Leeteukwifey: Love without commitment
By Leeteukwifey
@Leeteukwifey (42)
Philippines
April 11, 2011 12:42am CST
from this moment in time i was experiencing a love without commitment... Sounds crazy right? I mean we both love each other but we can't enter the relationship for everybody disagrees to our relationship its like you and me against the world but somethings wrong already... His mother told him that i was beautiful and she gave me a grade 83 not knowing that i got the highest grade among all his ex- girlfriends, Unfortunately our relationship stays stagnant for he said "it's not yet time" i was already breaking! i tend to stay beside him even if it breaks me apart. Age doesn't matter thats what they say, i am 3 years older than him but i don't know how to handle this kind of relationship although he made me feel i'm loved i still feel its not enough.
Any advice?
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3 responses
@Rapuncille (597)
• Philippines
11 Apr 11
hi lee! it's very hard to be in your situation. Love without commitment normally is the kind of love that doesn't last for that long, never forever.
That arrangement is ok for the meantime but the older it gets, the more fragile and hurtful it becomes. You really need to be patient for you to be able to stay in this kind of relationship. There's no you and me against the world in your case. You and me exist only when there is commitment, so technically, it's just you and just him.
What good is love when it breaks you apart?
As for me, there's nothing wrong with being patient and all, but you need i guess a reassurance that one day you will both commit and acknowledge each other's importance in your life. 3 years ain't no big deal (it's not really a decade you know)! The big deal is you are investing so much emotion on that sort of relationship without knowing what are the returns. Knowing that you are a girl and you are 3 years older, i guess you are more on the loosing side. we girls can't wait that much for something that might happen you know. If you stay committed in a non-commitment relationship, you might be loosing the chance for you to find that someone who can proudly call you his own. It's just my 2 cents worth of thought.
That arrangement is ok for the meantime but the older it gets, the more fragile and hurtful it becomes. You really need to be patient for you to be able to stay in this kind of relationship. There's no you and me against the world in your case. You and me exist only when there is commitment, so technically, it's just you and just him.
What good is love when it breaks you apart? As for me, there's nothing wrong with being patient and all, but you need i guess a reassurance that one day you will both commit and acknowledge each other's importance in your life. 3 years ain't no big deal (it's not really a decade you know)! The big deal is you are investing so much emotion on that sort of relationship without knowing what are the returns. Knowing that you are a girl and you are 3 years older, i guess you are more on the loosing side. we girls can't wait that much for something that might happen you know. If you stay committed in a non-commitment relationship, you might be loosing the chance for you to find that someone who can proudly call you his own. It's just my 2 cents worth of thought.
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
20 Apr 11
I think you should talk to him and settle things out. Ask him if its worth it that your waiting for him. Make sure that you are not waiting in vain because at the end you'll end up hurting yourself a lot because you have invested in a wrong relationship. But be sure that you are prepared for whatever response he might give. Confronting him would make matters well or worse. worse in the sense that if he doesn't want a real relationship between the two of you then he might back out once you have asked him but if he decide that he can't loose you then your relationship might grow into something more real.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
11 Apr 11
There are all kinds of love relationships to have in life. Commitment is a huge part of expressing that love. I believe that if we don't have that commitment in our hearts then that love is not yet complete.