myLot, the ultimate NAG!!
By dragon54u
@dragon54u (31634)
United States
March 30, 2011 9:09am CST
We all hate to be nagged. We might have spouses that nag us about chores left undone or bosses that nag us about projects--myLot beats them all.
Have you ever come to that screen "add this interest" and just threw up your hands and screamed "Yes, YES!! Just QUIT ASKING!!!" So you gave in and added that interest even though you had no interest in it?
I have what seems to be hundreds of "interests" that I could not care less about. But because my friends create discussions in that interest frequently, myLot asks each and every time if I want to add it. And I eventually give in just to stop the nagging.
Now, I realize that software can't be customized to every person using it and I don't blame dear myLot for my irritation at all. But I'm wondering how many other people cave under the pressure of myLot's software's nagging?
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18 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I add them all since I am responding to an already discussion in the interest. I honestly have not thought about it twice just out of habit I have added it.
Since I am responding to such discussion it is something I suppose I have an interest with. So easy breezy dragon54u for me. lol
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I just added that interest due to a discussion I responded to. I never thought about it showing up on my profile page. Well, I have five children so I guess I was interested at one time.
I see your point.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
30 Mar 11
LOL, Debra!
I was interested at one time, too, but no longer. And I don't understand why so many people are so interested in it.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Did you know you can go to the interest section of your homepage and remove any you no longer want to show up on your profile. It perhaps may be a bit tedious to do, but I have edited mine from time to time when I do not want it on my profile.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
31 Mar 11
I do not add those interest which I cannot relate. I may reply to a discussion, however, if the end of it says - 'Like to be a married Woman', I cannot and won't say yes because am a male. I skip those 'interests' to which I cannot relate to and which does not fit into the bill.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
31 Mar 11
Me, too. But it gets irritating and yesterday when I posted this it just rubbed me the wrong way at the wrong time!
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
31 Mar 11
Oh, you can do that?! That's another big irritation for me!! If the originator of the discussion already tagged it, why should responders do so? I'm going to try that, thanks!
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@allknowing (137552)
• India
31 Mar 11
I am glad you asked. Suddenly out of the blue this question pops up the minute a topic is responded to. I have so many interests already listed and even that interest where I am asked if I would be interested in adding to my list would also be there. I have taken this in my stride and just say yes which is the fastest way to tackle this.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
31 Mar 11
It might be fast but someone looking at your profile might get the wrong impression of you. For instance, I added shopping because I was tired of being asked. Someone looking at my profile might think I'm a shallow creature that haunts the malls. The impression we give in our profile is important and that's why I'm careful about the interests I add.
@allknowing (137552)
• India
31 Mar 11
Now let me think. Which of the interests would I not be interested in? I can't think of any at the moment. I don't take this seriously as I have not gone that deep as you have but I feel there is a plus point here for me. I have been pretty lazy and have not done much homework in adding interests and when this happens, why not?
@allknowing (137552)
• India
31 Mar 11
One thing I am not clear about is will that interest which I would perhaps turn down pop up again and again, and again till I say yes?
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
31 Mar 11
I used to but not anymore. I did go in and delete a few interests, especially if they were duplicate. I do not feel like it is so much a nag as a pushy host or hostess.
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
31 Mar 11
Yes! Yes! And YES!!! And I resent it! It clutters up my time--& my profile!--with things I don't want! Some sites will stop asking once you turn down stuff. After all, if I really want something, all I have to do is go grab it! I don't see why MyLot can't have some sort of electronic trigger that tells them once & for all, "NO, I DON'T want this to be a "favorite" category just because I'm dropping in briefly, now stop ASKING me already!"
They don't nag for other things, so why this? I don't get asked every time if I want to make a friend of someone. I get asked, & if I turn it down, I don't get asked again! If I ask another site to remember my password & other info, it only asks once.
What is the point of pestering us over & over & over & over & over &...well, you get the point.
In answer to your question, there are about 3 categories I did cave on because I have a friend who--for reasons inexplicable to me--joined them, even though NONE of her posts seem to fall under those topics (?)--but I got tired of having it NAG me.
Perfect term, that, nag. I've been meaning to post about this myself. Thanks for doing it, if for no other reason than I feel better just having gotten this off my chest!
Maggiepie
"If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow & suffering enough to disarm all hostility. ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, poet (1807-1882)
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
31 Mar 11
You expressed my own frustration perfectly!
I love the Longfellow quote, it is so true.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
1 Apr 11
I've noticed we often think alike. I have a lot of quotes saved up for my sigs. Usually they aren't related to the contents of my posts, except coincidentally. Glad you enjoyed this one; it's one of my favorites!
Maggiepie
"In art, economy is always beauty." ~ Henry James
@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
16 May 11
Gee, Dragon! This is the 4th Best Response I've been blessed with recently--AND I went to a yellow (8) star! Tell me what I'm doing right, so I can keep doing it! Thank you so much, hon!
Maggiepie
"In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are consequences." ~ Robert Green Ingersoll, lawyer & orator 1833-1899
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
16 May 11
I think a lot of people are trying to catch up on best responses! I woke up at 5AM and couldn't get back to sleep so I decided to do some virtual housecleaning.
You communicate well. You let the person know that you understand the subject and how they feel then you relate your own experiences and make it humorous. I think that's why you're getting all these accolades today!
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
16 May 11
Thanks! THAT, I can keep doing; it comes naturally!
Maggiepie
“The strongest reason for the people to retain the right to keep & bear arms is, as a last resort, to protect themselves against tyranny in government.” ~ Thomas Jefferson
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
31 Mar 11
I just file that question in the part of my brain where I store the other annoying computer generator questions.It isn't nearly as annoying as the cable company's detailed instructions on how to re-boot when I call them about a problem.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Mar 11
it bugs the heck out of me to but guess i just have to endure it to stay here. its always pi$$ed me off. i know. theres tons that i have said ok that i dont even know what the heck it means.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Bunny, I did find out today that you can just close that window and your reply won't be affected. That's what I plan to do from now on.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I am sometimes taken by surprise when I see that screen pop up and add the interest without even reding what it really is. I have also added several just because I don't want to worry about it comoing up agian.
I understand why it is there, but it can get annoying, especially when I am in the "zone" of responding to discussions.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I am usually in a hurry--I write to make extra money and most of my day is spent doing that. Even though it only takes a few seconds, the "add this interest" and "tag this discussion" screens take valuable time from my work. It's irritating.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
30 Mar 11
I add these new interests as a test zone. When an interest is not in your list, you have no user rating in this interest, and so you can see if your "friend" is rating you positive or not rating you at all. It is the best test I have found to prefer some friends' discussions to other friends' discussions.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I've never thought of it that way but then, I'm not much interested in ratings. I do try to rate everyone I come in contact with here--I don't think I've ever rated someone negatively, it's all +'s!
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@RubiePerl (72)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I don't always add those interests, I think it is possible to just not even respond to that question.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I'll have to try closing the tab when that question is asked--I wonder if my reply will be lost? It would certainly make things easier for me if I could!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
2 Apr 11
No, I absolutely refuse. I will NOT say yes to an interest that is "Goals: Fell in love" and other such rubbish. The interests are primarily a joke and frankly, I'm embarrassed by them. They have been added to for the most part by idiots and myLot should have been editing them from the very beginning.
Grr!
Grr! &
Grr.
I hate the myLot Interests.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I always say no to crap like that, too! I have found that you can close the tab or window rather than say "no" and your reply will be saved. Having learned that, I'll be going through my interests this weekend and getting rid of drivel like that!
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
3 Apr 11
I just answer it no, not to add to my interests. Not a big deal. I am a very patient person so I guess I don't see it as nagging, like so many others do, as I have read in your page of responses. I actually think this discussion is quite funny, don't get mad at me, just my opinion, and the only reason I read it was to see what others had to say also.
I don't get nagged much in my life so it isn't a pet peeve for me when I do. I also am not a nagging person, now, but I used to be, according to my exhusband. I guess that's why he's an ex.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
4 Apr 11
I'm certainly not mad at you for being entertained by all this! It is kind of funny, the things we get irritated about. I just have so much to do during the day that seconds add up and turn into wasted minutes.
I've never been a nagger and hate it when something or someone keeps repeating a demand. I guess I need to de-personalize the software here and find ways to compensate, as I now have with this issue. It makes life easier!
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
3 Apr 11
I know what you mean. I have had a number of times when the system would ask me if I wanted to add an interest, but if it had to do with being a parent or something else I had no knowledge of, I would always say no. I wish there were a way that the programmers could design into the system that if someone said no once that it wouldn't keep asking. That way it wouldn't have to customize to each person, but it wouldn't keep asking the same person the same question many times. How would this suggestion be sent to the management of this site? Have a great day!!!
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@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
5 Apr 11
That's what I usually do. If I want to look at other responses, then I will hit "no thanks", but usually I just close the tab. Thanks for answering me! Have a great week!!!