To forgive is to forget

To forgive is to forget is the best thing that we can do to end hurting ourselves.

Hi gurlcrush17, I'm sorry to say this but what you did was petty and childish. If you have such a big problem with your friend missing out on your birthday, why not just say and have a discussion about it. Was ignoring her birthday satisfying? What good did it give you for throwing that kind of tantrums. Sometimes people forget because they are busy and are undergoing some major upheavals in their lives. By calling their attention by their insensitivity then some measures of reconciliation could have been done about it.

i respectfully disagree... never forgive, never forget is the way to go!!! i'm kidding. i would say for your particular situation, it would have been better if you went ahead and greeted your friend on her birthday even though she forgot greeting you. really, no need to carry such a big emotional baggage like that. hopefully, both of you patch things up. keep us updated. cheers!!!

You should have sent her a greeting, she might have felt guilty then and it would have been a sweet revenge. I can forgive but I could never forget. When something painful happened to me and I was hurt by somebody I cared about, friends, lovers or family, i could forgive but forgetting what has happened is impossible for me.

I do not agree on this phrase, I can easily forgive but I can not easily forget. when friend harm me for whatever reason, yes right after the incident I can forgive him but the damaged has been done you can not bring back your friendship as it is before the incident.

They say if you aren't friends now, you were never friends at all. Does that friend make effort to get in touch at all? If she does talk to you on other days besides your birthday, at least she does think about you. If not, maybe she's busy with new things. People change, maybe you have stopped talking to other people who cared about you as well.

Forgiveness gives power to not be overwhelmed by negative feelings and emotions that maintain the pain. Forgiveness is a book, a free and voluntary act, not a feeling, is an open process that brings freedom. Oblivion is actually an outlet, an infected wound hiding under a colorful bandage. Forgetting forgiveness off slowly but without the deep soul that has not forgiven. Forgetting is a self-deception, a cruel lie of man against himself. You're right that the human is not easy to forgive them. Is practically impossible. But that is not possible to man is possible with God. Only He can learn to forgive. But we are also commanded to do so. Commandment forgiveness is to our benefit, it is time for love. It's good to forgive first and then possibly forget. It would be, if I would fit me. If forgiveness is to cover everything with a "coat", if remission can be called face of indifference and carelessness that enjoy the greatest, if forgiveness is to keep your life you had before ... then I forgave him. But not so! For me, forgiveness means you can avoid things, places, moments I do not feel anything, for me, forgiveness was associated with trust and he hit me so bad, that I am afraid to watch before. Forgiveness must come from your heart and believe that only forgetting, injury and pain will disappear from the soul, and forgiveness will make its appearance!

Actually, what you did was not right my friend. You should have greeted your friend on her birthday. Never ever avenge someone for something that she did to you. She might have not intentionally forgotten your birthday. She might have been preoccupied with her life which later prompted her to fail to greet you on your birthday. You should have tried to confront her and ask her why so you will know the reason why she failed to greet you. She's your friend and you should have gone an mile further to find out why and the reason behind it. Remember, it takes a lifetime to earn one's reputation especially for a friend but it takes a second to lose it. Which do you prefer? =)

yeah. its hard to forget and to forgive if you have no desire to do them. but once you have this desire that you want to forgive and to forget the hurtful event, then you would a much easier and happier time. sometimes, in order to freely give our forgiveness, we have to understand the person, imagine if we are on his shoes. think about how hurtful it would bring if your friend whom you have offended would close his doors and would not even want to undrstand you.. c: dont be tired of learning to forgive and forget.. c:

Yes a little bit strange at first but when you find the peace that you want for that person you will learn to forget, a little bit odd though if sometimes we tend to lower our pride we can learn to adjust and decidingly able to ingest the feeling of really forgiving another one, it will only take time but it will matter not in the end.