What is your reaction when your spouse said that he/she doesn’t love you anymore

What kind of a situation is that? in what way does he needs you when he doesn't love you anymore?. If my hubby will say that he doesn't love me anymore that would be the scariest moment of my life and i don't know what do then on how i could react and how to move on. Hopefully, when your husband said that he still needs you, he still has this feelings for you but might be confuse or he doesn't just recognize it.

I think he will dumb you. He only using you for that matter. Why he needs you if he never love you anymore...?

Is it true that your husband say it? My husband, also said the same thing to me. My husband said do not love me anymore, but she would not let me. My husband said, not going to divorce me, whatever happens. My husband always says about religion, if I do a lot to ask. When it comes to religion, I can not say anything. I am very saddened, by this fact. However, there is nothing I can do.

If one were to analyse the totality of a marriage institution the 'need you' factor shows its ugly head both ways. Having said that fulfilling each other's needs does fortify love for each other. Many marriages land up the way yours has landed. Your husband has been honest about it. You have to look at the pros and cons of the situation and be a smart partner and play around him and prove your indispensability where you too will have your needs fulfilled. There is no other way.

ifa I am sorry to hear that your husband says he does not love you anymore. This is truly sad. How can we remain with someone who does not love us any longer. When he says he needs you, in what respect? To do laundry, cook maintain the home? Reason why I am asking is that while we as women do household chores we do them specifically out of and for love. This is a very serious and delicate matter and I think you and your husband need to discuss further. If there is no more love from him then what will you get? I am not trying to pick in anyway, I am just trying to make sure that this does not further take you down a depressive road. If it were my situation I would be really sad and could not handle it. If there is no love does this mean my partner and I will not be intimate any longer? Ifa please think about 5 - 10 years from now and how you are suppose to handle a relationship without love. I do hope you and he can rekindle your love and if not then at least you do not loose the love for yourself.

i have no idea, sorry. 4 and a half years ago i told my ex that i didnt love him anymore and i had felt like that for a while. he wasnt happy but i didnt care as he treated me badly

Firstly m feeling happy for you because, your husband is faithful to you and he have guts to accept the truth. For imagination think, what will you do if he hide this truth and playing with ur emotions and feelings???? So, first thank him for accepting this. Somewhere in deepest part in heart he still loves you and that is the reason he needs you. Some times it happens that you getting attracted to some people and you like the company of that person. You have not mentioned the whole situation of your family i mean is there any fights going on or any disputes around? If its like that than both of you needs to talk on it and find the reason behind it. You need to know that what diverted his mind to say like this.... I hope you will surely come to some favorable conclusion. All the best...

Hi. ifa225. This must have hurt you the most to hear your husband say this to you. I am very sorry that he says that he does not love you. But he needs you. It is like he wants to hold onto you as tightly as he can. To be honest with you, if the love is not there in the marriage anymore, I would not think about sticking with him any longer either. I am very sorry to say this to you.

If I were in your shoe i would be more grateful and happy to hear that honest statement rather than continue being elated in a marriage which I believe in good state but opposite to reality. i would help me make a wise decision. but yes HGG was right you gotta have a heart to heart talk with your husband. well i want to think he just trying to be poetic in saying he doesnt love you but he needs you.. if he means something else with what he said I will say it consist a sweetest one.

Hi Ifa225!. I am clueless what I had to say. I am inexperience in this think because I never been in your situation. I think the best way is to asking him straightly to him about your question. I thing he will give a better explanation better than all of us. I think he will not messing around because you are her wife and a mothers of her child. I hope its mean he can not life with out you. Cheer up my friend and get ride all of thats bad though.

Awwwww, surely I'll be hurt If my husband will tell me that he doesn't love me anymore. Love matters a lot in any kind of relationship. There's a possibility that your husband might dump you when you are of no use to him anymore. If he's saying that he only needs you and there's no more love, it's is very likely that he might meet somebody and he'll fall in love with her.

speaking my other side... well your husband needs you in so many things that he could not do alone... love is needed in a relationship where two hearts become one... but still it is up to you if will accept the fact that he only needs you but without love... sorry to say but it is really hurts inside when a husband said this to his wife... hope everything becomes fine for you...

Some men need a woman in their life. As others have posted, they need us to do household chores for them. I know my boyfriend loves me, but if I weren't around, his whole world would collapse and he'd be so lost. I think a lot comes from their mothers and how dependent they were on them. I know my boyfriend would never be able to live alone. As for your situation, I think you need to have another sit down chat with your husband. If he doesn't love you anymore, then it might be time for a divorce. Maybe you guys can work through this with some counseling. But don't stay with him because he needs you. Only stay with him if he loves you (and if you love him too!).

Probably yes. Your husband is very honest.

I am so sorry to hear this. It is hard to hear that the person you are with no longer loves you. I think it is kind of hartless of the person to just say that, and then to say they still need you...your not an object to be ketp. Maybe if he is willing, you can work on the relationship and see if he falls back in love...men can be complete jerks sometimes.

Hello Ifa, Wow! talked about cold hard truth there. though, he was honest, he should have look for ways to bring that LOVE for you instead of just giving up and saying he needs you but doesn't love you anymore, that's a bit rude. He should have done something about it first hand though. most women would settle for divorce or separation if the hubby / wife doesn't love them anymore. maybe both of you should date again, you know this could be grounds for him to take advantage or abuse you with out knowing, just saying.

Oh dear... that is so quite an unfair thing to say. How can it be? If there is a need, there must be some love involved... To me my wife is my necessity because of my love for her and not my love because of my need for her. I have no idea here and am sorry that such a thing happened. Maybe you were fighting or having a hot discussion and it was disagreements.