Does image matter so much that others perceive us?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
April 10, 2011 8:16am CST
We often take pride in the fact that not judge people by how they look. But image is what determines the first impression. For each of us matter how we are perceived by others and we try to create an image that fits with what we want to convey. And the first impression really counts! And it is true that we have never for a second chance to make a first impression.
Although clothes do not make the man, who sees the jacket is a first date. An important element in the image that we want to convey the context. Congruence between the context in which to promote our image and it has an important effect on how we perceive others. Each medium, whether personal or business has its own rules and patterns in which man is forced to fit.
Beyond the context another important element is the desire of what you want to send. Each has its own image that others perceive and pass through the filters of beliefs, values??, reason. Each of us in front of others shows a "mask" with features that distinguish it and make it unique. Attitude is the depth of first impression. Attitude is what speaks for you. Gestures, posture, mimicry is the best ambassador for you in whatever context you are.
These are things that everyone knows and try to apply them as best we can. Does image matter so much that others perceive us? Does not this picture without us? Do we define such an extent that they must adapt or adapts it to us? How can we survive in an external environment where image does not match our values???
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4 responses
@ssebrinatw (175)
• United States
11 Apr 11
Unfortunately we are being sold by the media because they want to profit off of us and the thought that image is everything. So we tend to be self concious about it. I am one who likes to pride myself on how I look but... I know that I have a great personality that is very inviting so I don't think i'd have any less friends if I wasn't as cute. I do think most of it is how we present ourselves. We can look normal and have many friends as long as we have a great personality. But you can look gorgeous and have a terrible personality and end up finding you're alone in the end.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
11 Apr 11
Indeed. The way we perceive depends on the esteem (self-esteem, self-respecting, self acceptance) that we have. Thus, if we accept ourselves, if we consider for what we do best - that contributes to self-esteem and confidence - if we accept that we have no weaknesses and constantly criticize us for it - this is the tolerance to self and Hence, to others - we can live comfortable emotionally. You must understand that it is always good to have a balance between self-esteem and self-criticism, neither of those two extremes are not effective. He who brags too much is, finally, laugh or even abandoned by others and one that causes excessive criticism of others or feelings of pity, blame, or a feeling of superiority, self-attracting other critics. Keeping as much as possible a balance between self-exaggerated praise and criticism excessive hygiene can contribute to our mind. Thanks.
@ssebrinatw (175)
• United States
12 Apr 11
I agree. Yw. You remind me of a good friend I made online just the past few weeks. Hope to hear more:)
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I think that we worry too much about our images sometimes. Others will perceive us in the ways that they want no matter what we may do or say. It is what we feel about ourselves that should be important and not how others see us.@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
11 Apr 11
You're right, sometimes we give too much importance to how we perceive those around us. Confidence in ourselves is to see that we can face daily challenges. It means we are trust in our ability to think, learn, to choose, to make decisions and adapt to changes ... And means to know that we deserve happiness. To have this basic trust is a matter of survival. To recognize that feeds self-esteem, and what a damage, is one of the challenges to be faced to live consciously, lucidly. Because the reality is sometimes different from what we believe.Thanks.
@polaris77 (2039)
• Bacau, Romania
10 Apr 11
Unfortunately we live in a society in which image seems to be more important than the person's real self and way of expression,so there are many instances when people try to adjust themselves to those requirements by dressing in a certain way or making gestures that don't usually characterize them,in other words they adopt an image which doesn't represent them.I think this is one of the issues which affect many people who are forced to make compromises and I'm sure this makes them very unhappy;anyway,there are still people who don't comply to these 'rules',even if this may affect their position in society,or at least the way they are seen by others,and I sympathise with them.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
10 Apr 11
I like thinking. For me it was a time when first impressions count, but over time I realized that is nonsense. It is true that there are people who still marvels me first with their way of thinking or being, as there are people all neutral or annoys me. But experience taught me to not jump to conclusions until you have more information. As there have been cases where, although fot negative first impression, we became friends after a certain period. I know I should not judge a book by its cover, but that has grown so much marketing, because the cover is extremely important in selling the product .. maybe it's even more important than the product itself. So we are probably many of us humans, sell pictures and less able to reach content. Thanks.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Well, a person's image should not matter but it does. First impressions is every thing. People are judged on a daily basis by what they wear, how they talk or even if they smell good (does the person have body odor). Just because a person buys their clothes a discount store. Does not make them bad. People need to get past first impressions and look deeper into a person heart. A good heart is a lot better than a pair of Nikes or Eddie Bauer Clothes, to me. Best Wishes!
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
10 Apr 11
It is very important first impression. It's a card for the person who sits in front of us. But first impressions are often not fully defined character partner or person you talk. Many times, appearances do not correspond to reality shows. I love how you ended: A good heart is a lot better than a pair of Nikes or Eddie Bauer Clothes! Thanks.
