The embarrassment!

We live too far away to have play date unfortunately, when they lived closer we did but it takes 4 hours now to drive from one house to the other. We do not speak to my husband's brother. Not since he left his family homeless and without money in another state. We had only a small amount to do with him to begin with because he really is a jerk and has no thought for other people. It was made clear he is not welcome here. My husband set the rule before I ever brought it up that if he even drove on our street to call the cops. See he made physical threats towards me and my other sister in law based on the fact that his wife found out he was cheating. He insisted we told her though in fact she just saw the pictures that had been posted on facebook by the girlfriend (raunchy pix at that). Like I said if you don't want your wife to find out make sure the mistress doesn't post pictures on a public site!

That's too bad, if you guys get back on your feet, maybe you can have the kids come for a week or so in the summer.

Well I take them when I can cause we love them and my kids love being with them. This summer though looks like it will be a tough one again..sigh.. but we will see them some.

I do and I beleive he will be a very lonely old man when no one wants to have anything to do with him. His parents will be gone soon (moving) and he will have only his brothers around and they will not support him the way their folks do. In fact neither even speaks to him none to mind give him a place to stay, food to eat, money or anything else.

Oh as for the girlfriend we have not met her. I know her cousin's wife though and they are not happy either. Apparently she too has left her husband and two babies (1 year old twins) behind to live with my brother in law in her parents garage. She doesn't see or pay for them and though her parents support them no one else in the family does. So she is as big of a a$$ as him. I just pray that unlike all his pother times this one does not get knocked up. (there are 2 kids not in this picture as well as the 4 he has in it)

Yes, it sounds like he has some mental problems. Waiting for the courts to catch up can be a real corker. Yes, the kids! I think they and him should seek counseling. Second marrige? Ugh! Did a Elizabeth Taylor huh? hehe

He would get more out of it if he bothered to go see his children! We stopped having anything to do with him when he started this crap again. Yes again. I am sure he has issues mentally as he swing between doing this garbage and really trying to be a good man and father. He has done this for years and I hope this wife doesn't come back for more again as this was the second time she married him. At this point in the swing he could careless what any of us think. In fact he thinks he is doing the right thing and and that we are wrong to side with her. Things are worse this time then the others as each time he swings they tend to worsen. He has done damage though this time that will not be undone with his brothers, hopefully his wife and the anger issues the kids have right now are horrible. They are the only ones I really feel bad for. She has been through this before with him twice, going back was her choice (not that it's right but she knew what he was like) the kids though have never had a choice. As for Child support and legal help. The system is behind by months so nothing can be done until the papers actually get to the courts. She was told it will take two or more months for them to even be reviewed to get a court date so until then she is just plain out of luck.

My husband and his other brother try to show them what real men are like but in truth last time it made it worse in a way. My nine year old nephew became so angry that he didn't have a good Dad after a weekend with each uncle that he had a breakdown that was horrible. He has been out into counseling but hasn't been allowed back too his classroom yet as they are worried (he had a raging fit throwing things and what not) about having him around other children. The five year old nephew who is from a different mother in between their marriages was with us and we fought legally to keep him but heartbreaking we lost. He is in the middle of every crazy thing this idiot does and the courts feel that because he is not physically harmed it's fine. Mentally and emotionally he is a wreck. Anger issues, emotional breakdowns, emotional delays that effect his learning. Our psychologist presented it all, the court psychologist agreed and yet they gave him back . We do our best but some damage cannot be fixed unfortunately.

I am sorry to hear this. I guess you are right, some damages are hard to fix especially when it comes from the genes. Maybe, your nephew will be better with times, as long as all around him love and show affection. And stop blaming or accusing his biological father might help him easing.

I hope for the kids he gets help and makes amends but I am thinking with the oldest two he has done permanent damage. He ill never learn that what he does really does effect other people. He is almost 40 and you would think the lesson would have been learned by now.

Ahh but then he would never pay support. I wish the state would place him in a work program until it is paid up but they will not.

yup, yup

He isn't thinking of the kids he is think how can I screw her that is all. He makeS like he is daddy of the year and yet he doesn't act like it at all. I have said for years he needs mental help and yet no one in the family would bother. i mentioned it to him once a long time ago that resulted in his losing his temper and me ending up kicking his a$s. He is not a tough as he thinks and I not only have a black belt in two styles so he was sorry and I never bothered with him again. HE IS A REAL PIECE OF TRASH.

Yes what adults do to each other is between them but when it blatantly abuses the kids it is just disgusting. Hopefully you will never be in a situation where it would be something to face.

She has filed but the State is so far behind they made it clear it will be two months at least before they can even review it to make a court date. He also knows it will be a long time before they do much of anything as the state is lenient and he has played the system before. Multiple kids multiple mothers.