How would you react if you were to meet your first love?
By Judewang
@Judewang (93)
Malaysia
April 12, 2011 4:48am CST
Recently, when I was in FB, I saw that my first love was in FB. I had mixed reactions - whether to contact her or not. I still have feelings for her even though I know that things will never be the way it was. Besides, she would have gotten married already and I am not. What would you do if you were to be in my position? Should you contact her or just forget about it?
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6 responses
@leihyi (9)
• Philippines
12 Apr 11
yeah it would be nice just to say hi to her asking her what's going on in her life. If I would be in that situation,i will great him of course, I haven't got any information about my first love since we apart. Though I think i still got feelings for him,i certainly know that would not affect my current situation. I merely would love to have only friendly relationship with him.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
12 Apr 11
I say you should go for it. How do you know she's married? How would you know how things would turn out if you don't make that one step. Personally, I saw someone who's not really my first love, but a person whom I liked seven years ago but we were both committed at that time. I initiated the contact. Now we have been dating since July 2009 and going strong. We never would've though we would get another chance after we missed the first one seven years ago. So I say just do it and say Hi. Good luck!
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
12 Apr 11
YES !! I have been in your exact situation! I have only ever loved twice and after i lost love for a second time i looked my first love up on facebok and was estatic to get in touch with him again. We are still together now 2 years later and he was in a relationship when i first got in contact with him... but he too shared feelings for me that he had never let go. I say go for it and never look back. You have nothing to loose but everything to gain.
@Judewang (93)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 11
After I lost her, I had two other persons... but none of these relationship worked. I don't know... maybe it's me or the situation itself. In you case, I think the time frame, the distance, the nature and circumstance surrounding your relationship with her do have influence on your decision. But mine was quite different. We parted in 1987 when I was studying in the Philippines then I went back to Malaysia in 1987. After about 3 years, we actually re-established communication but mostly through letters and long distance call. At that time she was in Khartoum Sudan (with UNICEF)while I was working in Malaysia. In 1991, she was supposed to go back for a holiday and so, I decided to visit her in the Philippines. But this did not materialize as she was delayed. (Another disappointment for me.) And the last time, she rang... was when she wanted us to get married and I go with her to Khartoum. But I just couldn't because I had my parents to take care of, then. So, that's how we parted. No reconciliation and face-to-face meeting. I guess, this circumstance is the one that's causing this "hang-up". Circumstances and the quality of relationship does play an influence.
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
I already did see some of my ex- boyfriends at facebook.
So the first thing I said to myself is "omg what happened to you?" hahaha , you know seeing him loosing his hair, with his protruding tummy and where is the boyish charm that captivated me?
Well ok I didnt get any younger but I didnt get older as fast as they did!
Honestly...(^_^)
@Judewang (93)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 11
Lipstick, You do have a good sense of humor ... "loosing his hair?... protruding belly?. Ha....Ha.. That's me! No more boyish charm like Herbert Bautista (That's what my Filipino classmates called me - the Malaysian Herbert Bautista). Well that was history. Thanks for the cheer-up.
@blackscrumpy (152)
• Philippines
12 Apr 11
I think I would just move on with my life. She didnt chose me before, so why would she choose me again now? She made it without you, why would she need you now? It just wouldn't work.
I've seen many of my friends pursue their first love a second time, and guess what? They were dumped a second time. Like I said, it just wouldnt work. Going back to her is just a waste of time. At the start it would seem like you would have a second chance again, but I tell you, in the end she probably would say she just wants to be friends.
@Judewang (93)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 11
Thanks blackscrumpy,
I think you've given me the best answer and I appreciate it very much. Beside, going back to the past isn't the rule of life as God wants it. If He wanted that I was to be married with her 25 years ago, things would have happened, no? The "feeling" that I may still have for her is perhaps just an illusion triggered by the fact that I have been alone for a long, long time. A wise and elderly friend once shared to me his experience and commented as follows: "I'm heading towards the sunset of my life, why destroy the beauty of its twilight?" She will however remain for me, "a God-given memory of true love experience." Thanks again.
