Oldier parents are happier than younger parents...(truth)

I am a young mother myself. I had my first daughter at the age of 20 and just had my second daughter at the age of 23. I think that it really is all in how you percieve life. My husband has a good job and is able to support our family so I am able to stay home and take care of our girls. I was able to take college classes online, and overall have had a wonderful life with my husband and children. I don't know if it is that older parents are happier because I am certainly happy that I had my children at a young age. I know that when my children are older my husband and I won't be to old to do things and we will be able to enjoy our grandchildren (if we ever have any). I think that being a parent at any age has its obstacles that we must over come but I don't think that the age in which you have your children matters on whether you are truly happy or not.

I know that we were better prepared to handle having a preemie being a bit older. I was 28 years old when my daughter was born. I am not sure we could have handled such a thing at a younger age. It was hard even being older. I am happy that I got married and bought a house before having my daughter I feel that offering some stability early on has helped her as well. She is now a very smart almost 4 year old. I am considering going to collage when she goes to school so when she is old enough I can get a better paying job so I can help her save for collage and things. My husband and I will be married for 13 years this year and it is still a work in progress as we have had some hard times but I think we have finally found some answers that are really going to help us raise this little girl the best way we can, and that is together and give her a good family like as well.

I think that a young parent might struggle financially and miss the party days. She would have to stay in night after night whilst her friends are off partying. She miss miss out on continuing her education. When her child does get to school she might find work that pays the minimum wage. It could be boring and repetitive work. A lady that buys a house, gets a steady partner, has a wonderful career and is older would make a happy mom. She would have security, savings in her bank account and be over wanting those party days. She would have maturity and be more sensible. She would find it easier to take care of her kids. Sometimes pregnancy is a surprise for a young lady and she makes her life suitable for a baby entering into it. She might find parenting quite hard whilst an older lady would do it in her stride. Ages 15 to 20 are the young moms. Ages 35 and over are the older moms.

hi lima, that is true, the more age the more mature someone in thinking wise i think. but not all of people do the same. age means with experience too, so we can be more experience when we face something difficult in our life and that can count by age

yep i think i agree with that article... it was difficult for me with my first child because i was 17, haven't finished college yet, and i was single... it was really difficult. and i couldn't enjoy it that much with all the pressure i had to deal with. anyway not i'm having my 2nd baby, and feels much more, ummm, how to do i put it in words? peaceful? joyful? more confident...etc... you get the idea. and since i have finished my degree, it's easier for me to find a good job and be financially secured..

I agree that older parents are more happier than younger parents. I'm speaking from experience because I was a young mother and couldn't handle being a responsible parent until a got older and more established in my life. It's just that experience make parenting a little easier and you can only get experience over time.

Hi kwylima, i agree with you and even i'm having plans about my marriage and when to give birth to my children and yes i have almost planned till some years from now, but i can only implement them if i get an understanding wife, hoping for the best to happen.

I'd agree for the fact that you'd be more stable at an older age. Like you mentioned married, a good job, and a home established. However, the odds of you being happier and more stable are greater but it's not always so if you don't have support from your family. Though I think the quality of childs life isn't as high with very young parents as they rely too much on family or public assistance, may not have a decent job or home of their own or as you mentioned haven't even finished high school.

I think there are some good young parents out there but if you are older already with that good job and wild days over it would seem you could be a little happier..... Good parents want to give their children everything especially if they did not have much growing up...... and it is hard raising a child when you are going to school and working for min wage.........It seems some of the older parents have less stress because they have already accomplished what they set out to do

My mom had me at 26 year old and my brother when she was 29. We had good times together with my parents. At their fifties, we would travel together. We had fun together. We enjoyed each other as the age difference between parents and children. They could relate well with us. I had my daughter at 32. I had prepared well for her, financially, my husband and I can somehow give what we know is best for her. However, I can say there are things she is doing which we can't relate. At times it seems we live in two different worlds. Though we managed to meet halfways, I would say it would has been better when I had her when I was in my late 20s. So I think.

I agree with the person who wrote the article;I think it's much better to wait and think well before having a child,and people who are around the age of 30 are a little wiser than younger ones and usually have a better and more stable financial situation,so I don't know if older parents are happier than younger ones,but certainly have more life experience and know how to deal with stressful situations,which are inevitable when you have a small child,better than young parents.

oh yes. i totally agree with you. im a young parent myself and i can say i did lack planning process. but im now happy with my life. and im so thankful that God gave me a healthy baby boy.. :)

me and my husband get married at the age of 21, too young right? but i can honestly say that we are happy with what we have right now. contented? of course not yet, although we had our own house at the age of 29 but i can say that we are not yet financially stable for the future of our 2 kids. but happy? yes, very much! i think, being contented with what God gave us and continuing to give us, we are very much happy right now. its just a matter of how you live and how you manage to live a married life, wheter your young or older parents =)

I think it depends, because younger and older parents have problems also. Maybe the severity/load of the problem matters. It depends on how they can handle their relationship and/or how they can handle with their problems.

yeah, i think so too... a lot more to teach, a lot more to share, and at a mature age, it only brings happiness and fulfillment on our part as parents...

Hi dear, In the new and modern social set up, I think it is almost correct. Still, all depend on person to person because some of the young parents are too much calculative and pre determined with the new ambitions. The higher bothered issue is when the new generation comes up, most of the parents are not happy with their trend and attitudes. When their loved ones (children) go out of their hands, most parents are worried and they feel out of control. Few are unhappy because it is difficult to manage everything as and how they like. However, young couple are tuned up to the mark of new life styles and they are trying to cooperate with the changing environments. Thank-s