Is Children's services ruining families???

First of all I will tell you I did foster care and I have adopted two beautiful special needs children from the foster care system. I agree that children that should not be taken are and those that should be taken aren't. I feel that way too many children are being abused and there most usually is a sign that things are wrong in the home. I am a big news reader there is not a day that goes by that I do not read that a child has been hurt or killed and at the end of the day you find out that DCF has been there before. I do not think that enough is being done to protect our children and on the other hand I know cases where DCF is involved where they shouldn't be. I know the school system does not help the parent trying to parent their children. They put their nose in when they shouldn't. It is a messed up world however we as citizens can help protect those children where the protection is needed. I have gone right up against the state for a parent who should not have their children returned and I have gone against the state when I think a child should not have been taken. I am a very big advocate for children and domestic violence. It saddens me to think after all their education the system DCF still does not have it right. But then again the hire people right out of college who does not have an inclination on parenting. So this is what we are dealing with. My two girls are the best present God gave me and I still take in kids after they are thrown out of the state and I never give up that they will make something of themselves. I could write a book on the system it is way out of control.

I am not from your state nor country but I do have relatives in New Jersey. My aunt sees to it that all her grandchildren are given the discipline the Filipino way - obey your parents. As to the law, I think America came up with that when the parents, two generations ago, were nervous wrecks. The second world war disillusioned the people and the adults were releasing their outbursts on the poor children. Thus the anti-abuse on children law. That is how I view it from the outside, lyn, I might be wrong. But if I am right, then it is time to amend the law. Your house representative could look into it... all you have to do is to suggest...

Well thankfully I've never had to deal with or experience anything having to do with children, and family services nor has any of my immediate family, but I think sometimes they are a necessary organization because there are children in the world who are in bad family situations, and they need someone to be there advocate. But I also think that sometimes people abuse the organization and use it to wrongfully persecuted and separate families just because there angry or because they misinterpreted something that happened in the home. I'm referring to people who call family services without the full facts, and cause unnecessary grief to children and Innocent parent's and sometimes there instances in which the organization made mistakes, but I think they are a necessary organization because children that are really abused need this kind of service to protect them we call them de-fax in my current state. Do I think that the organization is ruining families no, but do I think I that family services makes mistakes yes, but over all I think there a necessary program/services.

NJ is one of the worst. I grew up there and was one of the kids scarred by the system. I have seen many who could have or should have been helped left to their own devices. Yes that was 20 years ago but then I hear things now. A cousin who adopted through the system lied to about the kids, kids who when taken to a counselor where found to be too dangerous to be around younger kids (mind these kids where 7 and 5!) because of a situation that was in the (unshown to my cousin and spouse) files about a horrific experience in their first foster home. The siblings where taken away because of being deemed to dangerous even though my cousin wished to help them or at least try to figure out something. (Two of their kids are natural siblings from the same parents that's why they where trying to get them from the state) This left emotion wreckage all the way around and no one will now tell them what is to or has happened to the kids. Way to go NJ for ruining the lives of a 5 and 7 year olds. So disgusted. Here I do not know the laws have not run into any situation to have to thankfully.

but in india its not like that , how many welfares will come for children doesnt work efficent for them . parents are not much enough sound to study their chhilds which leads to move for work in that child age leaving all education and enjoyments happieness ,,,, how disasters to see india like this