baby i cheated on you

You can't really have a relationship that isn't based on honesty. If you lie to keep your partner, you won't really have a true partnership. I would wonder what you really want a relationship for if you aren't looking for an honest, mutual relationship. If you aren't looking for that, then you should probably be upfront with your partner and let them move on. It isn't fair to lie to someone to keep them interested no matter how well you treat them otherwise. I say you should come clean.

It depends on the circumstances. People make mistakes, sometimes big mistakes. If the cheating was a one-time thing, something that I would never do again, then no. It would be unfair to my partner to tell them. I should carry the guilt of my actions on my own without forcing the other person to "forgive" me. However, if the action was part of a pattern. Something that I knew I would do again, then I'd have to seriously think about the relationship. I'd have to tell the other party because I wasn't being fair to them. Obviously something in the relationship isn't working and the other person has the right to find someone else who could be faithful.

Before I cheat on my partner, the relationship between me and him would be over and done with. I would not cheat on him while we are together. I would rather do so when me and him are done and over with.

The guilt would eat me up until i couldn't see straight. i would have to tell my partner that I cheated. it would be what i would have to do to move on.

If you cheated on your partner, you have broken a trust. That is the part that is hard to 'get over.' Not telling your partner is again a lack of truefullness. You may enjoy having this secret but you are living a lie. There is enough lying and dishonesty outside the most intimate relationship you have to cheat. If no one can trust you when you vow to be faithful, no one can trust you with anything. If you want to cheat, have the honesty to end the relationship before you do.