I need some advice....

If you think your children are going to be okay without you in here and if you think you can trust your husband with everything, i don't see anything wrong with you going to another country to earn for your family. We need to be practical here. You said so that you are struggling and and your children are growing up. How can you send them to a good school or get a better future if you can't find extra income in your own country to support the family? You and your husband should decide on this and talk to your children as well.

Working abroad may solve your family financial problem, but it may create another problems like the caring of the kids, the needs of the husband, and finally the trust issue. I think working abroad is good when you are single, than it would not hurt people around you.

The choice is a difficult one,but if you have insecurities about if he will stay faithful then it may not be a good idea as you need complete peace of mind for this to work for you.

thats a tough decision... who's gonna take care of your children when your gone.. your husband has a job then he probably cant give all his time assisting your children. and its gonna be messy i think.. so think twice before living okie. i know money is very important but family always comes first.. let god guide you., pray and think it well...

money nowadays are our top problem, isn't it? but here are some things you have to consider: who will take good care of your children? if you go abroad, it is not warrant a good life. please try to weigh things out. PRAY, ask for spiritual guidance. talk with your spouse and children.

most of us, mothers have the same concern when it comes to our family. im also a mother with 2 kids. me and my husband are having financial problem for the past 10 months. i think about it too, going to abroad or my husband do it. but we believe that place is not the answer to look for your fortune. if God permits, where ever you are, it will be given to you. i dont know how we survive each day of our life, with two kids studying plus the daily expenses and the other bills that go with it. we just keep our faith and we just face it together. just keep on holding with each other and keep on praying. guidance from the Lord is the best solution in every problem. leaving your kids may lead to negative result specially nowadays that the environment is so different way back when we are younger. it is so hard to raise a kid without the guidance of both parents, specially from a mother. because most of their lives, we are the ones who are with them. we are the one who knows whats best for our kids. there is a saying that "mothers knows best", and that is absolutely right! hope this will help =D

If you really need to work abroad why not. But if it is posible why just find some work in your country. I think that your kids still needs you more than money. Good luck mel!

call me conservative, but personally i will not very comfortable leaving my kids and work abroad. i still think mother's care is still best. how about just starting out a small business? i distinctly remember one of the advice that this priest told a young married couple. Families are designed to be together not apart. But it's just me. :) Different folks, different strokes. Good luck and pray for discernment. :)

Stay with your children. Yes you may be struggling but if you leave your husband will struggle more. How can he work full time and look after five children. Children can survive on very little so long as they have unlimited amounts of unconditional love, care and support from their parents. x

Maybe I'm missing something. You have not been gainfully employed for 6 years. Do you expect to gain employment with that work history, if you should go abroad? Your husband has a better work record, but with many countries, including the U.S., in a financial crisis, I'd say that h e needs to hang on to his job. Your children are probably young and need their mother. Living apart from your spouse isn't good, either. My vote is for continuing to pinching pennies and both of you staying home. Could you find part time work in your home country.

hello mel, I am also a mother of 3 kids,and i am alone struggling to give them a good life. First,consider the age of your kids. If you think they are old enough to take care of themselves,then go. But if your kids are still small,let's say the youngest is 5 yrs old and the eldest is 16 ,i think you have to stay with them. Kids needs a mother to take care at the very young age... But if your youngest is 12 yrs old,then go. okay,why can't you try to have a small business. Think of ways that you can help your husband. How about considering home based job... I am also thinking of this kind of job..home based online job. Just try to search on the net. Last night i've been searching the net for this kind of job because i am also tired working with graveyard shift... Think and consider your kids welfare,i know you want to help your husband and want to give your kids a better future. But you need to consider also that your kids needs personal care from a mother. i hope you will decide for the best.

I understand certain sacrifices we make for our children. One thing that would worry me is the influences of life and not being there for them at crucial moments of their lives. I raised two on my own with any help whatsoever. It was not easy but I managed. I could not handle not having them with me if I were to have left. Please think this a bit more because the children today are being so influenced in life and it will be difficult to handle later. Best of luck.

If it's possible, why not? But first you need to make sure your husband will be able to manage taking care for all the 5 children AND keep going to work. If you really believe you can earn enough money abroad so you can send him to afford someone to help him look after the kids, then this will be a great idea. But a huge step and a huge change like this must be very well considered and consensual.

it think it is ok if you feel like by doing this you'd be able to raise them better and give them a brighter future. of course, all of us want to stick together as family but sticking together without being able to respond to each family members' basic needs will do you no good and it will get you nowhere. i know it will be hard to guide your kids while they are out of sight but you are lucky to have your husband to watch over them. you both have to be strong though and committed to be able to survive and to be able to carry on with the responsibilities related to this new kind of arrangement.