i received the gift.......of my EX......

Hello ASliah, That's alright, at least you got something to eat with your "Boyfriend" when the two of you have nothing else to eat on. besides, you should be firm that this person is no longer the one you loves and the one for you is your BF. by not accepting it, proves that you might still have feelings for that guy. As for your boyfriend, there's no doubt in my mind that he got jealous of it, probably because he did love you there.don't be afraid to accept stuff, even if the person has an agenda you have your decision, and not to be with them back anymore. Have a nice day.

It depends I guess. If it is something not personal, why not accept it? He might be regretting his action while he was with you before and it was his way of saying sorry...

asliah no I disagree with you, why antagonize your current boy friend by taking a gift from an ex. there had t o be a reason he is an ex and if you keep getting gifts from the ex and flaunting them in front of your now boy friend, I suspect he may become your newest ex. thats not fair to be favoring a new boy friend and accepting gifts from a former boy friend. this is to me pretty darned chintzy. Not a nice thing to flaunt in front of your new boy friend at all.

Hi. asliah. There has to be a reason why he really gave you this gift. For him to say, "just nothing", is not a good enough of excuse. I can understand you being perplexed. I am too. Your boyfriend is right. You should not accept chocolates and a display from Singapore as an gift from your ex boyfriend. I think that this is very strange of him to do this to you.

Well, for me there's nothing wrong with it. It's not like you asked him for a gift. It would be pretty rude if he came all the way to your house and he gives it to you then you just turn your back on him. It's alright as long as you both know where you both stand and as long as you make sure that your current boyfriend that there's nothing romantic between you and your ex.

well winning you back is just fine but if it is food being given be careful that he might have put something in it. You already experienced what it is to be with him so be very careful of the traits you disliked in him for differences in a relationship counts a lot. Study the root cause of your separation with him to have a decision that you need to have a distance in between the two of you. Stop receiving gifts that are too expensive that he is almost buying you.

I don't see anything wrong with accepting the gift. Now if it was meant for someone else then yeah I'd have to give it back. But that could just be your ex's way of saying I want to be friends. But if it starts a problem it's not worth screwing up your present relationship.

No harm in receiving gifts from your ex. He might be thinking for 'old time sake' he still treasure the friendship he once shared with you. It is fairly normal for your new beau to be a bit annoyed as he is only human with a gift of a jealous heart and hoped that you should have severed your ties with your ex now that he has become your new hero.

Sounds like your currant bf is jealous. Theres nothing wrong with accepting a gift from anyone. Your currant bf is probably thinking that your ex wants you back and your accepting the gift encourages him. That may be so too.

Maybe your ex still have the feelings to love you. I think your boy friend is right. Because it will be a reason to distract your relationship with him. If you really love your boy friend. You must give him an opportunity to be respected...

Hello asliah, He probably just wanted to give them to you, not because he wanted anything in return. If he had done something wrong, he probably realized that later. In my case, my girlfriend broke up with me for unreasonable cause. I don't really understand, i have always wanted her to be open about her feelings for me. One fatal day she says she was trying to get away from me for months!! How was i supposed to know that??? Especially when, only for her sake i didn't meet her much, we texted each other whole day. I compromised so much for her, i longed to meet her, see her face and talk to her face to face, but she wanted to be very confidential about it, i just thought it scared her. I just don't know.. One day she just says she can't stay with me, and she just went away... God knows what is in her head. I am still trying hard to let go of her completely. It is going to take me more time, but i am sure i am going to come out of it. She is so much pampered, so immature, that she doesn't know how much it hurts to be me now. :( I could still go to her house and gift her something small just to let her know i cared and loved her so much, and that i really never let her go. I was waiting for her to come back, but without any hope or expectation. I have to let go of her... I deserve someone who would love and care for me.. I have been foolish, with a blind loving heart.

I think he just want to give you a souvenir from the place that he visited,as simple as that. I don't see nothing wrong in it,he just arrived from a tour,and usually a souvenir is given present to our friends and loved ones. Maybe he just thought you will like a souvenir from other countries.

hello, actually one of my ex contact me again after 5 years we never met. me, my ex and my current boyfriend are friends at elementary school. my ex and my boy loves me since we are in elementary school. so we know each other, and we are best friends at the beginning. my ex show up and tell me how he still feel about me, he even said that he cant forget about me, forever i will be his first loveand he still miss me. i really dont know what to do. i feel so sorry for him, but he knew that i will end up marrying my current boyfriend. i know that he doesnt want me to marry my current boyfriend. but i told him that let the past go, and think about future. i want to be his friend, without sseing the past. and i know if my current boyfriend found out that my ex contact me again, my current boyfriend will be so mad and maybe want to beat my ex. i try to keep this as a secret as long as i didnt cheat my boyfriend. but i dont want to receive anything from my ex because i dont want to give him hope that someday i will be back to him again.

I'm not sure of your situation. Why you 2 broke up. Was your ex giving you the gift out of guilt or is he trying to woo you back. If he is giving the choclates out of friendship with no strings I suppose it's ok. But since your in a new realationship maybe it's not a good idea since the new boyfriend isn't liking it. Maybe the new boyfriend thinks the ex is trying to get you back. My ex offered toby me something much bigger a washer/dryer for my new trailer. Even though I so much wanted to except it since it would help me out a great deal, I thought he owed to me anyway for supporting him off and on for 5yrs (that's a whole different story), I declined the offer since I didn't want him holding it over my head and not to be sending him mixed signals. Guys don't know what they have until they lose it or don't have it anymore and I suppose it goes the other way around.

I think it is not proper to receive a gift from your ex-boyfriend since it will look like you're disrespecting your present boyfriend. You see, guys are quite sensitive when the ex-boyfriend seems to be entering the picture.

You can accept it, but I think you should listen to your current boyfriend. Because your ex shouldn't affect your life any more

your ex still loves you. hahah you shouldnt have accepted the gift for some respect for your current boyfriend. if i were your boyfriend of course i will also be mad about it.

I think, he did it as a friend. Maybe you both have separated in a nice way and continued to be friends so he gave them as a token from his travel. But if your boyfriend didn't take it well, then next time do not accept them anymore. It's better to be cautious , so you and your boyfriend will not have a rift because of it.

hmmmm i think if i were you, i wouldn't accept the gift anymore. because well it doesn't matter if he was my ex boyfriend, but the fact that i have a boyfriend already plus he told me to not accept any gift the ex boyfriend anymore. i think it's just not good on the part of my boyfriend. if i was in my boyfriend's shoes, i would be hurt.

Well I guess there's nothing wrong in accepting a gift from your bf since you said that he just wanted to give it to you. I can't see malice in it. It's normal that your boyfriend would say those things because it's not good in his part but just let him understand that your x is now a friend of yours.