Being a mother and married and still no help with the kids?

I'm sorry to hear that it must be stressful. Have you talked to your husband about it? He needs to know he needs to do his fair share they are his kids to it's not fair to you to do it all with no help. Is there any room in your budget to pay someone even a few times a week to come help you do the housework or babysit for a few hours to get what you need done? Are there any teenagers you can hire to be a mother's helper? How old are your kids? Are they old enough to do chores around the house? Do you have family in the area that can help you? I hope you get some help soon. Either that or go on strike.

I have already given up talking to my husband over this. So what I will do is when I dun have to finish the work rightaway, drop everything and just take off somewhere with the children. It can be the library or the beach. Children are easy to entertain. Have a ball with them yourself. When you get home, it is surprising that you have the energy to do more housework, but this time you are happier.

I went through the same exact thing. My husband worked until about 5 then I cooked dinner and bathed the kids and got them in bed by 7:30 and then he would go to his friends house. I lived this way for about 6 years. I could have dealt with it if he showed me respect and acted as if he cared about me but that wasent the case. I hated living like that. When he moved out it was no differnet then when he was there I was still doing what I had always done anyway it wasent any adjustment to suddenly have to take care of the kids more or anything.

Hi dear. This is the problem faced by a lot of women now including me. My husband is just like yours and we are in the same situation. I do feel frustrated sometimes but there is nothing I can do. He is the sole breadwinner of the family and I can hardly ask him to stop his work and come home early. And moreover, I am pregnant with my second child now and am tired all the time. Just wish I had some help. But since your kids are very young, you would find it very difficult now. Don't you have anybody to help. Or if you can afford daycare, it would be better if you send your first child there for some hours - maybe two or three so that you can take care of the younger one and still get some rest.