could you love him and not his child

Personally this is Sad when someone does something like this. I guess he does not want to accept the fact of having another man in his life and in his house besides his Dad. Maybe somehow it would be best if you, his mom, and maybe his dad could sit down together and talk about this and see what is the Best thing to do. If it is best for you to move out and give it time that might be the Best as well.

New relationships sometime have baggage that has to come along with it, in your case there is a child, not sure about the age, but most young children hate their parents' new mate and will do or say just about anything to sabotage the relationship because they are hoping the the parents will reunite and the will be one happy family again. The childless partner should weigh the options before making such a serious decision as moving in with or even marrying a person with a child or children. This situation is not ideal for everyone. I am committed to myself that I would never date someone with small child, too complicate. I don't know how long you were in the relationship before you decided to move in with your love of your life, but if you did know this child before this you should have take time to make friends with the child, allowing him to get to know you better. Maybe if you want the relationship to get better, you should move out and try to strengthen your relationship with the child.

Hi. Des_diva. Welcome to myLot! I am very sorry that this little boy is telling lies on you. I think that you really need to tell his father what he is doing and how you are feeling. If you have to move out into your own place to avoid conflict, then that may be the best thing that you could ever do. I hope that he hears you out and listens to you with an opened mind and an opened heart. If anything his father should try to see your side of the story, because, it would only be fair. His son is trying his best to turn his father against you and that is very wrong.

Honestly I am not in a position to advise just like be patient to a kid or understand him since he is only a kid. But then the only thing I can say is at least you must deal with your husband regarding his son's attitude then do some actions about it. Since the two of you are married I think you have the right to scold a kid if in case that he is still lying. But be contented that at least your husband believes in your claims.

Try to talk to the boy why he told lies on you and try to convince him that you like him and would want him to also live with you. Sometimes, it happens because the boy feels insecure as his position in your life, as you are now becoming the love of his father - in his thinking, it is no longer him as the love of his father life.

I guess you should have done this before you live with your husband, i mean you knew from the start that he has a child from other woman, the best way you could do is get the attention of this son and make him love and accept you or else this marriage won't be successful, having a silent war with someone you lived with under one roof is kinda complicated. if you love the man then love his son too, and his son love you too

You should have the initiative to get along with the child before you live with or get married with your current love of your life. Children are lovable so you should have shown love and assistance during the first time. If you show them that you care for them they will love you back. And if you love your love of your life, you have to love also those that he loves and that is his child on his previous relationship.

If you choose to love someone with a child, you choose to love everything about him or her and not choose to love the child. Everything about the one you love is a part of him and love is loving every part of that person no matter. This is easier said than done for me that's why I chose a man who doesnt have a child.

In the first place why did you think deep in getting in a relationship to a man that has already has a child? but I know we cannot teach our heart.,but in my opinion why not getting the child attention first to like you..we've a lot woman who fall for a man who had a child but they go along better..why not give more time to convince yourself to to get the attention of your husband child first..

I guess u need to talk to Ur partner, And I don't think that he would believe what his son did. I don't have an appropriate solution 4 U. But U have to talk to his son and understand why he doesn't like U. But obviously because U took his mother's position in someway (whatever what happened). just try to make him like U. or it'll soon be the end of Ur relationship, seriously

you are reall in a problem,if you can afford to rent on your own it gonna be better,or you should be closer to the child and become his friend

Oh boy you got problem, kids tend to be like that if do't like the person especially if it concern their dad or mom's kids can still see their parents so they don't want a replacement, you better settle things up before it get worse sometimes it's better to anticipate than be sorry,talk to the child along with his father tell the child that you're not taking away anything that's closed to him or her. Let the child understand gradually the situation then by bit by bit he will understand.

Children are innocent,a child is cute,children receiving it,a lot of communication,a good life.