Will you curse your child?

Hi Ifa, Sorry to hear about your father..My Father left too when I was 4 and my brother was 6 months old. I am not angry with him. I looked after him when I was 19 and I found him. He got another family. On my own opinion, we can nothing if we hate or love our father because of what he did to us...It's will only cause us more burden. On my case, its okey if he will remember us, it's okey too if not. We used to live without him, so life will move on....If i will have a children, I will try not curse them. That's not a good influence or example for a child..Because, they will copy and follow it and apply it to their lives as they grow up. The Bible said, train up the child, not curse him/her. God bless...Happy Mylotting.

Im so sorry to hear about your relationship with your father. I hope you too can still work it out and it's not to late for it to happen. As a mother I don't think I can ever do that to my child for any reason. Children are to be loved and cared for. they are gifts from God and cursing them will do no good with them or me.

Hi ifa! God forbids if any such situation comes in my life. However, if it happens in that scenario I may feel bad about my children, however, I would refrain from condemning them in public.

Hi ifa Well, should I be honest here? Of course, I have to be. I am not sure of what the answer will be. I know myself - I am quite moody, quite unhappy a soul and quite immature too. Going by this I cannot say that I will never curse my kid. Maybe it is too early as right now we have no plans of the baby but ho knows, once the baby is preparing to arrive, I grow to be a parent - a loving parent. I remember Sushmita Sen(former Miss Universe - the first from India and one of my Idols) saying something similar to this (I forget the real words, sorry) "Motherhood automaically gets into the blood of a girl or woman the day she becomes a mother, there is no other place to learn this" - Maybe the same for a father too. So I will wait for the time to come. But personally, I think it would be unhealthy of me if I cursed a kid

It's sad to hear that you and your father don't get along well and judging from your story, he is to blame for that. I don't think you have any respect for your father at all, but what you have is just an authority that he's your father but other than that there's nothing else. I won't respect such kind of dad if i were in your situation. I would thank him only for bringing me into this world but not for raising me coz he was never there. I am a mother and i cannot imagine cursing my son or even abandoning him. He's my world and my husband and i love him so much.

Hi Ifa ... For parents condemn the child is an act that was not praiseworthy, because after all children are our flesh and blood to be maintained and protected so that future to be good and dutiful to parents.

It never crossed my mind, to condemn my son. My boys are the reason I still survive, so it is not possible for me, curse my son.

Of course I will not curse my child. I am aware has a lot of mistakes to my child. Whatever happens, I will never curse my child. If my child is angry with me, I really understand, because I have make lots of mistakes.

it hard in family relationshp when there is separation of parents and child like in divorce cases and such , usully the kids being small may not understading the situation and may end up blaming themselves or mad or angry , causing them growing up not in a good perspective of their own adult relationship later.Cursing in anger is common as a outlet of reaction from being hurt or unwanted.Personally i will not to that.

Awh ifa I am really sorry to hear this. I did not have a father figure while growing up. I can't imagine cursing my kids and although thankfully I have had a very good relationship with them, I cannot imagine doing so if life was otherwise. Sadly when some of us have not so great upbringing we lean/grow to be better parents. I have learned in life to place any anger and experience towards making life better my side for my children and me. Some have way rougher in life that they somehow cannot get past it. It really has to be tough because they were once children and did not ask for the mistreatment and or abandonment of their parent.

Its really to bad to hear this about your father. But I can definitely say I know where you are coming from. I grew up with my dad, he was always there, but never there emotionally, but there financially. He and my mom finally decided to separate, I had no remorse about this. It was actually all for the better. I grew up in a household with cursing coming from my father. So I wouldn't treat my kids like this. We were not directly cursed at, but hearing it was enough. I want my kids (when I decide to have some) to grow up in an environment different from mines. Not that I had a horrible childhood, but I wasn't perfect.

i will never ever do that, cursing is an evil ways... My child is just so precious and dear to me why would i do that, even if she will commit mistakes one day in the future i would still forgive her and love her.

I'm so sorry for your dad. Never will I curse my children. Words can kill. We either MAKE or BREAK the future of a child by way of our tongue. Everything has its consequences. A good word said will boomerang a good reward while a negative word uttered will reflect an evil one. So better yet speak of blessings to your children since words of wisdom and blessings must flow out of our mouth. After all, we are blessing ourselves too once we speak of blessings to our children because our children are us who came from us. =)

I had similar experience, but the fact that he's still your father and nothing can change that. If he has apologised, i think you should forgive him. Mine, apologised few years ago after 18 years of neglecting that he had a son. All i did was to forgive him, because his my blood. I hope not to curse my kid for any reason. Please forgive him.