What wll you do when you meet your first love several years later?

i know it's hard, but i think you should leave the past in the past. it was a long time ago. you have something great now. i dont think it is worth taking the risk on something that may not be s good as you remembered it. we always remember things diffrently then how they really were.

Hmmmmm, i'll give a deep sigh and a look, if she is still not married then i'll take a step forward and will speak to her, if not i'll probably spend the day with the memories of her, and if i get a chance then i'll speak to her very little and just about what she's doing and how is she that's it.

This really sounds confusing. If you think you still loved your first love (wow,after ten years) I guess you really have great feelings to your first love. Meet him and talked to him to prove your feelings. If meeting him will prove that you still love him the same...then,you really need to think and measure your feelings between your first love and your bf for 10 years. If you think you can sacrifice your 10 years stable relationship...then go and follow your heart. But if you are not sure about it...(consider that he dumped you 10 years ago) forget him...and stay with your bf who loved and cared you for 10 years. have a great day and

For me my first love was really very beautiful but i never loved again after that and might never love again in my life. Had many relationships after that and may have in future but no more true loves. She dumped me so hard that i could not dare to love again in my life. If i do meet her in future someday, i would scream at her and tell her how heartless she has made me for her selfishness...

Hi dear! Do what you want to do, what does your heart tell you? Instead of doing more things, cause I think you've done enough, I think it's come the time to you to tell him. Try to do it in person, if you really can't you know, fear, being shy or something then try via e-mail or phone, cause you really need to know by now. If a person rejects it's easier to the other to let go, to the love ends, now the hope, the "is he my enchanted prince"? is the worst part of all and we women all fantasise. I don't think you should do something but talk.

hello Megan, I read your post. It's perfectly normal just deal with it, but don't play with fire. Get what I mean? He was your past... you felt that because of your unfinished business with him... You have in mind the questions started with what if's? if he really cares for you or like you before, he should showed you how special you were for him. He's the guy... you should not be the one courting him. he was giving you a false hope and now, he was destructing you and giving you false hope again... can you wait for another four years? he's selfish. so, girl wake up.... if you can't overcome him, then your present relationship is not your Mr. Right!

I had a crush on the same guy for all five years of high school... I was really, really shy then and I never told him. He became my best friend instead. We even went to the same college and stayed in touch on and off through the years. On my birthday one year, he showed up on my doorstep to wish me happy birthday - and I hadn't seen him in a really long time! I was floored that he remembered. At that time, I was divorced but he was in a committed long-term relationship. We got to talking about our school days over coffee and I finally admitted how I had felt about him back then. He looked me in the eyes and said, "WHY didn't you ever tell me?" So, I knew then that he would have been interested in me. But... the past is the past. It's nice to know but it didn't change the present. You say your boyfriend is Mr. Right and that you will never leave him. If you are being true to yourself and to your relationship, then you need to put some distance between yourself and that first love of yours. I've been in relationship that was ruined because of Facebook. The guy I was with couldn't stop looking for some of the girls he'd had a thing for in school. He said he just wanted to know what happened to them and where they had ended up. He found one girl and became obsessed with reading her FB page all the time. Then, when he went to visit his family, I found out he had chatted with her live and had also tried to get her to agree to let him go and visit her. She refused him but it killed my trust in him. If you really love your boyfriend, you have to let go of the infatuation you have with the other guy. You say the situation is "complicated" but it's really not -- I think you are flattered (like I was!) to find out that your first love really did like you too... but that time is over. If you love your boyfriend of 10 years, please respect him. If you don't think you want to be with him anymore, then leave him before you pursue anything or something happens with the other guy. Otherwise, as another person commented, you are playing with fire. I wish you the best with working this out.

My advice would be to let him go. I know this is really hard. I've been in a similiar position so I know what I'm talking about. If he really liked you in the beginning then he wouldn't have just let you waiting. You're happy now with yout boyfriend, so why would you risk that. Because even if nothing happens between you and that other guy, you should think about what your boyfriend would think if he found out you meet this guy. Like I said, the best thing is just to lethim go and the easiest way to do this is by completly breaking all contact with him, and belief me, that isn't easy.

You don't forget the feeling of a firsst love. there is no other experience like it. Meeting a first love after so much time has gone by would be something truly tremendous. It is hard to say how i would react until i was actually faced with the challenge. i would hope it would be a tender reunion and not a bittersweet one instead.

hi megan, It's really hard to meet your first love when you still love him. But then your love is story was in high school and we can say that it was just puppy love... _Be with someone who will make your life happy each and everyday.. And be with someone who you love..

Hi! I probably will say hi to him, and do some small talk, I think. And then. It's done. The past was the past.