To Be A Player or Not To Be A Player?
By yyudah1
@yyudah1 (26)
United States
April 7, 2011 4:13pm CST
I am in a very happy relationship and have been for a 6 years but I was use to having male friends that I can hang out with just as friend.I havent had a male friend that I can chill with in a while so sometimes I kind of feel bored with things because I know I need someone to hang out with besides my husband all the time but I dont have any female friends that I can hang out with.I dont want my relationship to get boring so sometimes I see myself checking out other men but none of them measure up to what Im use to.I love the guy Im with but I have been having dreams about his friend.It wasnt anything going on that was too deep but I think about it alot.Basically in the dream Im hanging out with my husband and we are around all our friends and me and his one friend are in the house just us.We are first just talking with each other then we get closer and he just looks cute.In my mind I know what I feel is wrong but it didnt matter that much I was in a trans.We both leaned toward each other and we were about to kiss,but at the last minute I backed away but deep down I also wanted to do it.In a way I want to go back to being a player but I want to be loved by someone.Is my dreams telling me that I still need to live it up or just role play different people with my husband.I dont know but he always tell me Im suck weather I know it or not.I think its just my curious katt wants to have fun.I think I should do me but what will happen if I do?
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@silentstar888 (3)
• India
8 Apr 11
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
8 Apr 11
Hi. yyudah1 Welcome to myLot, if I have not told you already!
Welcome again! I think that you are just feeling lonely and you need your husband to make some excitement with you. I know the feeling. I have been having dreams out other guys myself. This morning, I had an dream about my ex boyfriend's, brother. It was a very lovely dream. In this dream we was walking back to his place and we were talking. It was more of a mutual dream that was very strong. He was very confused when I told him that me and my husband never took pictures together as a married couple. We never have. He has taken pictures with our kids, but not with me. This is very true. In reality, I am considered to be very pretty. Many people have told me so, so I don't understand why my husband never takes any pictures with me.
I think that the reason why you are dreaming about being with another guy is because you yearn for your husband to show you some more affection, you are lonely and you would like to be shown some attention to. It is the same way with me too. I hope that your husband starts showing you some attention. Take care.
Welcome again! I think that you are just feeling lonely and you need your husband to make some excitement with you. I know the feeling. I have been having dreams out other guys myself. This morning, I had an dream about my ex boyfriend's, brother. It was a very lovely dream. In this dream we was walking back to his place and we were talking. It was more of a mutual dream that was very strong. He was very confused when I told him that me and my husband never took pictures together as a married couple. We never have. He has taken pictures with our kids, but not with me. This is very true. In reality, I am considered to be very pretty. Many people have told me so, so I don't understand why my husband never takes any pictures with me. I think that the reason why you are dreaming about being with another guy is because you yearn for your husband to show you some more affection, you are lonely and you would like to be shown some attention to. It is the same way with me too. I hope that your husband starts showing you some attention. Take care.@yyudah1 (26)
• United States
9 Apr 11
Hey how are you.I guess its just me because my husband shows me attention but sometimes I just want a little more.I dont know why your husband would not be taking pictures with you but in my little time of marriage I have learned to talk thing out.I still learning what to talk about and when it fine.I hope everything works out for both of us.I think sometimes us as wives have to make them do something or it will never be done.Thanx for the advice and you take care also.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
I think it's pretty normal that you get bored with your husband. But it doesn't mean that you don't love him anymore. I am not married yet but I do understand the feeling you have. Maybe instead of cheating in your mind or dreams you should tell your husband that maybe you and him has to give each other space for a while to bring back the spark. Being a player bring back some excitement because it's forbidden.
The more that it's not right the more it is very enticing. I suggest that you think many times over what you are thinking because in my own point of view it's not right to think that way especially that you have a husband. You must be contented with him. Just my two cents worth of opinion.
@yyudah1 (26)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I think that is a great idea.I already have planned a trip to take so that we can have sometime apart.I love him and I know that I will not do anything that will jeopardize our relationship.Ive also been thinking about role playing I think that can work out.I can be the sexy stranger at the bar and he can be the sexy man that buys drinks then he will sweep me off my feet.Sounds good:)
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
8 Apr 11
Dreams are just dreams yes some may come true but some just stay in our minds as fanatasy.. I wouldnt risk your relationship to for fill a fanasty.. I mean your dreams may be saying that you need to spice up your life a bit, not going some were else... try changing your routine, or make it a point to do one thing different every day.. Then your life may not feel so boring... thats what it sounds like you are longing deep within... cheating is not the answer... just more drama and heart ache that will follow in the end
@daxta88 (125)
• Romania
8 Apr 11
I am glad you are not my girlfriend :) I am just kidding.
What you are experiencing is a normal thing. Studies say that 9 out of ten women which are in healthy relationships have the need to do something crazy. Like having a dream and then worry about it :) I am a guy, so for me, since I was 14 I've bin wanting anything that I can't have (that's the notion of player for me). There is nothing wrong with, the worst that you can do is tell your husband that you are dreaming about someone else.
