They are getting married after only dating 5 weeks!
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
April 7, 2011 1:54pm CST
I work with a woman who has been married twice in the past and the other day her boyfriend, who she has dated 5 weeks, popped the question! She said yes and they plan to get married in, I think, 2 weeks! All of us at work think she is nuts and the guy is going to take advantage her someway! He sounds fishy but she wants to marry this guy! My friends track record with men is bad! Her first husband had an affair with a hooker! The second husband was controling lunatic! So as you can see alot of us are concerned! We wish her the best but this is to soon!
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15 responses
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
8 Apr 11
You are right to wish her the best! she will need it...the way I see it she is just following a pattern...it may be she is insecure, needs some one in her life? or who knows? she is setting her self to fail again! may be some one may suggest to her to seek some form of counselling? it may help your coworker to not make a mistake that is only going to hurt her yet again!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
My friend is secure in some ways. She is one that wants or needs a man in her life! She is setting herself up to fail again! Especially after I found out he has a criminal record (she checked on line but I didn't know how bad it is at this time) and he knows she has money back in Moldiva,where she is from! If this doesn't smell fishy,I don't know what is!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I know people who get married right away after they meet and they are together forever! Like your roomamates folks! I can't image anyone being together that long with out killing each other! Anyway with my friend it won't be happening! the guy has a criminal record which she found on line! She just want to marry to have someone take care of her! All of her friends have warned her but know her she won't listen! Extremely stubborn! So I see a disaster on the horizon!
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@luram626 (30)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
Whatever you do everyday of your life you should know that there is God, and submitting to His will is doing the things that He pleases, just like by praying every morning, evening, mealtime and anytime you want in a day, you can remember Him, its a way of showing that God is in Control.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I don't really pray because I don't think it helps and there is no proof God is control of anything! This was not a response to my discussion I was expecting! Not At all! I know everyone has there opinion. I just think yours is wrong.
@cmang83 (285)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 11
I have few friend have the same experience. Some of them married after they were dating only 3 months and some of them even only 1 month. But most of them are not happy after they married.
The period is too short for them to get to know each others. And i believe it is a risk to marry with someone that we don't know much. However, wish your friend is getting her Mr Right.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
My friend found out,on line,this guy she plas to marry has a criminal record! Don't know how bad but if that is not a warning side I don't know what is! He lied where he lives I found out too! He knows she has money back in her homeland of Moldiva! So this is not looking like he is just marrying for love! A disaster is going to happen especailly knowing she wants a man to take care of her and she never listens to anyone about anything! She is going to be screwed someway or another!
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
7 Apr 11
I married a woman I knew for less than two months. The marriage lasted 16 years. Who can figure? I know people that dated for years then married and it was soon over. It may be too soon for you but maybe not for her. Bottom line, if she marries you can only support her decision if she is your friend. If not, what does it matter?
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
The problem with this is my friend's finance has a criminal past. I don't know all the details but she went on line to check it out! I do know she is very stubborn and will go through this! She just wants a man to take care of her! I don't think this will last! I think he is up to something!
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
10 Apr 11
By the way I had a criminal past before I married the woman . During my marriage I was even arrested for a warrant I had before I met my wife. But she stuck by me and I eventually went back to school and earned my college degree and was able to care for her. We don't know what the future holds for us. Friends support the decisions we make although sometimes good and sometimes bad.
@Burgandy (2)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I really hope it works out for her... and it could. I could have married my husband after that amount of time and we would have been fine because I think I already knew I wanted to marry him by then. There is just so much that can be revealed about a person after the 5 week mark that you may want to know before getting married. I personally would date much longer, but different strokes for different folks.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
My friend will get married in a week or so! All of her friends havw given our opinion on this situation! She is a very stubborn woman and I know she doesn't listen to anyone's advice! Good or bad! She'll get married to this guy who has a crimainal record (don't know how bad it is) and knows she has money back in her home country in Moldiva! If this isn't some warning signs I don't know what is! This will blow up in her face for sure!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I know exactly what you mean. I know someone who also did this and now she is pregnant and does not even live with the guy she married. They are both way too young and I know for sure the guy is not ready to settle down. They do not even have their own place to live. It is a joke.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
My frind is 43 and she should know better! All of her firends are worried she is getting into a miss! We really believe she is! She will get married and it will be a disaster! All her friends have told her to think this over but my friend is way to stubborn to listen! That and knowing she just wants a man to take care of her,this all spells trouble! Big trouble is coming over the horizon!
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
Really??? it was to short getting to know each other. well that's her wanted to do.And because she was your friend one thing you can do is support and tell her that you always been there for her, don't forget to remind her what should be the consequences.... Gud day
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Don't worry I and her other firends will be supported when this blows up in her face! The guy has a criminal record! I tried to find his phone number in the phone book! It is not listed at all! Where he says he lives doesn't add up either! So he is looking more like a user every day! I know my friend is stubborn and will do this marriage this! Then I will try to make her feel better when it blows up in her face!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
My friend doesn't seem to learned her lesson! She is a real stubborn person! She will go thorugh with this and end up miserable again! I see this disaster on the horizon! All her friends do! She won't listen to our advice,which is to bad! I don't think my friend will ever learn! It is so sad!
@rolento (227)
• Spain
7 Apr 11
wow, that's pretty fast, but with this kind of things you never know, you can be with a person 10 years before getting married and then get divorced after 2 years or you can marry after 6 months and be with that person for the rest of your life. the important thing is that your friend find the happiness and that this marriage be the last one
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I and all her friends believe this is a big mistake! My friend went on line to check his background and found out he has a criminal record! How bad it is I don't know! We all told her she is crazy and to think this over! I don't think she will! She never listens to anyone about anything and she just wants a man to take care of her! This guy is not the one!
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
I understand your friend has a record in choosing bad men for herself. You can only be there to say what you think of the situation but it is all up to her to listen to your concerns on her or go her way. Yes, there are people who stay together in marriage even when they have only met up for 5 weeks and there are some who does not. I guess the only thing you can do is be a friend to her and always be there no matter what.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I will be for her when the time comes! I was there when she divorced husband number 2! I and others have given their opinion to her! I can guarentee she will go through with this because she is very stubborn! She has for years only wanted a man to take care of her! He isn't! When this blows up in her face I will be there for her,once again!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
I usually don't care about other people's decisions. If they wanna get married 5 weeks too soon then I won't stop them even if they're my friends. Although, I'll get married when I already know the girl inside out. I don't wanna marry someone and then wake up one morning with someone I barely knew. That's all when I settle down, though.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I know you tell a person what to do but can't make them not to do something! I and others are worried she is rushing into this! The guy is not marrying for love! He out to take advantage of her in someway! He has a criminal record! Don't know how bad but that ia a red flag! He says he lives in one city but he lives somewhere else! Things aren't adding up! I see a disaster waiting to happen!
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
7 Apr 11
Wow, five weeks, I'm just gobsmacked....and here I am thinking that Hubby and my nine-month-and-one-week stint of dating was short LOL!! Anyway we've been married for ten years, so we must've done something right! But five weeks.....eeeeeeeeeeYIKES!!!!
I feel bad for the lady, she's obviously not sure of herself, and wants to find happiness but in all the wrong places. I'm sure she knows your concerns, but well...sometimes we have to step back and let Experience be the harsh teacher.
I wish I can think of some comforting words....I"m sorry...
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I feel for my friend but she is so stubborn she'll marry this guy even after must her friends,like me, have told her we don't trust this guy! I even heard she went on line to check his background! I don't what he has all done but he has a criminal record of some kind! If that isn't a sign to back out I don't know what is! Knowing my friend she will go through with this because she is so stubborn! She just wants to marry a guy to take care of her! He is not the one,at all!
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I've never know getting married so soon to last and last with true love. She sounds like that type who always need love, attention and affection from another. To mention this is her third husband, he does have a track record. This wouldn't be for me, but sometimes the older your are the quicker you have to move. I still wouldn't condone getting married after hardly knowing each other, especially for people my age, but best wishes to her. This just wouldn't be anything I would do.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I know this won't work! the guy has a criminal record which she found on line! There is a warning sign right there! Don't know how bad the criminal is but it can't be good! My friend is only wants to get married to be taken care of! I and other have told her she is crazy and to think this through. I know she'll be getting married because she is so darn stubborn! There is a disaster coming and it won't be pretty!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
I usually don't care about other people's decisions. If they wanna get married 5 weeks too soon then I won't stop them even if they're my friends. Although, I'll get married when I already know the girl inside out. I don't wanna marry someone and then wake up one morning with someone I barely knew. That's all when I settle down, though.
