Saying "I'm sorry"...

yes, sometimes it happened to me as well. Know what will i do? I will ignore everyone who knows that they made a mistake and don't even say "I'm sorry", sometimes silence explaining many things.

some people find it very difficult to say sorry because they are perfectionist, they could hardly accept that sometimes they commit mistakes . or sometimes they knew they commit mistakes but because of pride and ego they just ignore it.

Pride. It's these people's pride that keeps them from saying "I'm sorry." It's like: "Yeah, my mistake, so what? Everybody make mistakes. So I can buy you something in exchange for that? But no, you cannot get me saying sorry to you because I'm too proud of myself." attitude. Saying sorry is also a sign of being humble and people who cannot say I'm sorry is perhaps not of humble in nature.

that's kind of strange. I usually do offer to fix a mistake but I also say Sorry before I offer it Your friend said the right thing :)

I can remember times with my ex husband when I would try to apologize. It is hard to do sometimes. I think the ego and not knowing how the other person will react. Not wanting a fight or an argument. It is easier to just say it and get it out of the way and move on. People really do respect you when you apologize.

Hi oasis, I agree with you, a simple sorry can do wonders between relationships. But sometimes they find difficult to use this word and finds it egoistic. And at same time, Sorry has to be said from the heart with the feel of how we hurted to others or did mistake. If saying sorry without realising is of no good. To your situation, she should have said a sorry for sure. But She seems she dint realise her mistake. Make her understand, if not leave her, when she faces a similar situation, her heart will feel for sorry! Human conscious is so sensitive rather

Hi. oasis_9. If this had to have been me, I would have said that I was sorry very quickly. I would have felt so badly about what I have done, even if it was a very small mistake. I think that this lady should have said that she was sorry because she did spill your friend's plate all over her. It would have been the right thing to do. Many people won't apologize to me for the terrible things that they have done and said to me. I think that they just feel guilty and they don't want to see themselves as making a mistake. But one thing about me, if I did something that I am sorry for, I will be woman enough to apologize to that person. I don't have too much of pride that will not allow me to.

I thought her offering to replace the food was her way of saying sorry.However if it was me who did the spill i would have apologised first then offered to replace her food.

There is nothing to be ashamed of in saying sorry. But, what is shameful is doing things that make you say sorry, and what is more shameful is to commit mistakes and still not accepting them. But, some people do not realize this fact. Their ego has got a bit too high place for them to realize something like humble attitude. In my opinion, "not committing mistakes" is not what life is about, but it is about committing mistakes, accepting them and never repeating them again. Even if I am not the one who is wrong, i would prefer saying a sorry than to hurt somebody's feelings, except in special circumstances.

Yeah they are two simple words. Yet for some people, they are going to be the most difficult words in the world that we are going to ever speak. I think that there are a number of reasons why it is hard to say that people are sorry. Most likely, they made a very bad mistake and it is really hard to admit that they were wrong. That is just a simple human failing, the inability to admit mistakes can really be rather stubborn within some people. Also, you don't want the words that you state to seem like a hallow and rather empty apology. That can be even worse than not apologizing at all a lot of the time. There are times where people might hesitate to say they are sorry, because they have rarely, if ever done it before, therefore, they are hesitant to do so because it sounds phony. Or maybe they have been on the receiving end of some false apologies in their day. Not that justifies it or anything, but that could be a possible reason.

That girl is such a bad girl!... sorry, but she is! it is a simple accident and it is not really a hard situation to say sorry to someone,...and in the first place it was an accident she did not mean it to happen why so hard to say sorry...right? How would i react?...i would do what your friend did to her, she deserves it!

If i am the one who do that, the first thing that i will utter is "i am so sorry, i didn't mean to do it" . Then, i would offer to replace the food. While if i am in your friends' shoes, i would surely get angry, but i would try to temper it, because i know accidents do happen. But, i would accept the offer to replace it, why not? I would even add dessert , as a penalty for her clumsiness!

there are many ways to say that you are really sorry of that something you did, i think this girl's way is to buy your friend another set of meal that she spills out, its her way of saying sorry and to make up with your friend she's willing to buy her another one, rudeness will come if this girl who spill out your friends plate doesn't bother to look and even offer you something in return.... sometimes saying sorry isn't enough action speaks louder than voice, your friend decline her offer so simply she refused to accept her make up for her mistake... that was kinda rude too

Hi Oasis ... I also never experienced it but by chance that person want to apologize so what else he did not intentionally do it and I have to forgive him. But this is the opposite, if I experience anything like that I too would upset because he had make a mistake would not apologize even say the words that make other people take offense so natural that if your friends angry because that's a human.

Saying sorry I guess is the least one can do if she/he have done something accidentally or unintentional to others, but I guess some people really have no manners.The way they have been raised is one thing or they are too confident of themselves.They don't care even if they have offended others.I haven't been in that situation yet but if ever. I'll do the same thing your friend did or even worst.

It's all about ego, I guess because there is always a tendency in us not to take the blame for anything - even if we know we are wrong. This defensive mechanism in us is in-built. But it doesn't mean we cannot overcome this - I am not saying that I'm perfect - but I have done it in small and little ways. At first it's hard because one feels a tinge of humiliation when saying "sorry" to someone. But once you cross the hurdle, the next one becomes easier. It also free you from feeling guilty after that - i.e. if you really mean it when you say "I'm sorry for....(whatever)." Another thing I guess, is about the "habit of winning", which unconsciously influences our reaction to be defensive. Deep inside, our subconscious voice is telling us, "If I say I'm sorry, it means I lose to someone,and I don't like to lose!" Humbling ourselves before others (i.e. by admitting our mistakes) always gives the illusion of "losing" to others. But that's not necessarily so. Most of the time, we mature through humiliations and THAT humbles us and hence makes us grow up.

Yes, I do agree with what you said... there are many people that is hard to say sorry, and I'm one of that people; but I'm not like the one you describe above. It's hard to say sorry because you just only shy, or in situation like you both don't want to say it, you just want to wait the other to say sorry. Source of this was, "PRIDE".