worst mistake a parent could make
By jorhemkris
@jorhemkris (36)
Philippines
April 7, 2011 6:36pm CST
I think that the worst mistake a parent could make is trying to fulfill their own dreams through their child. I observe a number of mothers in my daughters school who are very strict with their children. Sometimes I get annoyed when I hear them yell or scold their child for having errors in exams. Too much pressure on children because these parents are trying to recreate their lost dreams through their child. How sad :(
I think that a parents role in their child life is to support them. That means that we allow he child to do what they want and guide them as they do so, so that when they commit mistakes, we are there to explain to them the consequence of their choices. We do not any right to hold our child's life. Do we?
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@vannyt (343)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
One good example, mothers joining their daughters in beauty contest at an early age. 
Force them to act like adults at an early age is so disgusting. Parents do forget these kids should experience childhood cause it will only happen once in their lifetime. It irritates me too when parents scold their children for simple reasons. Aren't they suppose to teach their kids and not yell? Gosh these parents
. No wonder a lot of kids these days grow up being rebellious.
Force them to act like adults at an early age is so disgusting. Parents do forget these kids should experience childhood cause it will only happen once in their lifetime. It irritates me too when parents scold their children for simple reasons. Aren't they suppose to teach their kids and not yell? Gosh these parents. No wonder a lot of kids these days grow up being rebellious.@jorhemkris (36)
• Philippines
8 Apr 11
Exactly my point vanny , I'm annoyed too when I see these types of parents and unfortunately it's rampant in our society nowadays...
@Starr311 (72)
• United States
8 Apr 11
I agree with both of you, however I am somewhat of a fan of the natural beauty contests when done respectfully. I can not stand the mothers who push their daughters and make them cry just because they are older and overweight now. Let kids be kids, if they enjoy it and have fun (some clearly do) then let them do it so it can create good childhood memories. I have none as a child and I do wish that my parents might have pushed me just a little bit more.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
8 Apr 11
Hi. jorhemkris. Welcome to myLot!
This is the worst mistake that a parent can make to their child. I will never force my child to learn anything that they can't learn. I will help them to understand something that they are having difficulty in. Forcing a child to learn is very mean and unfair too. It is not allowing a child to learn and to understand anything on their own either. It will make a child very nervous too. I try to encourage my children when they are having a hard time. Forcing them is out of the equation too.
This is the worst mistake that a parent can make to their child. I will never force my child to learn anything that they can't learn. I will help them to understand something that they are having difficulty in. Forcing a child to learn is very mean and unfair too. It is not allowing a child to learn and to understand anything on their own either. It will make a child very nervous too. I try to encourage my children when they are having a hard time. Forcing them is out of the equation too.@jorhemkris (36)
• Philippines
10 Apr 11
Your right cream, forcing the child to do something that does not interest them is very mean. I think that a child has to experience being a child in his/her own time. He/She has got to enjoy his/her thing, and parents should support that. If you want your child to like something or have an interesting into something you yourself is interested to, ask your child about it, not force her/him to do it. It would create hostility between u and your child. Being a parent is tough, for we always want the best for our kids, but we should not forget that kids have to learn in their own time. They have to enjoy their childhood, learn from mistakes and cherish their success.
@Dunner17 (76)
• Canada
8 Apr 11
I disagree with forcing a child to pursue a career or life their parents tell them too, but parents advising their children on what type of life could lead to a prosperous career is a good idea. Parents living through their children is a definite no, but that is the best some parents can do.. Children need to take hold of their lives and do what makes them happy.
