Everything's planned and you want to back out, WHAT would you DO?

it depends on what her reasons are for not going. if it is valid enough, then don't go and just explain to her brother and friend why she can't go through with it. I'm positive that they will understand if it is reasonable; but if there is no valid reason for backing out and she just don't want to go for the sake of not wanting to go, i think it's quite unfair for those who made the planning. If she really don't want to go, i guess nobody could force her to but she can't blame her brother and her friend for labeling her KJ. that's the price she has to pay. :p If she doesn't want to be branded as KJ, then don't be one. :)

Is there a reason why she would want to back out now? Any drastic change in her life? Does she do this a lot? planning something and backing out? I mean if answers to all those questions are NO, then you should be asking her if everything is ok. Perhaps something is not right. You know what i mean.

First of all, she shouldn't have committed herself to such a plan. I am sure her brother and friend will be disappointed with her. But she can give it a try. Who knows? They might be more than happy for her backing out.

A really tough situation because perhaps they were counting on her share of the expense?? I think if it were me I would definitely go because my loyalty would be important. Her brother and friend were probably really counting on her going. Now how long from now is the vacation? If it is not upcoming then she maybe able to let them know her feelings and perhaps they can get a replacement. But I would suggest she say something right away before time flies.

I think if I really cannot go on I will have to seek for the person and just say I'm really sorry, any mature person will understand. And I will want to make it up as soon as I can, breaking a deal can be a deal breaker in relationships, friendship or love's.

I think once she planned and promise to go with them it would be unfair to her friend and her brother if she backed out. I think she must go on that vacation and try to have as much fun as possible because this is the one way she won't disappoint them. If she turns her back on them I'm sure one day she won't be able to forgive herself for this action, not to mention she will lose their trust. Another way out of the situation is if she tries to explain to them how she feels and give them a good reason why she won't go. But the excuse must be sincere and delicate. I believe they would understand if she had a goo reason and not just a caprice.

if i planed to do somethin like a vacation i would not back out. if you planed on doing somthing you need to stick it out.