Scared of people, scared of being open.

hello friend what had happened with you is not so good so better try to be with more friends and they will help you in getting out of this problem and you will have much fun wide your friends and you will learn new things.

Hi madmax, last year we had problem of wrong calls and a bit torture, later the problem got solved, but still when ever the land line rings i and my parents get scared a bit to answer the call, things happen sometime , which remains the fear for some time.

oh my dear friend I am so sorry to hear that. Maybe my story can help i little When I was almost 16 I got raped from 3 guys. And I was starting to avoid all people. I had got already my first appartment,and locked me in there. One time in the week my mom picked my up for grosery shopping,cause somehow I must survive. It was a very hard time. And still today when I am alone walking down the street and see more then to people in a group fear comes over me,and in the past I changed the side of the street. But I dont do that anymore,cause that is no life. So I slowly go staight ahead and pass the people and with everytime I am doing this I get more confadence in my self. You have to try it to live a halfaway real life greetings goth

that is so scary. i hope and pray i will not experience such a thing or anything similar. a lot of things are happening in my country, too. evil is everywhere. i know that whatever caution we do it is very possible that we could accidentally meet such incidences and people. i pray as frequent now for these things.

I understand the feeling. When I was 18 I was mugged. In a way it was a bit my fault because I decided to take an alley way near some abandoned train tracks to get home because it's faster and I knew I shouldn't have since there had been many attacks in the area. It's so far off from the main road that you could do anything and no one would know. Four guys popped up asking for my money and anything of worth and I gave them everything I had and they still attacked me. I'm only 5'2 and weigh 106lbs so I'm a tiny woman and there was no need for four tall and bulky guys to come at me like that. I had a black eye, broken nose, broken jaw, 3 broken ribs and a broken arm. I didn't leave the house literally for a year. I just found work on the internet, bought food from online and what not. Going outside pretty much gave me a heart attack. I got help with a therapist and slowly came out. Now I can walk freely again with the world but I'm still scarred. I'm still extremely paranoid when I see groups of men and will do anything possible to avoid them. I still feel the need to defend myself if a guy makes quick movements towards me, grab my arm, gets loud, I instantly have a weapon in my hand because I think I'm being attacked.

i am sorry for that.yes,that kind of bad guys do exist.they just do harm to others for entertaiment.but we have our own lives,such experiences cant stand on our way to happiness.maybe we should forget it and make ourselves strong enough to protect us from such kind of harm.

Sounds like you've had a traumatic experience to work on with yourself. I've been beaten up and got really bruised on my body and I have scars in my soul from past experiences. I've come to the insight that to build muscles and do stretching helps to feel safe being with people. The more strength you regain in your body the more secure you feel with yourself.

Hi madmax, OMG! I'm sorry to hear that! Before, I am scared of people and being open too. I have no confidence! Everything I do, I always mind what will people say! But one day this year, I just realize I don't live my life for them, I live my life for me and for the people who love me.. After all, I am gaining a little confident! :) And I guess, self-esteeming is really quite good!