Flattered or offended
By Toni
@toniganzon (72517)
Philippines
April 2, 2011 7:19am CST
To married women:
If a man would tell you you are pretty and would consider asking you out despite the fact that you are married, would you be offended or flattered? Would you be flattered if someone would tell you you're still very attractive and don't look like a mom at all?
To the husband:
If a man would appreciate your wife's looks and give her compliments would you be mad or proud?
The very first time somebody complimented me on my looks it made me feel uncomfortable. Being a wife and a mother, I felt that I shouldn't be receiving such compliments from another man. But then the compliments just keep coming and I got used to them. When I told my husband about this, he didn't get mad but had that wide grin on his face.
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8 responses
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
2 Apr 11
It depends if how the approach is done, if someone does it in a perverted way ofc i will be mad, otherwise decent compliments, i don't have a problem with that.
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Perverted ones, I ignore them right away. Sincere compliments, I do appreciate them.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
I think I should be flattered cause at least someone still finds you attractive even if you are already married. Marriage can do funny things to women especially with their physical appearance and we should let that happen. Its good to know that you are still attractive to others.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
3 Apr 11
I would love it. I've never gotten complimented before so I think it would be really nice to be noticed.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
2 Apr 11
As a Wife and Mom I think I would be a little of both. As being married and wearing a ring; one may think of the thought that I'm clearly married so why make the comment? On the other hand it's always nice to know that someone else thinks you are attractive aside from your husband and now being a parent.
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@violici (21)
• United States
4 Apr 11
I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all if I received compliments even though I'm married. Even if someone would ask me out. It has happened to me, many times that guys asked me out even though I'm married. They're pigs if they know I'm married and they ask me out but I still enjoy the compliments :p My husband isn't jealous, I don't think he'd care if i got compliments, he trusts me.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
3 Apr 11
I would be offended that someone would single me out like this if they knew i was married. i would also be flattered by the simplicity of the compliment. @mooselovesyou (42)
• United States
4 May 11
I would be flattered that someone still finds me attractive, I don't see why you would be offended. I think its nice when people compliment you, even when you are married.
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
5 May 11
I think it's because a person who really is not comfortable with any compliments. Even as a child I felt embarrassed when someon would give me a compliment.
