Trust in others, a missing value?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
April 10, 2011 8:29am CST
It's easy to believe in people who have proved they deserved that trust. Everybody loves winners. It is much harder to believe in people before have done something in life. How many times have you doubted that a person later regret?
How important is it for these people to be someone who believed in them? How important is each of us have in our lives someone who believes in us? Some parents place to teach children to have self-confidence, more than discourages them. We are educated to see the faults of others before identifying qualities.
Often they give the trust a person, even before the trust itself it can do wonders. "Every man carries within it the seeds of greatness. The responsibility of parents and leaders is to nurture and cultivate those seeds. "I found these words in the Zig Ziglar's book" Reasons to smile "and I understand that people are the way we think they are, they are up to our expectations .
People fail or not reach our expectations. If we are suspicious, they will give proof of mediocrity. But if we trust them, they will battle to live up to expectations.
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6 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
11 Apr 11
I certainly hope that trust is not a mnissing value. Sometimes it is what we base a relationship on and keeps it going. When we don't have trust how can we have anything else? @CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
10 Apr 11
Trust is something that is earned. If a person has done something to make me think of them as untrustworthy, I will NOT feel badly about not trusting them later on. I think that if a person is trying to gain your trust, they should have to work at it. I would never expect someone to trust me unless I earned that trust. I think that people in general are too trusting and I think that this leaves them open to having bad things happen to them. I believe that if people truly cared about if you think they are trust worthy, they wouldn't give you a reason to think otherwise. I believe that in the end a persons trust is all a matter of how we behave and there is no one responsible for that but themselves.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
11 Apr 11
We all know that our world is superficial and most of all, without sense, without shame, without some self-respect and respect for others.
Few are those who have faith in people, and that are overly optimistic.
Folks there, but probably not leave us in our path.Thanks.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
10 Apr 11
I think that sometimes it's good to trust a person before we know that person's character very well,because our trust will probably encourage that person to prove to us what he/she is capable of doing and they might meet our expectations,but too much trust can be a bad thing,we shouldn't trust others bindly either,so I believe in trust mixed with caution and moderation,at least until the moment when people make trust them more through their actions.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
10 Apr 11
I think the confidence that we give you many other items. For me two of them are important: confidence on us and give us a "history of deception personal confidence".
As we have more confidence in ourselves and less personal history of deceit of trust, we have even more confidence in others. And vice versa ...
You scored well, when you say: trust mixed with Caution and moderation. Indeed, trust is earned slowly and lost quickly. Thanks.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
10 Apr 11
I've mainly trusted people. But after there are people who have conned me and let me down I am more cautious now a days. Sometimes people has to earn your trust.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
10 Apr 11
The hardest thing in life is to trust. In fact, the harder it is to lose your confidence. I read, many years ago, the Shogun, the man in life than not to have confidence in himself, and that only if you can control. And the Japanese did not consider this as an insult but as the first life lesson: do not trust anyone ... Indeed trust must be earned! Thanks.
@ashish3090 (254)
• India
10 Apr 11
Trust is such a word it is easy to spell but hard to believe. Trust have both the effects it has good effect as well as bad effect also. Good Effect due to if you trust someone who is even not known to you and plays a very important role in your life, can change your feelings about trusting him but the bad effect is you believe someone and he or she just cheated you by your feelings emotions and something else.
Therefore it depends upon you whom to believe or whom to not...
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
10 Apr 11
Trust is such a word easy to spell But it is hard to believe. Indeed. You always hear or say "I trust you," I lost confidence in you. "We have very precise criteria to evaluate and that those lines are the conclusion of this assessment. However, because I feel like saying .... Most times, we lose confidence after disappointment. I had expectations, I did not respond positively to them. In other words, were not fulfilled. We are disappointed and this makes us cautious. That's about the general mechanism. When we trust each other we were not disappointed. Yet. Or our dissatisfaction are so easily overlooked! We are always between those two extremes: "You go to the end of the world" and "you do not cross any street. As I get older, become more cautious ... to say. People are not only good or only bad. Usually good and evil coexist. The Agreement that do not know very well a limited confidence. That forbid me too much disappointment. Thanks.
