i have no friends...
By misc11
@misc11 (384)
United States
April 5, 2011 12:23am CST
I don't know if this is something everyone goes through, or if it is just me, but sometimes I feel like I have no friends. If someone looked at me and my life, they would say I have a million friends, I am very social and a very happy person, but I don't always feel that way. I have a boyfriend now, and I feel like my friends don't invite me to do as much anymore, and it really hurts my feelings, but I don't know if I should say anything to them or if I am just being really sensitive. I used to think I had a lot of friends, but now it seems like I don't have any, and the ones I thought were such good friends aren't as good of friends. I think this just might be natural because most of my friends are single and I see why they want to hang out with social people more, but it still makes me upset.
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8 responses
@onuflorin23 (13)
• Romania
5 Apr 11
maybe your friends don t want to disturb you, if you are you with your boyfriend don t be upset.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
7 Apr 11
My life used to be equally lonesome, but there is a secret to turning things around.
In this short paragraph, you said I, me, my at least 24 times. Try using he, she, you, yours, they, them, their, theirs as many times in a conversation and your friendship level should pick up enormously.
No one likes to hear someone so involved with themselves that they can only talk about I and me.
Check out a rewrite of your paragraph:
Does everyone go through times when they feel they have no friends? Are there times when you stop being invited to social events? Are your feelings hurt if this happens? Does your life change dramatically when you get a new boyfriend? Do some of your friends turn away? What do you do to keep from being upset?
Notice that "I" didn't should up once. The conversation was tilted toward the other person instead of only considering yourself. That draws people to you.
Good luck.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
I am in the same situation however I accepted it since my boyfriend don't want me to hang out with them.I felt that your friends are not really true friends or? Please correct me if I'm wrong.Even I am not that active or being with my friends like I used to,we also still hang out sometimes.There are really times that everything changes for a reason.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
5 Apr 11
I can understand where your coming from. Your friends may feel like your too busy with your boyfriend or feel uncomfortable inviting you and him for things since they are single. I would talk to them about it and let them know that you are still the same person even though you have a boyfriend and that you can still do things with them without him. See what they and it might work out well for everyone that you all have a talk.
@sheanjamelo (6)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Lots of people encountered that way after seeing you in a relationship. They are the one pulling themselves out with you because they taught that you don't want them anymore because you found someone already to lean on or maybe they don't want to hang out with you because they know that your boyfriend will go with you and by that their privacy will gonna be limited. So you must talk with them why they change after seeing you in a relationship and you must let them know that even you already have a partner you are still remain the same person they have known before and let them understand the value of friendship. :)
@mog7777777 (18)
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5 Apr 11
trust me... your friend didn't abandon you... you just need to act active.. such as invite them first and not waiting for their invitation.. do not think right about what are you thinking right now.. because you don't know about what are they thinking about you.. it will only drive you worse... maybe the situation is not same as is was... "situation change people"
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
Sometimes having a boyfriend who wants you to be always with him and is not very much in sync with your friends would make your friends keep their distance from you.
however, it's still your call whether to keep your friends or your boyfriend. But i think, it's still better to keep both of them . You just have to balance your time with them though.
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
5 Apr 11
maybe your friends doesn't like your boyfriend, or maybe they just simply think that your not as free as them because you have to divide your time with them and your boyfriend... i think you better talk to them and know their side, don't just think of all the negative stuffs that may hurt you... there must be a good reason why their not inviting you anymore