When is it too much?

i dont really know your boyfriend personally..so i'm just gonna make a guess based on my gut feelings...i think... he has no plans of marrying you anytime soon. considering that you've already been together for 3 years... who knows just how much time he needs more to think and rethink about it , or to plan and plan more about it... but it's still up to you, are u willing to wait longer ? how long do you intend to wait then? if the time never comes, will you be able to handle it? it's like a gamble...only you can tell if he's worth it or not.

hey there is no limit for love and affection for our dears. If you are a good person you can even do the things which you never imagined. And this shows that how much is your boyfriend responsible towards his family. And day you both are gonna be a family. and he will be doing anything for your happiness. so if you love him believe in him believe in your love.

Only you know the answer to this. No one else can tell you if it is right to wait around for him or leave because he may not feel the same way. But no one should ever rush into marriage. It is a decision that must be given a great deal of thought becuase it really should be a lifetime decision, although it isn't so much anymore.

i think you do love this man and that you sure can wait a little bit more of time. i was in the same situation as you and i perfectly understand your sentiment here. But you cannot force him to pop the question now when you know he might not be ready to settle down because he is a breadwinner aand still thinks of what might happen to his family if he has his own family to support. I guess do not just give hints. you need to sit down with him and talk to him about your situation, plus his situation andd know his plans as well.

Sometimes men are afraid of the marriage. I am not sure. Perhaps they want to have a good financial base at first. Men don't want to be controlled, too. And some may think that they will lose the freedom after marriage. So due to various kinds of reasons, your boyfriend hesitate to propose to you. Three years is not a short time, especially for girls. If you think it is the right time for you to get married, perhaps you shall talk to him directly. If you feel embarrassed to do so, you can ask your friends to help you. Good luck! I love China

My friend feels the same way like you do. She always wants to settles already but it seems difficult for the guy to do it cause all members of his family is depending on him. He doesnt seem to have it in his mind yet to settle and make commitments so they are always not in the same page but my friend said she is still willing to wait and didnt think about when is it too much.

To settle down does not mean to get married ,if you do love somebody , keeping the love longer is much enough for life which a lot of people can't do that so.

This is a question that nobody can answer but you. The question I have in mind for you is are you willing to wait a year or even years for him to be ready to ask you the big question. Do not get me wrong, there is nothing bad in helping out his family but he has to put a line between you and his family wherein he should equally spend time with you and them. Also, does he show you how he values you being there or does he make an effort to put your mind at ease about the certain topic? There are so many ways for you to determine if he will actually pop the question but it is all up to you if you have the strength to go on and be there for the person until such time he asks you. Because let me remind you, you can never wait forever for a person. If you have asked yourself that question and sure of it that you can then be patient. But if not, rethink where you are at in his life and determine if its all worth the waiting.

Whether or not he has intentions of marrying you, I'd set a limit for how long you're willing to wait. You don't necessarily have to write a date on the calendar or tell him he only has so long left...actually, I'd suggest against that. My best friend has been dating a good man for about a year now. She doesn't want to marry yet, but she does want to marry at some point, and he doesn't believe in marriage. I told her to set a deadline...drop hints, and if he doesn't ask by this point and/or rejects a proposal from you, move on. That way, she won't be stuck being just a girlfriend forever, with constant fights over marriage or no marriage. She liked that idea, and eventually decided on five years. If he doesn't ask by then, she's going to break up with him and find a man "who's serious" (her words, LOL). I'd suggest doing the same in your situation. And if you get too impatient, there's nothing wrong with asking him to marry you. If he says no, move on. If he agrees, you'll be happy you asked.

I not fall in love before marriage but yes I have seen my friend how she is fall in love and she dont want to live without her boyfriend and we all five friends helps them. Even present on the courts as a witness when they got married. So I know how is feeling because she sharing with me everything about her love because I am a best friend of her. But be careful sometime love is dangerous for life also

Dear oasis, Some people have several reason for not being settled, and some people couldn't afford them self to married as they getting old (in asia it still we follow the tradition where most of the people will get married before age 30 for man and for women before 25. I categories my self as first (worry to settling down). I have many reason why. I'm the eldest in my family and i have 2 younger brother still in school. My parents are in job, but as eldest person in the family i would like to help them in term of money, as they are not earn much for my brothers education fees. And i feel this time is thank my parents for what they have done to me, so i can reach this stage. For some man, marriage is sacred things that they need to be careful when they take this decision, marriage is not only living together, is also he need to be ready to support in financial and when have children also many things to consider like their education. If your boyfriend has mentioned that he need time, it's mean there something that he need to finalize. He loves you and you have been together for 3 years, it's mean that he serious with you to go to next step, just needs to be passion. He might has a big surprise for you soon! finger crossed!

Hi, everyone has their own ideas and experiences to share. The only thing u should think of is that everything happens for good. Its all part of life. Face it and i am sure u both will b together. 3 yrs is indeed long time, but a little mord patience wont do any harm. God bless.