i know this will happen in the future :( / myLot

Philippines

April 2, 2011 2:02am CST

Hello Mylotters, If there will be one of the few things in the future that makes me worried is when my sister will get married. Oh well I am afraid that my sister going to marry soon this idea scares me a lot I know that she is not getting younger anymore she needs to start a family, I am expecting that one of this day her boyfriend will talk to our parents about stepping to another level of their relationship if that time will happen I will be happy. But it give me shiver also because I know when this time comes it is the time of new beginning on her life which will be some ending in our relationship she will always be my sister I know that but somehow starting a family will be her priority no more late night talks, giggling and playing like a child, eating late at nights ,no more requests to cook her food, no more sister who is going to defend me if I want to hang out with my friends. Again our house will be empty soon it will be mom and me alone this idea makes me sad and happy. Happy because I know that my sister will have a good life with her boyfriend SAD because lot of things will not be the same anymore. I don’t have a choice I don’t want my sister to be alone in the future I want her to have a good husband and loving children to take care of her as she gets old. Coming from a family with one sibling is not that easy to let go of her soon as she decided to start her own family. I am glad she is not here at least she will not read this sentiments of mine I don’t want her to be bother by this statement hahaha!

Happy mylotting!

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Jane

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello bhaby, No worries....adopt my kids

Daddy Neil

@neildc (17239)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

2 Apr 11

how about Zayzay, she can also adopt him. At least there's no boring moments with the two of them.

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bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

@ jaiho, OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

you know the reasons why?

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bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

@ kuya neil, Another NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...........do you want me to have a neuro test soon?

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skysuccess

@skysuccess (8858)

• Singapore

2 Apr 11

bhabycatch013, Just appreciate the special bond you have there with your sister and I am sure the both of you will always have each other in mind. Though, I must admit that like you, I cannot see what the future holds for the both of you. So instead of fretting what is frustratingly a fact - unpredictable, take things one step at a time. You may start or rather have more of these quality times giggles, late nights or whatever the both are enjoying while it lasts. Maybe add more if time and money permits like make a trip to somewhere even remote the both of you have been yearning before she gets hand over for marriage. I believe that's what it means taking time to smell the flowers. Yet, let me assure you that things will be different in time to come, after all people change, circumstances change, even mother earth - which is why all the more you should treasure what the both of you have. If I may add that whatever may happen in the future, nothing will ever change the facts the both of you have and HAD. Nothing will change the bond the both of you have and I am sure the both of you will be seeing and hearing from each other. Take care and have a great weekend.

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello skysuccess It was most appreciated really maybe i will get to use to it soon i'm just being paranoid here because her boyfriend told me that he will take my sister to their cousin and it's too far

, but i can't do anything about it as long as my sister is happy that will be fine for me. thanks for participating happy weekend

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

weeehhh....typo error their cousin and it's too far it should be THEIR PROVINCE

ckyera

@ckyera (17331)

• Philippines

3 Apr 11

Hi bhahycatch! Somehow, I also feel that way with my younger brother. He's already 20 now and I know sooner or later he will be married too and start to make his own family, that thought gives me mixed emotions, maybe because I am also thinking of our parents, that when my brother finally get married, my parents will be alone since I am already married too! (I wonder if they also feel that way when I am about to get married back then) I think even if your sister already have her own family, the bond between you will always be there and stronger as ever. Even if you will have lesser time spend with each other, for sure when you are together you will catch up with those lost moments. Actually in my case, since I am away with my family since I marry my husband, whenever I am with them, I make sure that we will be having a quality time together and our being away with each other makes us closer.

Stop the worries coz there's a lot of better things to happen ahead, you will have an addition in your family and that will add more fun!

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

4 Apr 11

hello cykera, We never talk about this things but when i open it up to her she said nothing will change maybe the time will be lessen but the love will always be there and she will try to keep in touch every now and then, she even said i can leave your soon to be niece or nephew so you will not be sad

wohoooo.....

. It is not easy to accept this kind of reality but i am still happy for me less worries now and i feel better. thanks for the response happy mylotting

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Always smiling

@allknowing (135943)

• India

2 Apr 11

We all have gone through this but you should be mentally prepared in that once she starts her family she will have no time for you. Atleast that is what I noticed with my sisters. We hardly ever meet as mere sisters but with family which is not the same as, as you beautifully put it "late night talks, giggling and playing like a child, eating late at nights ,no more ......."

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Always smiling

@allknowing (135943)

• India

2 Apr 11

And change their nappies too

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello allknowing, Yes i should be prepared for this having a only sister that is the downside of it

,however i can play with my future nephews and nieces

. thanks for participating happy weekend

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sweetme329

@sweetme329 (500)

• Australia

3 Apr 11

Hi there, I can totally understand the emotions you are going through at the moment. I have a sister too and when i got married, she locked herself in the bathroom and cried and didn't even come to bid me bye. She got really upset. But this is nature's rule and one's got no choice. My sis is happy for me now and she comes to visit me whenever she can. The lovely relation that we shared before the marriage has become even more special.

love

sisters

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

4 Apr 11

hello sweetme, Too bad i can't lock myself because for sure i will be here maid of honor

, i know if this will happen the bond we had will be more stronger. thanks for the response happy mylotting

sternking

@sternking (2)

• India

4 Apr 11

Hey i'm also from one sibling family. but my case can be different cos i'm a boy.i know that sisters will be more closer than brothers. after her marriage , she may not be at home, but definitely she'll be in your hear and hence you won't be all alone. hope your mom is not sad about being alone with you :P Cheers catch. some things in life should happen, can't stop them :)

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

5 Apr 11

hello sternking, I know that and at your comment mom will not be sad being alone with me how can you say that?

oh well we can't really stop it that is true. thanks for the response WELCOME TO MYLOT have a nice day!

shibham

@shibham (16977)

• India

2 Apr 11

well friend. I have arranged my sister's marriage ceremony on last 13 December. She was my only sibling and now i have my parents only, I have to stay away from them due to my job. I understand the feelings that you are writing here. Its very hard to stay months after departure but later all become easy as i am now. Have a nice day.

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello shibham, I know that but somehow this reality is quite scary for me maybe because i love her that much and i used to be with her ever since the day i was born, thanks for participating have a nice Sunday ahead!

LetranKnight25

@LetranKnight25 (33121)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

Hello Bhaby-Catch

, soon it will be mom and me alone - For the moment this is my situation at home. i guess for my mom it's kinda lonely that she can't stay home every and instead she would just hang out with friends or attend to her christian organizations. First, i hated the fact that they got married unprepared but it brought me freedom since I have my brother's room now. unlike before when they are still around, I would sleep in the living room or share it with my brother. but now both rooms (guest and another room) are all mine to boot. I don't want to alone either but in this situation, i feel now that am blessed and have all the time i need to prepare myself and do anything that i want

love sister

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello LK, Well we shared same bedroom but i slept with mom i know that mom will be sad too but she is more willing to send my sister into marriage life

, we also know that she will have a better future with her current boyfriend besides that guy is well prepared. My sister let me do whatever i want she even supporting me most of the time, sooner or later i will accept this. thanks for sharing happy weekend

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penrockerchic

@penrockerchic (1903)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

There's nothing you should be worried about. It might be hard to move on with the idea of your sister getting married but that's part of life and the best you could do is support her no matter what. Think of it as another way of making your family circle larger than it used to. At least when that time comes, you would have a brother in addition t your family. It's going to grow and soon kids will come to the family. Even though you might not have much time to spend with your sister anymore, at least you could have the time for yourself, and for your mom and friends as well.

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hi penrockerchic, Yes i know that having a only sister is really difficult for me to accept it lot of things will change but i understand somehow adding a new family member will be great for us. thanks for participating happy weekend

katie0

@katie0 (5203)

• Japan

2 Apr 11

I think after you really get used to her married life you will learn how to enjoy, the problems of the changes are just the getting used to, if you seek for the good and bad points of the changes you will see you can enjoy because you will know there are good things, plus the main reason is let's hope she be happy.

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello katie, Of course i am happy for her i'm just afraid of adjustments that will happen soon this will feelings of mine will be gone soon i hope soon, thanks for participating happy mylotting

bokal2703

@bokal2703 (802)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

I can relate to your post, but in my case, my sister is already married now. And like you, she is my only sister, my baby sister actually (she got married ahead of me). And its not just that she got married, she is also now living in the US with her husband. So when she got married I really felt sad. I am happy that she tied the knot with the man she loves, but I miss her terribly that at the first two months of her being away from me, I often cried (we used to live together, just the two of us here in Manila while our parents are in the province). I missed seeing her when I got back to work, I missed her during weekends which used to be our bonding moments on movies and shopping, I missed her cooking, I missed her grumpiness, I missed her all in all. But of course we all have our own lives to live, and as sad as it is, we have to deal with it. Anyway,just like what you've said you'll forever be sisters, and even if she will start the family of her own, no one can replace you as her sister. Besides, there are so many means of communication and you can always set time to bond with each other even if she got married...let's just think that we don't lose a sister, instead, we gain a brother. =)

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello bokal, I came from a small family maybe thats why i felt this way anyway can't do anything bout it but i am happy for her. a Chinese brother soon

thanks for participating happy weekend

bokal2703

@bokal2703 (802)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

mj_aye

@mj_aye (45)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

we always want what's best for our loved ones. it is good that you are happy for her. i know that your sister will be happy if you are happy with what's happening in her life. you know what, though your sister gets married and she will not be on your house anymore and the time that both of you will be together lessen, the relationship that you had with her will always remain. she will never forget that. marrying doesnot mean your sister is isolated from you and your mom. having children does not mean you focus only on your children. you and your sister can still do the things you often do. you can call her. you can visit her at her house. you can still connect with her all the time. if there's a will, there will always be a way. don't be sad.. be happy and be excited.. c:

bhabycatch013

@bhabycatch013 (9150)

• Philippines

2 Apr 11

hello MJ, WELCOME TO MYLOT! Of course i am very much happy for her it's just i am not ready yet, she will always be my sister and no one can change it but the fact she will be far away from is something i don't want to happen

. I am so excited to have my nieces and nephews to her

but i am just some kind of paranoid that's why i felt this way. thanks for participating have a nice weekend happy mylotting