My baby have grown into a young man...is he ready to fall in love?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
April 1, 2011 10:41am CST
My youngest son graduated from primary grade level this morning.
Looking at him,i can still see my little baby that needs to be cared and pampered.
But this morning while he is so excited preparing for the graduation rites,dressed like a young gentleman,...there was a sudden fear that struck me.
Why?
My baby is now young gents,sooner or later he will fall in love (it's fine)
Just now i realized that i am not prepared for this.
Oh...how time flies,why so fast...
(sigh)
How about you dear mylotters,are you prepared that one day,your kid/s will also start a family of their own.
When did you start preparing yourself for this...
or...you also caught unaware that your baby has grown up already.
Have a great weekend everyone
(sigh)
How about you dear mylotters,are you prepared that one day,your kid/s will also start a family of their own.
When did you start preparing yourself for this...
or...you also caught unaware that your baby has grown up already.
Have a great weekend everyone3 people like this
15 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
hello jaiho,
Well this is reality but we can't do anything about it i thought he is already fallen in love (to me) 
you should be more aware maybe the next day he will tell you Mom i already found the girl i want to spend my life with 
happy weekend
you should be more aware maybe the next day he will tell you Mom i already found the girl i want to spend my life with
happy weekend
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
hello bhbay,
Let's wait till myles made her comment on this 
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Want her to have the wedding bells ring this June
Have a great weekend...enjoy your outing as well
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Want her to have the wedding bells ring this June
Have a great weekend...enjoy your outing as well@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
@ bhaby,
don't play with the life guard...keep him stay on posts
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello Jo
,
I just can't imagine how time flies.
My kids are now grown ups,no more baby talks,no more baby matters (ohhh really sad)
Guess this is natural for mothers who always treat kids as babies and can't get to the fact that one day soon...kids will start their own families too.
Have a great weekend dear
,
I just can't imagine how time flies.
My kids are now grown ups,no more baby talks,no more baby matters (ohhh really sad)
Guess this is natural for mothers who always treat kids as babies and can't get to the fact that one day soon...kids will start their own families too.
Have a great weekend dear@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
@ thanks,
namaste mere dosti (sorry i don't know much tamil)
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
3 Apr 11
well time is really flying so fast without you knowing it but thats how the cycle of life goes...we grow old and our kids get their own family and raise their own children...just enjoy the time that you have with your kid while they are still young because you cant do that anymore when they grow old....
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
hello john,
Yes,it's life cycle,we grow old and new young generation follows.
I am really enjoying time with my kids that is why i overlooked how they've grown this fast.
I never realized they're not babies anymore,not even toddlers,but young adult and soon having their own family.
how time flies...i feel like old now (hahahah)
thanks for your response and hope you had a great weekend
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Apr 12
hello john,
where have you been..
does it mean you're away for a year and only comes back now? :)
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hi jaiho amiga!
haha...what can i say? i don't have kids yet but i understand your worries coz that's also my mom's sentiments!
well there are just really some things that we can't stop,like your children growing up and people falling in love! well don't worry that much they are still very young...but for sure they already have crushes? haha and besides, no matter what, you will always be their only mom, the most special girl in their life!
and don't you like it? when they are finally in the right age, they will get married and have their own children to...which makes your family bigger and happier! hehe
haha...what can i say? i don't have kids yet but i understand your worries coz that's also my mom's sentiments!
well there are just really some things that we can't stop,like your children growing up and people falling in love! well don't worry that much they are still very young...but for sure they already have crushes? haha and besides, no matter what, you will always be their only mom, the most special girl in their life!
and don't you like it? when they are finally in the right age, they will get married and have their own children to...which makes your family bigger and happier! hehe1 person likes this
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
haha, now I understand more my mom on how she looks at my younger brother, well actually even I, as an elder sister, I still see my brother as our baby, he will always be our baby even if he's already 20!
I also think that this is one reason why, there are some moms in law who don't get along well with their daughters in law...hehehe but its just a matter of acceptance, I guess.
Yeah, happy weekend too and enjoy the weekend with your babies!
Well, its ok but its also very very noisy! waaaaaaaaaaaah! You can now easily find me here in Cebu coz we are now near in Tabo-an! haha so if you want to buy dried fishes...that's the place to go!
I also think that this is one reason why, there are some moms in law who don't get along well with their daughters in law...hehehe but its just a matter of acceptance, I guess.
Yeah, happy weekend too and enjoy the weekend with your babies!
Well, its ok but its also very very noisy! waaaaaaaaaaaah! You can now easily find me here in Cebu coz we are now near in Tabo-an! haha so if you want to buy dried fishes...that's the place to go!1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
wow,did i read it right...dried fish (yummm)
how much does it costs dear amiga?
why can't we try a business with it?
try to asks the prices per kilo i am sure it's a lot cheaper in there compared here in my place.
let's do a business hehehe
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello amiga,
Nice to see you again my dear.
So you know what i feel (huhuhu) but you are right it's just a mom's sentiments (hehehe)
I loved to have little kids at home,a baby...a very cute baby (weiii) but not now please (ahihihi)
My my amiga,it's really hard you know...it's a mixed emotions.
Before,i want my kids to grow fast so that i can play with them.
And when each one of them reached adulthood,i treated my youngest as baby always.
And now...how i wish they've not grown (hahaha)
Happy weekend dear,and nice to see you around.
How's your new place?
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Nice to see you again my dear.
So you know what i feel (huhuhu) but you are right it's just a mom's sentiments (hehehe)
I loved to have little kids at home,a baby...a very cute baby (weiii) but not now please (ahihihi)
My my amiga,it's really hard you know...it's a mixed emotions.
Before,i want my kids to grow fast so that i can play with them.
And when each one of them reached adulthood,i treated my youngest as baby always.
And now...how i wish they've not grown (hahaha)
Happy weekend dear,and nice to see you around.
How's your new place?
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
Hello Sis Jaiho,
Then, one day you gonna have to treat him like a man some day if you still try to treat him like a child when he's in the stage of growing to be mature, he might bounce back to be a kid when he completely grows up, in some ways anyways. i think guidance is the key here,if you tell them "NO" or "not your age" there has to be an explanation to it
if you still try to treat him like a child when he's in the stage of growing to be mature, he might bounce back to be a kid when he completely grows up, in some ways anyways. i think guidance is the key here,if you tell them "NO" or "not your age" there has to be an explanation to it1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello LK,
Yup my dear little big brother,he's going to be a grown up man soon.
I am trying not to treat him like a kid anymore.
Like,asking him to go to mall paying bills (all alone) thu,it's killing me with nervous and fear (my baby ohhhh...hahaha)
I have to let him go...i know that.
Just now,he told me he wants to be enrolled in Makati school,this means he needs to travel everyday when school starts.
It's not that far anyway,just one ride and not a risky ride either.
This only means that,my baby is no longer a baby anymore (huhuhu)
I am sure you know this mother's feeling,i bet you are also the youngest eh
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
see,same thing with my youngest...
he is also 12 when i started training him to travel all by himself.
Ugh...just don't know where those baby times gone (hahaha)
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I remember when i was in Grade 6, that's when i started traveling home by myself from school in manila to our home in cavite using only Jeepney ride. then in highschool i started commuting from home to school almost everyday.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Apr 11
Hi didi
Well well this is what we all did and our children will continue doing... walking out to start their own life, family and whatever on their own... and we as our parents would start complaining soon when we would see them neglecting us... our needs... and a few of us would complain too
But this is what evolution and growth does to everyone... The only hope - keep our fingers crossed and pray this starts late... but when this gets late... as parents we start worryig - why it gets late
But yes, I believe this is still quite a young age for him to get involved in all such things as today's generation knows better that it is other areas that need their attention more.
Well well this is what we all did and our children will continue doing... walking out to start their own life, family and whatever on their own... and we as our parents would start complaining soon when we would see them neglecting us... our needs... and a few of us would complain too
But this is what evolution and growth does to everyone... The only hope - keep our fingers crossed and pray this starts late... but when this gets late... as parents we start worryig - why it gets late
But yes, I believe this is still quite a young age for him to get involved in all such things as today's generation knows better that it is other areas that need their attention more.1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello dear sids,
Hahaha,you are right,parents getting afraid once kids grows and start adolescent life.
And then getting worried when kid/s gets a little bit old and yet don't have family of their own,or seems not interested to have one (hahaha....too many complications and fears eh...)
I agree with you dear,this young genre knows what's better and best for them,parents can give advices and guidance,but let them (the kids) have the final decision.
happy weekend
,
Hahaha,you are right,parents getting afraid once kids grows and start adolescent life.
And then getting worried when kid/s gets a little bit old and yet don't have family of their own,or seems not interested to have one (hahaha....too many complications and fears eh...)
I agree with you dear,this young genre knows what's better and best for them,parents can give advices and guidance,but let them (the kids) have the final decision.
happy weekend@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
@ Jo,
you are right,kids sometimes give us correction.
so i always keep myself updated (hahaha)
and that even give us a little bit argument...and ended up searching on the net (it's fun learning with kids)
sometimes they even teased me and say "mom,just keep us updated with the phones and new android apps okay " (which is related to my job)
naughty kids...how can i get away from missing them and fear of their soon "private relationship" (well...this is life...mother's fears hahaha)
hope you had a great weekend too dear...mine is fine,had my 3 days off and be back to work again by Tuesday midnight.
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you are right,kids sometimes give us correction.
so i always keep myself updated (hahaha)
and that even give us a little bit argument...and ended up searching on the net (it's fun learning with kids)
sometimes they even teased me and say "mom,just keep us updated with the phones and new android apps okay " (which is related to my job)
naughty kids...how can i get away from missing them and fear of their soon "private relationship" (well...this is life...mother's fears hahaha)
hope you had a great weekend too dear...mine is fine,had my 3 days off and be back to work again by Tuesday midnight.@Jotomy (6322)
• India
3 Apr 11
Hi sid anna, how are you? but one thing i noticed in girls and boys is they are much different at home and different at outside mostly boys. Girls may be same as they are. Now kids are very smart and intelligent. They know better than us. My son 5 years old, will say amma what you said is wrong my mam what told is correct, he never accept if i say correct also. So the kids will grow how we teach them, mainly teachers at school and at home mother / father. Mostly kids are influenced by mother. I feel she should care them much.
Happy weekend to you both.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
1 Apr 11
Hi jaiho: I understand why you should feel shocked but I think that it's normal that he would be prepared. The question is are you prepared to accept this situation? I don't have children but I have a 16 years old sister and I still watch her as a baby. It's complicated but at the same time I think that the best help we can give to our children is giving our advice and also to trust in them.
ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello Alvaro,
That's the question here my dear,i am not prepared for this growing up too fast.
I still thought he's my baby,i didn't realized how fast he has grown.
I don't want to think of my youngest being into love/affair at this early age..he's just 12 yrs old.
But i know i need to open my mind too,that one day...he will have crushes and soon...love (ugh! mothers...hehehe)
Thanks for your response and have a great weekend
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
15 May 11
i dont have kids yet but i guess that is normal you feel that way. time pass fast and its like a few time ago he was so little and now is growing. about him falling in love its ok. im sure that he will still live with you for more years. he is only like 10 years old right?^^ maybe when he is 14 he has his first love or who knows maybe soon^^ its cute to see little kids dating^^ like my lil cousin she was so cute with 3 years old kissing her friend ahah^^
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 May 11
hello cat,
3 years old kissing hehehe... yah,that would be so cute,and innocent
i hope you are doing fine now my dear sister
i hope you are doing fine now my dear sister
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
1 Apr 11
Yes friend this new generation all parents should be prepare because any time their child fall in love but at least before marriage the parents duty is to inquiry about child's lover character, job and his family background if all is right then only on the basis of cast it is not good to not marry with her lover.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello friend,
Here in my country,love marriage is the common thing.
Parents don't interfere with kids-love affair.
Parents can give advice and awareness regarding married life,but the choice still depends on the kids (son or daughter)
thanks for your response and have a great weekend
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
2 Apr 11
Wow! nice in my country love marriage is not allowed at least in our community love marriage is restricted but I like your way thanks a lot
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
3 Apr 11
Thanks for sharing Jai
What is his age, here primary grade means 3 years in school, 8 years old, i am confused
All will grow one day, will have their family, may be love marriage, because your country does not have arranged marriages
I was married when i was 16 and professor was 23, it was arranged marriage, we are happy couple lol
Happy posting, cheers.
Namastey.
Kalyani
Happy posting, cheers.
Namastey.
Kalyani
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
hello dear,
Primary here is from ist grade to 6th standards,so usual age is 12 to 14 yrs old.
My youngest son is 12 and still my baby (hehehe)
Yes,here in our country we don't have the practice of arranged marriage dear,it's love marriages here (thu some cultures from other part of our country also has this kind of tradition of arranged marriage esp with the muslim side)
thanks again for your response and have a good day always
@scorpio04 (84)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
hi jaiho,
That is exactly parents afraid when their kids grown up..Maybe parents should understand or listen and open communication with their children ...goodluck
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello scorpio,
My kids are my friends too.
They might not tell every secrets to me,but i always tell them to let me know whatever their problem is.
I'm just having this motherhood paranoia coz my kids have grown this fast.
thanks for your response and have a great weekend
thanks for your response and have a great weekend@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
9 Apr 11
hello again scorpio,
Yes,as a mother we want to be first to know about our kids.
And better if they tell us everything,whether it is bad or good...
happy weekend
@scorpio04 (84)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
hi jaiho-i wish if i am mother already my kids is like a friend also i don't want them to have secrets .I want them to tell me even good or bad...thanks too...
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@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Hi jaiho 2009!
I am also a mother and I feel the same way too.
As a mother we do want what's best for them, give them
the world and love them completely. But we cannot
erase the fact that when they grow up they would
start to love. I guess this is a mix emotions for a mother.
I should be prepared in any situation for my daughter.
That's our role as a mother :)
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
hello heart,
You should be prepared then.
I know someday they will have their own life,but never thought this soon.
I am still enjoying my youngest as the baby of the family...but what to do then,time flies this fast.
Wish we can hold the time from ticking and make it stay a little while
Thanks for your response and have a great day
welcome to mylot
Thanks for your response and have a great day
welcome to mylot
@thetigers (108)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
OMG! I have a toddler turning 3 y/o, and i can't imagine one day he will tell me "mom I am in-love." oh no oh no, does it mean he will not have that much time for me and his dad? ohh, i dunno how to feel when that time comes. But reality, thats life we ought to accept changes in our lives and in our love ones lives. ***sigh...
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
4 Apr 11
hello dear,
That's why you have to make the most of your time with your son.
We never realized how time flies...
It doesn't mean that they will not loved us once they've grown and find their love..but of course we knew so much that,it won't be the same.
You will surely missed the hugs,cuddle days with your baby...so enjoy him,you still have so much time to enjoy his company being a baby
@martha0430 (211)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
i also have a son, he is turning 11 years old this april 5. one year more for his elementary school and next he will be in high school. . i didnt think about it until you start this discussion, that makes me think that, yeah, you are right. time flies so fast that you can no longer carry your kids, pamper them like a baby. . sigh, i miss the times when they where still babies. . can we rewind the time? but as of now, im not thinking them getting inlove. my son is so childish that he still play his toys. . ill just enjoy each and every day while they are still young
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello martha,
Oh dear,you must enjoy every single moment.
I don't consider also that my son or my kids will have an early relationship,just gives me quip ..how time flies.
My son also still childish,being the baby in the family,his sister always treat him like a baby...
Wish we could still cuddle them,and carry them like before ...hehehe..mother's sentiments
Thanks for your response and happy weekedn
Thanks for your response and happy weekedn
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 11
Hiya sis!
I thought this one will not going to reach my email, but it came in 33 minutes later.
We never had this kind of feeling with our two elder sons. But when this happened to our daughter, seems we were really got so surprised.
Maybe, we just thought that it's normal for our son to get involved with a girl.
But when our girl had her first boyfriend, we only wished she will not get serious.
We never had this kind of feeling with our two elder sons. But when this happened to our daughter, seems we were really got so surprised.
Maybe, we just thought that it's normal for our son to get involved with a girl.
But when our girl had her first boyfriend, we only wished she will not get serious. @jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
hello neil,
I am not troubled with my eldest and only daughter.
I am more concerned with my 2 sons...of course because...boys will shoulder mosts of the wedding expenses (hekhek)
...is that what i am afraid of?...
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
1 Apr 11
hello SIS Jaiho,
then in the future encourage him more to get a job and save money. i think people who get married usually tries to get out of the parnts and start over but also for them to be free from parent's control.. at the early age maybe he can be encourage to start a small business or something. 1 person likes this
