When promises fails, how would you react to it?

That is true in todays world dear. Even I was kind of worried when my friend who met with the accident asked me for a promise. But yes, If there was a need, I would stand right up to the promise that I made to him - despite anything. People who have sufferred due to other's failures of abiding by their promises realize the importance of promises and would either do not make them or stand by them when the hour of need comes.

I just talked to Jaishankar (above) that one of my experience that happened last week. I had to travel to Kerala on an urgent basis, and I was short of cash. One friend who was supposed to give me some money and when I asked for, he said, go ahead I will deposit in my account. I repeatedly intimated that I am short of money and I will the same at that place and he given me 100% assurance and promised that he will do it for me. On this trust, I made my plans. [in fact my mother was not well and I had to take her to my brother's home and it was urgent and all the decisions took on an urgent basis, this guy agreed the money]. However, as he was of so sure, I made up my plans and when I come to city for certain works on the next day, I couldn't find any excess amount what he was promised. He really done the cheat on the promise and I was totally helpless where I fall out of cash. Though I managed the same with some other source, what this guy did was absolutely a cheat and such promises on money terms would totally cause to end up the friendship and such relations. In fact this was the inspiration behind me to come with this discussion. Any way, I think you are a determined person and know what the pains, if we fail to promises. Regards Thank-s

Hi Sid, Yes, that is the word, “we don’t care”, that is the product of the time. People really don’t care about their promises at most times. Sometime, they don’t even think how the other person’s effects when it is not get fulfilled. If we look back into history also, promises has higher values and promises has so much of strength and become hard enough when it considered in its respective meanings. When promises become trust and faith, people were ready to die even for the same. It sparked like jewels sometime when it get fulfilled. The mind blow with proud when it get fulfilled – and where as when it get breached – we lose the minds, good relations, life time companions, better wives and husbands and all, when it is getting wounded. I think "Promises are made to be broken", is purposely prepared to know what would be the result, if it happens. But I am sure that whoever is experienced must be cried sometime whenever they are alone, if they definitely had a mind, ever. Thank-s

I like your words. When the promise is fulfilled, it has its beauty. If we are aware that our promises cannot be fulfilled in any chance, if possible inform the other party in advance or whenever we get confirmed, it may be still better than braking the promises unfulfilled. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, Our approach and thoughts make the difference and leads to the formation of our individuality. If we know the impact of such things, we would always careful of such situations and whenever we are particular to keep our words fulfilled, we know what is what and how to deal with promises. Your words are nice and I think your parents are so good. Thank-s

When it comes to promises, we have to think a lot to maintain a relationships, when it is not get fulfilled. False promises in any way, destroys the trust and faith and all confidence on the person related to it will vanishes for ever. Some are not even care about their promises, while the other party would be keeping 100% trust on it. However, if the the promise and fulfilling goes hand in hand, we can see much more close relations. Unfortunately, people don't care and would not give enough value to their promises and it it become worthless and spoiling the relations. I some time used to think, why people come forward to give false promises sometime they know it will not get fulfilled and it is really cheating and breach of faith. Thank-s

Yeah. Very well said. Broken promises, false hopes means lying and lying means cheating. Either way, the other person gets hurt and crushed if a promise is broken. That is why I really hate to listen to promises given to me. I become doubtful at once and skeptic about them. I'd rather want it done than promised because it still hurts when you had your hopes up for nothing.

Hi dear, Thanks for your timely response. Yes, I think promises has so much of strength, if it get fulfilled and fails, we simply degrade our own values. Regards, Thank-s

Hi simply d: I think that's a hard response. We are humans and we make mistakes. I understand that this is not a comfortable situation but I'm sure I'll try to forgive this person if he / she is really sorry for not doing what he/ she has promised me. ALVARO

For me, saying sorry is not enough. I will surely forgive you but you have to make up for it by making good on what your next promise to me is, otherwise, i shall never believe you anymore, ever.

Hi dear, Thanks for your comments. As you said, errors are human and there may be exceptions and there is not issue if we give a second chance to rectify the mistake. However, people who value their integrity, would feel sorry for the error and they will apologies and would try to not to repeat the same again. Also, to maintain our reputation and good will, it is always welcome to be prompt on words, that make different from others, if we keep our words. Nice words and have a good day. Thank-s

Hi dear, When we talk about promises, the next word is breach of promise or fulfillment of promise. It always come associated. Some says promises are to be fulfilled and also says, promises are to break. But when it go hand in hand with promise and fulfill, it is a feeling of high level satisfaction for both the parties. A promise is end up when it get fulfilled. But in many times, we break it due to our circumstances and the consequences are so huge that we lose our faith and confidence, breaking of good relationships, hatred and revenge etc are the net result of breaking the same. However, if we make any commitment with regard to money, I think we should always careful to be fulfill it, or it can lead to bad consequences. Thank-s

Hi Star, As usual, now also you come with your nice words. What you said is really correct. Whenever I fail promises, and if it fails to fulfill, I feel deep sorry and I curse myself on the incident. Sometime, I could not express my feelings to the other person and I used to suffer a lot of tension and uneasiness due to the same. These days I do this way (not purposive) but the circumstances tempting to do so. However, people who know me, usually understands and they realize my position and won’t feel hurt. This makes me more problematic and they show their sympathy towards me. However, all that happened only few people didn’t their promises promptly and ditch on their way. When they didn’t fulfill their promises, the impact reflected me. I think all will be alright in some time, and TIME will understand and take care of me. Thanks for your nice words and have a good day. Thank-s

Hi dear, You are right. Promises are some kind of assurance and we should keep our word in prompt. If fails, it will hurt our self and others as well. Again, if it is related to money or finance, I strongly believe that, if we cannot keep our word, should not give assurance or promise otherwise it will cause breaking the relationships or the trust within each other. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, I agree with you. Promises are to be fulfilled otherwise we will ruin our reputation, confidence and trust. Regardless of with whom we do the promises, if possible we need to fulfill and or the relationship will not last long in good terms. Thanks for your comments and have a nice day. Thank-s

Hi Surekha, As you said, within the family and known close friends, we can understand and it can talk and finish with a friendly approach. But in general, we when we have obligations and commitments, especially when it comes to money and people who really depend on our words, the false promises make a lot of difference. If h/b says for a trip, a movie, a dinner and at the last moment if it get canceled, we can make arrangements for another occasion. But many things are not like that and we should have to be quite decent on this otherwise, we will spoil our reputation and good will among our dear and near ones. And also with the people who we deal with. Whenever we ditch with a promise, we are losing our chances to get better relations because others will measure our integrity through our behavior only. Thank-s

Hi dear, You are right. When a promises is broken, everyone would get irritated to and depend on the person, the impact also would be varied. As you said, if you are the person, you become mad and I think everyone consider the same. It is better to think that if there is a doubt on the promise, it is always come with a conditional promise so that in any chance we get fails, we can save our image on the conditions. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, Yes, I still believe that false promises has its own consequences. We will lose major values of people trust and confidence. If cannot keep our word in time, atleats inform prior in advance and which will give certain relaxation, even if we cannot fulfill the same. Especially when we give promises, we should make sure that we can do it and if not possible, better to not to go for it. Thanks for your comments. Thank-s

Hi dear, When we keep our promises in prompt, we will gain good will and our relationship get more close and affirm, where as when we fail to keep our word, all will get spoiled and will lose the friendship or trust for ever. Also, if someone do not keep their word, we never respect or trust them any more in the future life. So, promises and fulfilling has its own importance in our life. Thank you for your comments. Thank-s