Why still single?

@orang13 (723)
Philippines
April 2, 2011 11:51am CST
I have a friend, she's been worried and puzzled of how come up to now, nobody wanted to be her boyfriend. No one wanted to court her. She is not ugly, but not pretty, just a normal girl. She's smart but a bit lack in height. She's not fat nor chubby, just petite. She comes from a middle class family, she's educated and she interacts with people too. I just seem to puzzled too, why on earth have happened to her prince charming..? What could be the possible reason? What advice can I give her? Should i tell her to flirt or to simply wait?
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19 responses
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
6 Apr 11
Maybe she's a loner type of girl. She should learn to socialize with others so that others could appreciate and get to know her more. Boys are just everywhere. She could have one soon at the right time.
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
8 May 11
I will tell her to socialize.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
3 Apr 11
She will get her prince charming if she can be herself. Well, actually, maybe she was too picky, that is why people afraid to approach her or something? Would it be possible reason for that? Maybe she should lower her expectation a bit, or let people have an impression that she is approachable.
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
How would the people know that she is picky if they haven't even asked her out?
@yuriclar (28)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Hi Orang13! Your friend is just 18--she's still very young, so there is no need to panic!It's not like the world's going to end soon and that it is her last chance to have a boyfriend. I believe that there is someone meant to be with somebody. I know someone who got married at the age of 40 and it was her first boyfriend! they're still very much together now and have a very happy family! Just tell your friend to be herself and do not try tr be more flirtatious if it's not really in her nature. Otherwise, guys will be more turned-off as she might look like she's trying to hard!One great secret!SMILE more often!People, in general, tend to be more drawn to those who have genuine smile!Who knows what might happen next!
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
A SMILE is a great advice i can say! I will let her do that more often.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
3 Apr 11
hello How about resgstering herself on some dating site.May be she do not have much big circle ,she is not meeting enough people ,so she is not geting any man to ask her. Registering her on dating site can give her enough exposure.
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
I don't approve much on online dating because most of it will just end it up.. rushed relationships.
@dadindine (230)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Maybe the guys get intimidated by the fact that your friend is smart or too smart for that matter.
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Really? She doesn't sound smart in life.. just more of a booksmart.
@meyrek (141)
• Estonia
3 Apr 11
I think that the best she can do is just wait for her prince :D I have a friend who was 30 when she goed to her first date :D and now she and her "prince" are living together. So tell him that she just has to wait for the right one to come and when the right one comes she should take him. :D Another idea! Mabey she is lesbian?
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
The lesbian thing creeps my veins out of my body! No probably she's not! I can tell it, she's a real friend.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
2 Apr 11
True love has no timetable. Sometimes it won't show up until later in life. Never give up!! Always be open for true love tends to show up when you least expect it!!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
hello orang, Too much worries being a single... but they will surely say "i'd better stay single" once they feel the hardship of being married,having kids and all the stress. How old is your friend?...is she old enough to think that maybe love has forgotten her? She don't to worry,love will come at the right time. Thu some people marries at older ages ...some even in their 30's. It's not the age that matters anyway...it's love. Just tell her to wait for her prince to come...armored with love and care happy weekend
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
She's 18 but what bothers her is that she never tried being in a relationship.
• India
3 Apr 11
According to me you should tell your friend to give her some time. Dont think about the boyfriend issues right now. She will get her prince dont worry. if you advice her to flirt then it will lead in a problem the world will take this flirty thing in a another way. Tell her to be a best buddy understand each other increase the friendship with boys. Be cool and clam from her side. Her prince will come to her at the right time. Tell her dont think negatively God has planned for each one of us. She will get a good handsome guy. Just suggest her to be happy in life. and dont get worried and puzzeled.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
3 Apr 11
Your friend, who is still a baby(18), should stop worrying about such a thing as having a boyfriend. There is such much she can do with her life until "Mr. Right" does come into her life. I would be worried about her if she was passed 30, but she is young and has a lot of growing up to do. Better she wait than to run through a river of men and not one of them is the right one. Then, when the right one comes along, she is too worn out to enjoy her true love. Tell her to establish herself by going to college and getting a good job where she can take care of herself it things in life goes wrong.
• United States
2 Apr 11
Perhaps her prince charming is still out there somewhere. Please tell her not rush, rushing means she may opt for someone who may not make her happy. Tell her love does not see her height, looks, body shape, etc.. Say to her to take it easy and not to be sad. One day love will come to her when she perhaps least expects it. Does she go out anywhere or is she specifically a home bodied person. If not tell her to review her interests and maybe go out with the girls for a bit so she can experiment what she likes and does not in terms places to entertain with. I would not encourage her to flirt because she may attract the wrong types. We cannot force love, love happens. She can go out with her girl friends and be silly all in fun. Wishing her all the best.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
3 Apr 11
Well, maybe this can comfort her. I have almost 36 years and have never had a relationship. Now I'm resigned to stay single for life. However, the important thing is that this does not create serious problems !
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
doesn't it seem so sad at all?
• Australia
3 Apr 11
I reckon, waiting is the best option for her at the moment. If one is looking for a serious relationship, it is better to wait for that ultimate person. About her looks, if i were her friend, i would take her to a beautician for a makeover or so and ask him/her to work on her looks. Beauticians can come out with very good results at times. And then, boys will be hovering around her. LOL Good Luck!
@axlrate7 (1398)
• Philippines
3 Apr 11
Well I'm still single too, but I am sticking my heart now in fulfilling my dreams first. Love will come at the right time, you will be surprise to yourself in witnessing that in the future. Just pray first to GOD, and tell HIM about your request with all your heart. Then wait for it to come in your life.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
2 Apr 11
There is someone for everyone. She needs to be confident in herself and walk with her head high knowing she is a great catch. She shouldn't wait for someone to magically appear she need to live her life the best she knows how. She needs to do the activities she wants to do and eventually she will find someone. How old is she? If she is very young tell her not to worry it will happen when it's supposed to. In the mean time she should have fun, live her life for herself and no one else.
• Saint Lucia
2 Apr 11
If she was my friend i would ask her to wait.Love is there for us all but sometimes it takes longer for some.Flirting i think is a mistake,because that may attract all the wrong character to her door.She cant force love along.
@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
In my opinion, waiting would be her best option. Maybe the universe is still trying to come up with the perfect guy for her. Who knows. As of the meantime I suggest you encourage her to take classes or get active in activities that involve groups so she could get to meet new people thereby expanding her network of people. Not only is this beneficial for her love life - the expanded number of friends would allow her to meet more and more guys who might be interested in her - she would also be able to develop more self-confidence, or get to meet persons who might be helpful in her career or life in general. In any case, expanding her network or friends would be a win-win situation, provided that sh choose the ones she'd actually hang out with. True love waits, they say. Rushing love might only end up in a disaster so assure her there would always be a time for everything.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I am single becuase I choose to be. Looking for love and a ralationship is not for me! I don't have the time and don't want to have the time for relationships if I had the time! Looking for a man is dang hard and at my age I am to darn old to weeding through the good,the bad and the ugly! I have problems trusting men in relationships and myself! I turn into a passive erson,just like my mom was with my father! I refuse to do that again! I need my space! I need my privacy! I need to independent! Being with someone you lose out on alot of that! I don't work on relationships! Never knew how because I witnessed some pretty bad relationships! i need to be single and alone! Less worry! Less stress! More independence!
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
2 Apr 11
Hi orang, Maybe it is still not time for your friend to meet his prince charming. She just need to have patience. Patience is virtue. Time will come the man of her dreams will come. I guess she still need to do something as of now to make herself better and maybe after it, she will finally meet the lucky guy!