless and doesn't deserve his love, why put it in a complicated situation
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
It only means that he loves you so much. You're lucky to have a boyfriend like that...
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
29 Mar 11
thanks i know i'm always lucky to have a man like them but it's that they are don't lucky to have me, it's just me who has a problem with myself