Just FOOLED and CHEATED
By zaga_cleuth
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
Philippines
March 29, 2011 11:13am CST
Why is it that fooling and cheating is so usual in any relationship? I just broke up with my long distance boyfriend this morning. I trust him so much that I don;t even mind what he usually do, or with whom he usually go with. I don't know. Maybe our relationship is really not that well. Or should I say, its not working anymore.
But, the thing is, what I really hate most is that, he told me that he was fooling and cheating me from the very beginning. So I just said ok..Since, I know I have nothing to do about it.
It hurts, yes! but I can't let myself cry because of much emotion. I don't wanna cry for that, not worth it. We said goodbyes as if nothing happens, as if theres no me and him before. Then we talk like ordinary friends.
I don't know if it is normal, but I guess what I did was best for me and him.
But, I just wanna tell every mylotters, please respect your partner, don't fool them, cheat them, believe in karma. One day it will beat you much as you beat your partner.
Don't play with love. Or else it will play you.
I may be broken hearted, but I know, there's a better future ahead of me. That's why I'm still HAPPY:)
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9 responses
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Girls, especially seem to trust their partners to be faithful, in my opinion, that is just not going to happen. I think guys just cheat...If you don't know where they are are what they are doing, must of the time, and that is impossible, they will cheat. So, if you are in a relationship, you just have to expect that possibility that your heart will get broken. Now, some will not agree with this, but I say, " just give it time and you too will experience it" or you maybe in a situation like that but just haven't realized it. Long distance relationships are the worse kind of relationship to think that your partner will be faithful. Sometime we walk into a fire, even though we know it will burn it; having a long distance relationship is one of those fires.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Since is has told you what he is doing, the ball is now in your court. In other words, you have to decide if this guy worth hanging on to? Or are you willing to let go, hurt for awhile, then, with lesson learned, move on with your life?
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
17 Apr 11
Yup, in fact, he is now asking me if I will still accept him despite of he did to me. Now, he wants me back. I don't know what made him change his mind. I'm still thinking if I'll love him the same as I do before or if I have to accept him back or not.
I'm confuse.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Ouch. That's kinda hurt. ;(
Being in a long distance relationship is really another stone hitting on my head. Just because it makes me think of him more often, though I trust him. Yup, truth really hurts. A lot of temptations can really take him and so I open myself for that.
Although I have this feeling that he is cheating on me, I still close my eyes. Not thinking about it. What hurt is when he already told me about all his $#i+ . But, atleast he is honest to me for the last time.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Being in my relationship for me currently has been a beautiful and wonderful one. Granted I have had my own mishaps in the past with others and have been heart broken and hurt by them.
This still did not impinge me from being completely open and honest with the one I have been with now for 6 years. I agree with you when you say do not fool, hurt and cheat on them because regardless if I am with a close and or long distance relationship, this is not something I have ever contemplated on doing.
Respect and trust are two key factors required to be in a good relationship. I am sorry you had to experience this and although I have never been in a long distance relationship I do know what the feeling is like.
I am glad you are happy and feel you can move on. I feel everyone anywhere deserves love. So I wish you continual happiness, love and peace.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Congratulations hardworkinggurl for having a good realationship:)
Yup, everybody deserves to receive love and give love. And so, since I'm still young I know there are still a lot somewhere else that could me the love I needed, whom I can love too.
Though circumstances like this happened to me, I still open myself for any opportunities that will come. I may be hurt but, it taught me something. I learned from it, and so I still consider it as one of my best relationship.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Thank you my friend and I happy you returned to your discussion. I see many of your comments and find them very positive. I will help you along the way by rating them positive. Happy myLotting and hope to have further interactions!
@cheekaboo (28)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
Obviously he is someone who isn't worthy of your tears nor your love. Good thing you walked away from the relationship. There are still good men out there so don't lose hope. You'll meet the one for you in time.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Yup. I won't lose hope. Never will I. I have this saying in mind. There's "lot of fishes in the ocean". And so I'm a fisherwoman, patient is a virtue. :)
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
31 Mar 11
For him to say this after your relationship has ended is not your problem. I think he just brought himself down by being a fool and a cheat! Him being an imperfect person does not reflect on you.
So, take the high road, and don't mind him. Even if it hurts, you know you'd be better because you are a better person.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I like that.
I will better cuz Im better. Thanks for that Bounce58.
Everything will be ok. :)
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
That's the spirit girl, keep it up! Your anger has overpowered your feeling of loss, that's why you didn't cry.
Usually, long distance relationships don't prosper. The fact that they don't see each other, the tendency of any of the party is to try to console themselves in the absence of the other partner. We are humans and we have the tendency to get lonely.
On the other hand, the cheated party have no way of knowing it, no matter how much the other keeps saying that he is not cheating etc. So, given the longest time in consoling themselves, they fall for the nearest one they are always with.
Well, i based that on my experience from my previous boyfriends during my single days.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
True. But the thing is he is still single til now. It's just that he played with me through internet. He has a lot of girlfriends online. But not real like me. He's afraid to love me for real that's one of his big reason. So what he did is played with other girls online. And since he cannot carry those loads in his mind he admitted everything to me.
Thanks for your encouraging words simplyd:)
@revtee (30)
•
30 Mar 11
Bein fooled and cheated is vry common today and I have seen that bad things happen to people who are good and honest!!!!! Cheaters would cheat...its their habit. But what they dont realise is that their fooling around can destroy lives! And obviously no one has the right to play with anyone else's life.
Even I have been fooled and cheated but now it actually quite dosen't matter coz I am used to such kind of behaviour since a long time! Once one of my friend had said that "IF YOUR EX IS DUMB ENOUGH TO DUMP YOU, BE CLEVER ENOUGH TO MOVE ON...." He was quite right but moving on is not quite easy....I tried a lot and have left trying.....i have left everything to time coz i have heard "time heals all wounds". But I know it can't heal my wound. Deep wounds can be healed but partially....the mark stays on forever!!!!!
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Oh well, sad, that's the thing, it's really hard to move knowing that he's part of me before. But, everytime I think of being angry and having hatred with him it sounds so pathetic that's why i always end up accepting. But that helps a lot. It helps me to move on easily.
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
30 Mar 11
Yeah you are right. There are much cheating and fooling other is there in long term relation. I also get cheated by a girl around two years ago and still I feel pain inside me which is not letting me stay with anybody peacefully. Even I am fighting with life to live other wise I get much difficulty in passing time where ever I am. One should not give this much pain to other which they can't bear for themself...
Keep yourself tight for every situation ahead and expect a nice future, work for that and that is the best answer which you give to the cheating which has been done with you..
Thanks..
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Oh I hope one day someone could take away your pains sincere4frdship.
I'm hurt yes. But, what's so nice about my emotion is that, I didn't hide any anger in my heart. That's why I can easily move on. It's not that I don't care much about it, but I have this feeling that , if he is happy for his decision then I'll be happy for him.
All I do is to let him be happy. Cuz by that, one day I'll find my own happiness too. By letting him go. By letting myself go too. Parting ways means a new start. And that's what keeps me going.
@jenzai (388)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
That is the spirit girl. I can relate with your feeling because i am also facing the same dilemma. I don't want to give it up with out an evidence that indeed their is cheating. I'm still thinking that it is his work that keep him busy not the other way around. I also believe in karma, and that if indeed he is making fool of me God will guide me into the truth. I believe in your claim that no matter what kind of set up everyone in a relationship sense of respect and loyalty is important.God bless you.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I pray for you Jenzai.
I just can't understand why girls like us can't open our eyes in what's the real thing is all about in terms of relationship. We always have the feeling that guys are cheating us yet, we still believe in what guys are saying. We believe in foolish lies.
I hope you'll not experience the same ending with mine.
@Sydalg242811 (380)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Mar 11
halu zaga,
i admired you becoz you set him free with a kindness heart,in your part he his lucky having you but he lost you( poor guy).yaps it's true my dear,as long as you loved him all your faithful loved,it's his consience will pay for what he had done unto you becoz according to your statement from the beggining he makes fool unto you,my GOD where is his heart.there are many people who hurts who loved them truly, and if they lost it,they found that they need it but it's too late anymore...
you are a good fighter my dear,yes life is beautiful and he's not the kind of man who can stop your world.Good luck and GOD BLESS
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Thanks Sydalg very much.
We're now friends as if nothing special between us before. Though I miss how we talk like boyfriend girlfriend still I'm loyal to him as a friend. We promised that we'll still be with each others side.
Honestly, what hurts me more is not that he cheated me, but the idea that, he is a christian man, and he's handling children's ministry. So, how could he handle these children if he can't handle his life too.
Sad. But, all I can do now is pray for him and for me.
Happy mylotting.
