were you talking about me?

I have seen this happen before as well. Or sometimes the person talking really is finished talking as soon as the person enters the room.

Yikes, you went to the boss? Do they know it was you?

From their looks, i could tell that they were talking about me. They didn't tell me about it though that day. But after that, someone from them told me . I have to confront them and tell it to my boss. My boss met all of us and warned us of gossiping, lest we be fired for it. That stopped them.

Hi dear, In fact in my office (the group in which I am working) have about 140 people and I like to maintain a nice deal with all of them. Many are comes under 20-25 years old range and feel really a college atmosphere. In fact here no one has any time to talk about others and we all got a one family environment and the ratio comes like 60:40 in girls and boys. From staff to senior, manage, partner and all subordinate staff has a nice behavioural culture, we all have a nice and decent time. We get good fun and including other department on the floor we have nearly 600 people and most of us have the same mentality. However, there can be some gossips here and there but it just moves like a fun and when we all get together, we all enjoys in its own mood. This is the main reason why I never though of a change of my job for last many years and this is my 2nd job, where my first job was in a women's university, where 95% were girls!

I am glad to know that you have a happy atmosphere at your office at all times. Keep up being so understanding to people.

You are so kind and patient my friend. I just hope i could have some of that trait.

How mean you office mates could be! Imagine whispering in front of you! One thing that is unprofessional, is to whisper into somebody's ear while a person is in front of you. Even if you weren't the one they are talking about, you would feel uncomfortable. Sometimes, people could outrightly be rude. Good that you are looking for a new job. I hope this time around it will be an office where the people are professional all the way. Good luck friend.

That is great news! I hope this person learns a lesson from this, and just maybe he or she will keep the next job. The work environment should be peaceful.

In our office, when such behavior of back stabbing gets unsettled, it could be reported to the HR so it could dealt with accordingly. The starter of that back stabbing , resigned after a month. Reason , she back stabbed other too. From then on, there were no more back stabbing.

Well, in your case wherein you are already leaving, it won't be a bother anymore if they are talking about you. But don't you want them to be clarified on the issue once and for all?

People doing that should be ashamed of themselves. Imagine being caught bad mouthing ! I won't have the face to show anymore.

You are right. Have emailed you, sorry for delay Namastey. Kalyani

Yes, my friend, it's easier said than done. So, for myself i ask them so i could refute or confirm what they are saying or maybe correct what they find wrong with me. That way, i won't be bothered thinking about it too.

True we can't please everyone, but at least we could let them know that you know what they have done to you. I feel vindicated that way. But if what they are saying about you is nice , it's okay. . . they can go on and on. . .

Lucky you for being in an office like that. In our office, that was stopped because i have to report it to my boss. My boss had a meeting and in general warned everybody that gossiping is not allowed. She warned that should anyone be proven to be doing that, she will be fired That stopped the gossiping.

Oh that's a sad atmosphere for an office. Didn't anyone try to have you all make up to each other and let you be united once and for all? I can't stand that kind of atmosphere. Something has to be done.

Well, i know that they are talking about me, because they will not stop if it's for other topics. You can very feel it when it's you they are talking about.

Yes, i am very much like you. Though , unlike you , i confront them. I want them to say it so i could correct whatever it is that i have done wrong.

Yes, just like you, i want people to tell me, if there's something wrong with me. If it's really wrong, then i could correct it. I take constructive criticism as improvement for myself. I guess, we all want people to be like that, or are we just the ones?

They hate you, because you are better than them. They are just envious.

I tried being that once, but it didn't work well with me. I felt bad that i can't express what i felt. Besides, they will not stop because i didn't warn them so. I guess they are just afraid of me. The highest boss is my immediate boss. They think i will report them, but i do not. I deal with it myself. They know that.

You're good in controlling what you feel. For me, i wouldn't give them triumph in thinking i would just go silent. I have to make myself clear to them that i know very well what they are talking about , and let them be ashamed of what they have done!

Yes, actually most of those who back stabs you are your envious of you in one way or another. I guess, i was popular then, so they hate me ! Well, i made them afraid of me by saying that line! They deserve that.