Finally, I QUIT MY JOB!!!!! but My Mom is so mad at me
By lovebugjess
@lovebugjess (262)
Philippines
April 1, 2011 9:48pm CST
As i decided to quit my job i know there are lot of things to consider. Money is the first one, I still have my own earnings. I am not that shopaholic person or materialistic person that i have to buy everything i want so i think i can save money for at least 9 months. I got my emergency money also just in case ;)
Now am doing my free lancing job online which is am happy now and feel enjoyed.
But the thing is my mom, she is so mad at me and she is so disappointed when i quit my job and keep scolding me around and saying a lot of things. So i decided to stay away from her for a while, and am currently with my sister.
How i am going to deal with this. I can't keep my mom getting mad at me all the time.
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15 responses
@cadguy08 (1224)
• Canada
2 Apr 11
Maybe you still young that you never think first before quitting, Your mom is right don't quit jobs lots of people are looking for job , you are lucky to have one. As of present it's really hard to earn money even you are online doing work that's only few bucks which is not enough to buy anything or pay bills. Next time don't or think first before you quit. Maybe you don't pay anything yet so you are not thinking any problems at all. But if you are paying bills you gonna be in trouble. Lucky you someone in your family help you such as your sister.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I do pay my own bills. I don't rely on my family that is why i have the guts to quit this job.
I am not saying that my mom is bad or never understand me. She works in this university before as a teacher. However she is already retires now i applied for this job before as an instructor but unluckily they didn't get met instead they put me into a job which is first as internet admin but it was so low salary and promise that i will be teaching next semester. they will give me subjects to teach.
Next second semester is coming up and instead of putting me up as instructor they put me as clerk and still low salary. And without my other extra skills in free lancing i can't pay my bills and my tuition fee because am pursuing my masters degree.
So you think it is still a good idea to stay in a company that they will promise you one thing but never did and have so low salary where you can't even pay half of your bills? and they use your skills and make you do overtime and never pay your overtime because you are only a contractual basis?
@cadguy08 (1224)
• Canada
2 Apr 11
Oh you are a teacher I see, but you should stay there until you get a new job that you really want before going out of work that's real thing. Remember don't ever quit if you don't like your job just hunt for another one that will replace you old job.Your ego is what is going on but in reality you should really stay. You never work as laborer right I think so I been there so many times and don't like the work until I got my real love of work right now. This job is what I like since i arrived here in where I lived now but thru all year round it's lot of competition so you must learn a lot on your life . Be patience and more blessing to come if you gonna wait until you got your love of work as a teacher.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
My friend I applied as a teacher but i got a job but not a teacher
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Maybe you should just let your mom know that this is really what you want. I mean to quit the job and start freelancing. Mother's knows best but they understand very much. You need to explain it to her every time and very well. So, soon she'll realize, you're much more happy with what you chose.
Good luck lovebug!
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Yes thank you my friend i got lot of advices from here. I am happy now working with a lot of project and webdesigns:)
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I think I commented when you posted about whether or not to quit your job. I can see your mom's point of view, but as you are an adult, (at least I assume you are) then it is your choice, I just hope it isn't one you'd regret later. I saw what HWG said, about being stuck in a job you don't like, but in today's economy, I feel it is better to stay in a job you don't like until your business takes off, than to quit, find your business won't generate enough income and you find yourself with no income...I am not trying to sound negative, but realistic, jobs are very rare anymore, and getting harder to find..I should know, I have been looking for five years, my son has been looking for a year, and he has a lot of good experience, especially in a managers position...
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I understand that my i already decided to quit, and now am happy and doing good with my freelancing. I have applied a new job which is best suited for me.;)
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Yes we don't know what comes next so we need to enjoy our life. happy mylotting
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Maybe your mom thinks that you are getting irresponsible.
She doesn't see any good reason why you have to quit from your job.
Maybe your mom doesn't understand that you are enjoying your job anymore.
Why not talk with your mom,tell your reason why you quit from your job.
I am sure she will understand once you've explained to her your reason.
Mothers will always there to understand,thu sometimes they nag and sounds like talking nonsense (opppps....no,i respect my mom)..but yes,sometimes nagging become senseless (hehehe)
happy weekend
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
hahahaha my mom is really a nagger, well i think all moms are like that. I tried to talk to her but she really don't try to understand me. well i am waiting for the right time to talk to her.
Someday she might understand now i have to earn bigger than my usual job salary hehehe a challenge for me.
@Lucyalicia92 (670)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Don't listen to these people, it's the kind of responses I was getting when I was saying I wanted to quit my job. They don't know what they are talking about and I don't blame them because we both didn't provide the information they needed to know that we have our future planned and for the here and now making online is good enough. I'm not at the place that I'm making enough yet to quit my job, but once I do I will do the same. It would be stupid to quit now with not making my goal yet, but once I do it will be enough for now. I'm very happy for you! Your at the place I hope to be at soon enough. Just explain to her this is your choice and you make the decisions for your own life and you hope she can understand.
@Lucyalicia92 (670)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I think it was definitely the right choice to quit because it is obviously not right for you. It sounds like your happy right now and are not in any financial crisis so why not.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
I tried to explain to her that i can't endure it anymore that i have to start on my own and i feel like i am being helpless to that company. With low salary and too much work, overtime without overtime pay. It is not in my contract actually that i have to do overtime because they said so.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hehhe our parents sometimes do know what will be the best for us.. we have to trust our parent's instincts... though not all the time... haha sometimes like machines or radars or satellites our parents might be wrong...
Anyway.. im glad that you are doing what you like to do... and you have the guts to do it now and take the risk... you know what they say, when you have risk, you have great returns too...
Goodluck in your career!! i feel happy for you.. i have recently tendered my resignation as well.. and i did wuite my job because i wanted to work as an IT officer and im building my career on that... risking a regular job for a consultancy... at the end of the day, though... we all should be happy.. no matter what awaits us. anyway.. we can be successful as long as we know we are doing the right thing for us and we will work hard to be able to get the success we want...
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
yes i love what i am doing now and am happy about it. I should have earn more if i focus on my free lancing. and have earn more for my business. now i have to continue without thinking that i have to wake up early and go to work.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
26 Feb 19
Well for as long as you can keep yiur savings intact and you are still earning it willbe fine. The problem is when you see your savings and emergency fund slowly depleting is a warning sign you should start looking for a stable job that could replenish back that fund.
The only thing that would calm your mom down is to let her feel that you can find a suitable job for you. Moms may just be concerned about you and you know in their generation there was no online jobs that you can earn on that is why she became hysterical when you quit your job. In their generation when you lost your job you will have to find one soon so that earnings would go. But nowadays there are alternatives that were not before.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Your mother will come around eventually when she sees you are happier and you are doing well freelancing. Lead by example. Show her you are not struggling with money and that you have lots of projects that bring in more money than before. She just wants to make sure you are ok and that you aren't suffering adversely because you decided to quit.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Yes i know she loves me a lot and because am young and the youngest in my siblings maybe the fact the am the youngest she is trying to protect me, but am already 24 and i have good earnings and no problem at all, the only thing i don't like is she wants to dominate what i want and i like.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
2 Apr 11
Rule of thumb. Never quit a job unless you have another job. It makes eating so much easier. Do not avoid your mom. Go have a long talk. Get your view out in the open. Listen to her view. She cares and worries about you. Get it all out in the open. Don't forget the hug in the end!!
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
thank you my friend, but i think of this already for how many time and that involve months so i got my decision already i quit my job and now am happy and having fun with my online friend while earning
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 11
Hi,
Actually your mother is not mean to scold, she love and care about
you,that is why she feel strange why you want to quit your job which
can earn you a fixed income. She is worrying about your life in future since
you have no permanent job in hand now.
Since you decided to stay at your sister's place temporary,it is a good
arrangement..let everyone cool down and wait one day, go back and
explain to your mother why you are making this final decision.
If you think that your current freelancing job can earn a good income for
you,prove to her that you still can survive and doing good with your current
freelance job.
Or else, Go and get one fixed job which can give you a better living.of course,
get the job that you like.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
thank you my friend I am trying to explain to my mom but she is all closed ears. She doesn't want to listen to me.
My mom actually is being respected by my supervisors and co teachers and that is one reason she always push me around that company and even uses me. Like if i don't want to go to work she said go to work you so shameful.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Apr 11
It is important to be happy with a job while you are still young. Last thing you want to do is be older and stuck in a rut at a job you absolutely hate. You did not quite empty handed, sounds like you have thought it through as well as have some savings.
How to get around your mother, there really is not quick answer. She means well she is speaking out of voice of experience and only worried that perhaps this will not have been the best option.
The only way to get around it is to do exactly what you have planned and that is continue to progress withe the freelancing work and let your actions speak and not your having to explain. You may succeed and you may not the important thing is that you do not give up and continue to try and always weighing if it right or not and make whichever changes necessary to continue on the path of trying to succeed.
I wish you well, it does sound like you have had it all well planned.
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Thank you very much.. i really planned this for three months and really work hard on my free lancing so i get a good earnings...
@madp_071983 (228)
• Oman
2 Apr 11
I suggest that the best thing to do is to approach her and listen to her. Mothers know what's best for their children. There might be some other considerations why she tends to get mad at you. She's your mother. You can't keep hiding from her for the rest of your life. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with your mom so as to listen to the sides of both parties. A parent-child talk is the best remedy. Try to face the problem and not escape from it. It would help, believe me, lovebugjess! =)
@mj_aye (45)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
first of all, it is good that you are happy right now. as what the movie 3 idiots said, make your passion your profession. it is the same way as saying do the things you want to do in your life. in that way, your work will be as easy and as enjoyable as play.
secondly, i think you should just give time and space between you and your mom but not that long. she is maybe mad at you because she only thinks of your future and having a job is one great way to be secured. she just wants the best for you. just understand your mom and love her as always. everything will be alright in God's time.. c:
@lovebugjess (262)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Thank you, yes we really need space. Mom is sometimes pushy but i told her last time that i want to go for business and she doesn't allow me to have it. We are actuallt the family within the business but the thing is she doesn't want to support me as i can see to her actions
@betty110 (66)
• China
2 Apr 11
Hello,my friend. Yes, parents will be garrulous when their child quit their job suddenly. Because parents will think if you have a job, it will be more stable than working by yourself. Do not mad with your parents cause they are just think for you. To solve this situation, maybe you have to explain to them, and let them rest assured. You know, they just won't like you to be so hard to work yourself.
