Fear of Rejection

Hi Masihi. Sorry, I haven't been around lately...it is tax season here and I have been CRAZY at work. Anyways, like other have said, no one likes rejection, however it is how you handle rejection that allows you to move on and try again. You have to attempt to overcome the rejection (not an easy task) but to move on and try again. I was in sales for a while, and everytime I got a door closed in my face it hurt my ego, however, I kept at it no matter how difficult it was and finally was successful after 100s of no's I finally got a yes and it got easier and easier as the days progressed. I still cringe when someone says no, but I say a lot of no's to sales people as well and I have learned to definitely not take anything personally. Becoming social isn't easy for some people, just keep trying and don't give up. Good luck to you! Oh, can you PM details about Monavie please? Thanks.

Indeed, even the smartest people must be careful with all the scams on the internet. OK, so let's take a good look at you. What do we see. Hmmmm??? Inspite of any problems you have, you are special. There is no one in the universe exactly like you. You have a view unique. Fear of failure or rejection??? Do you know that every single successful person has failure under their belts??? Failure is a great teacher. You learn what not to do. Next, fear. Do you know that everyone experiences some fear whenever they start out on a new venture? EVERYONE!!! OK! It doesn't matter what everybody else is doing. IT'S WHAT YOU DO THAT COUNTS!!!! So set your goal. March forward. If you get rejected or fail, Great! You learn what not to do then you come up with a better idea then GO AROUND THE OBSTACLES!!! After all, we can't allow short sighted people stop us from reaching our goals. Have you ever noticed in sports that the most talented team doesn't always win. Often it's the team that wants it the most, tries the hardest, never gives up regardless that comes out on top. Few things really worthwhile in life come easy. OK, draw a line in the sand. No more excuses. Go around the obstacles. THINK YOUR WAY THROUGH!!! Yes, you are more capable than you realize. You can make this happen. SEE YOURSELF AS SUCCESSFUL AND YOU WILL BE!!! I believe in you!!

Oh how I can relate with you, and it can make it quite scary to want to branch out into something else. Being afraid that no one will like it, or like you, or think you are strange, and you need to keep quiet. Or being in a crowded room somewhere and trying to make friends and no one wants to care. It can be quite frustrating and actually I think in most situations it continues to get even worse.

Hi Msihi, with me it was constant criticism and physical abuse so that now in later life I'm still being spiritually abused and I have no confidence or backbone. I've cut myself off from people because I can't trust anyone and I don't want to give anyone the chance to reject me again. It still happens though because the real truth is, no one wants to be friends with me. So I know where you are coming from. I also lost my lifesavings when I bought a cafe. I only lasted 10 months and I stutter too...lol. Just remember that most people never do anything, they never have a gpo. Even if you fail at something, feel good about yourself because you had a go and you're still trying. The trick is to never make the same mistake twice. I'm learning to be content and to accept who I am even though I haven't figured that out yet. I just want you to know that you are not alone.

I understand where you are coming from. The fear of rejection is normal because of the disabilities or limitations as you have mentioned here. I do understand that you might get judged immediately because of these things that you have mentioned. I would suggest that you take strength from your weaknesses and you can take advantage of things that your are most better at. I'm pretty sure there are. As far as rejection goes, don't get discouraged. Rather, be inspired and be encouraged to prove to yourself that you are not what you think you are.

things come and go and they are never permanent. what i want to say is that with time each one would be able to adjust to the surroundings and then the fear will go away. fear of rejection and failure is common to all and what i have come to know is that many times it is the best of our interests to be able to maintain a decorum of our mind so that we would be comfortable in all the situations no matter where we live or what we do. This is the best part I overcome everything by will power.

I think at one time I had this but it did just slowly fade away over time. I have come to the realization that in life, you are not going to win every single battle. There are a lot of things in life, where you will be struck down, where you are going to be told no and that can be quite the bitter pill to swallow but it is very true. In the end, there is really no need to fear rejection. If anything rejection is just something that proves that life is fickle at best and not everything is going to go your way. So instead of focuses on the elements of life that lead to rejection. It would be prudent to focus on what goes right. In some ways, the fact that everything does not go right might be a good thing, as if we never experienced rejection, it might be a more horrible thing when we actually do.

If you ever get the chance watch the HBO film "Temple Grandin" about the woman of the same name. She has severe autism and sees in pictures. I have just watched it now and this woman is totally inspiring even though it was an actress playing her lol.

I was afraid of rejection as well especially when I was a teenager. I remember when I was a kid that all of my classmate during my kinder years are hating me without any reason. They just hate me for nothing. Then I could also feel that during school days both elementary and high school, I mean not at least what happened during my kinder years but what I mean is I could still feel the rejection from other people. During college years it was the same thing that most of my classmate does not like me at all because I am just a normal student who is responsible enough to do the right thing unlike them that they are expecting me to glorify their wrong doings. They thought I was too nice that is easy for them to put me down. Same thing with my 3 social climber cousins that are living from US that they don't like me just because I am not rich and the fact that my brother and I were able to travel without our parents, in other terms just us. Because my cousins are kind of person that they want to kiss the @$$ and please the rich people. Aside from that they loathe themselves as a Filipino which indeed they can't take or accept the fact that their parents are from Philippines. Due for having bad economy here in the Philippines they have their mentality that our country is like a hell then in America it is already heaven where they can already solve the problems easily. Now I realized that the biggest mistake that I have done in my life was pleasing everybody that I am always hoping that people will appreciate me if I would be humble to them and do something nice to them but I was wrong. Most of them have abused my humility, kindness and other good deeds. I am a kind of person that won't fight back right away for a fact that I don't really want to stoop down to their pathetic level. So now I really learned that I can't please everybody. I am not in need of other's appreciation anymore and so far I am not conscious if other people hates me, find it annoying, or dislike me because their hatred and stupidity could really inspire me. Their rejection makes me more stronger that I was able to fight in a level headed manner. I realized that the problem was not from me but it was their problem and fault at all for being immature and stupid. I don't want to deal with people who just want to find something wrong with the person instead of appreciating the good deeds. I am not fear of rejection anymore and when I am not finding a job which is competitive because of being a graphic artist I am taking other's criticism because I know it for a fact that it is constructive which they are sincere enough to help me in developing for more improvement.