What is the meaning of Marriage for you?
By isloooboy
@isloooboy (1733)
United Arab Emirates
April 13, 2011 2:25am CST
I saw so many topics regarding, "cheating by husband or wife" from so many mylotters friend. I was thinking maybe we all are lacking the knowledge of real meaning of marriage? or we have created our own definition.
So my question is, "What is the meaning of marriage for you?"
For me meanings are, "Fulfill the all dreams and wishes of my partner without demanding back". What meanings you have?
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19 responses
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 11
Dont you think forgetting Faith in your partner, forgiveness on partners mistake's can bring success in your marriage?.
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
yes that is called cheating and you have the right to made a decision but forgiving is the best way if he want to apologize, what you think?
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
13 Apr 11
Hi islooboy
To me, Marriage is family - it is all about everything - the love, caring, the small fights, the patching up. A feeling to be.
Suny above said about rebiths and Indian tradition. If that is true (I am not that staunch follower) I would love this same wife for all my future lives.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Apr 11
@suny: no fights with you
@mssags: The BR here is a sweet dish from Bengal called Rasogolla
@islooboy:
Yes, I think it is included in the marriage. Because if there are no such small fights the fun in marriage goes missing soon. A fine line here demarcates what defines the small fights as pleasant and good to make marriage a healthy one.
Hope I could clear your doubts on BR
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
Yep its part of marriage to bang some times for a little sweet wish between life partners and in the end one rise the white flag for continuity :D.
If BR is sweet than I will think twice who will get this time ;) lol
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
Well fights are the part of marriage life but don't you think it will not count in the meaning of marriage?.
What is BR :D lols
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Apr 11
Very well explained about marriage life :D seems you are experience person ?
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Apr 11
Don't you think commitment is little corporate word without Love and pain?
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Marriage should be about selecting a lifelong partner that you are willing to remain with for better or worse. That meanings, in the beginning you both realize that marriage takes work and a lot of patience. And, the couple must also realize that if it doesn't work out, who is to say that the next partner isn't the same or worse, so it is better to stay together and work through the problems and your old age will be more fulfilled because you have grownup together. I see so many old people, lonely and alone because they left the marriage when they were young and now there is no one to share those golden years with. Marriage is a blessed commitment, if you can stick with it.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
Very much true elaboration, so it means marriage is a give and take in any circumstances but also to stick with it whatever came into your mind, right?
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Marriage is the stage of life where we prove our maturity, meet the challenges, discover the unknowns, something to cry and be happy about, the time where surprises happen, a generally bumpy ride and a puzzle that has no end. Most men jump in and women happy to let them jump in not knowing the tangles that were ahead.
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 11
Very true but the real exam starts after marriage what you think is the key for a successful marriage?
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@dab0503 (26)
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14 Apr 11
Marriage for me is a sacred union between me and my wife, bound by the blessings of the Almighty god, the father. We now join together in pursuit of whatever goals we plan ahead in the future and will always love and care for each other till the last breath of our life.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
Very nice words, Can you forgive your partner on cheating?
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
We men are more flexible than womens I think, do you agree?
@dab0503 (26)
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14 Apr 11
Marriage as it travails along the way has its ups and downs in life. I think the purpose of this is to strengthen the bond. There is no such thing as " perfectly married". You can always experience bad moments in your married life, there comes cheating, betrayal of trust, anger, greed, selfishness, and many other evil ways to break the sacred, holy bondage of matrimony. For my part, i can and i will always forgive her if she is cheating our married life. Why?... because i love her very much.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 Apr 11
To me marriage means slavery for the woman and a power trip for the man. It is Only to have kids, love can be added but it isn't necessary. See I'm very old fashioned when it comes to marriage. So by the age of 7 I Knew I didn't want to have kids. And by 13 I knew I will never marry. I Still think for me , I have to choose between love or marriage. My view of love is a connection of equals. A connection Both choose to be in . A true partnership. I have noticed that many see marriage This way. I can't see how. The woman becomes a wife. A wife Can't be equal to his husband in my eyes. She is either better or less. But I have a friend where they are equal in the marriage. My parents had it too. So It's Just me who sees it as slavery. I have friends here saying marriage is just a paper and it doesn't change you . I say it Changes Everything. I wouldn't be allowed to be myself. I would resent Everything and make my husband's life a living hell. But I'm the total opposite with my guy. Yes i have a guy. Many hear my views and think , I will never fall in love or have love because I will never marry. These people equate love with marriage, I will Never do that.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Apr 11
If you can mix love and respect ,mutual love and respect, with marriage then yes, I agree with you. to be with your best friend , a partner and to raise your children is ideal for many. Me? I don't want children so there is no ned to marry. I already have Mutual love and respect with my guy. I don't want to ruin it by marrying.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Apr 11
Well I respect your opinion but I think Marriage is the act which brings not only happiness but sorrows too. The biggest advantage of marriage is your children's who stand in the end with your shoulders when you need attention more eagerly. What is your opinion about my elaboration?
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Apr 11
Well my question was, "What is the meaning of Marriage for you?". I was not talking about both partner but for myself only.
Yes it is two sided and if both are on the same track only than we can claim successful marriage. What you think?
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
Don't you think we are following the media blindly?
@anil02 (24688)
• India
17 Apr 11
It is a problem in every society. You mean for this problem some one forgot to marry. conflicts among the mom. sister and wife are normal thing. In families you see conflicts between father and son, brother and brother, than why you are taking so serious behave of mom, sister and wife. Deal with these as a part of life.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Apr 11
Well Anil I know how much heaven work for us after marriage when MOm and sister of the boy and the recent wife behave after marriage ;)
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
24 May 11
yep pairs are decided in the heaven but they have to live in this world which is full of problems :D
@lipstick2009 (1236)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
Marriage for me is a teamwork where both parties always do things for the benefit of the team. There is trust in each other that the other one will be able to deliver his or her task for the good of the whole team.
Now when a husband or wife cheats, that is obvious a deviation to what and how the team was built on.
In a team, nobody is superior to the other although on must be the leader,an able leader which is the husband or the one wearing the pants in a family.If the leader of the team is not able to perform his duties, for some reason, the team member should help him out while he is not not able yet.In the end, its is still teamwork ...and whoever becomes the leader, still the goal would be for the good of the team
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 11
Teamwork bring success for the common goal of community but in marriage we can have different choices for the sake of argument, "I love to eat chicken but my wife is vegetarian and she dislike chicken". What will she do? will she cook chicken for me because we are team? or She will respect my likes being a partner whom she love?.
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@titchy1231 (732)
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14 Apr 11
well i have never been married but if i was i would expect us to be best friends, lovers and a perfect match. obviously we would have ups and downs like everyone and as far as i am concerned if someone was not happy in their relationship then they should end it and not go looking for anyone else
@ArdeeGayos (52)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
For me, marriage is having someone you can happily grow old with.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Apr 11
Do you know how much time it will take to grow old with it? what will you do to live that long?
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
14 May 11
Hi. isloooboy. I think that the meaning of marriage means to me, a solid and firm commitment between two human beings. This is a loyal relationship that denotes honesty and true love for each other. The devotion is very strong and pure. This is a bond that is meant to last forever without tiring.
@melvelasco (356)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
marriage for me is a sacred ordinances of God, that husband and wife should love each other uncoditionally, willing to accept both of them their personal character, whether it is good or bad, willing to give one another for those weaknesses they have... Marriage don't always ends perfectly but they should learn to understand the meaning of the real love for them. They agreed to get married because they are willing to be together for last... well that a few meaning of marriage for me.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
14 May 11
Marriage is a form of worship that sanctity should be maintained by both parties, both husband and wife. Marriage aims to establish a prosperous and happy family forever. Marriage requires maturity and physical and mental preparation. because marriage is something sacred and can determine a person's life path.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
13 May 11
When I was still young I tell my friends that I don't want to be married someday because I see it as a bondage. I also consider it a lifetime commitments. I told them since I can't commit that I'd be willing to sacrifice a part of my life and freedom then I don't want marriage.
However, when I met my husband and we began dating and eventually officially dating as a couple I told my self that maybe I'd want to get married after all. So I did. I'm now married with him and we now have two kids. Now that I'm married I still consider it as a lifetime commitment. I have accepted him for what he is. I know he is not perfect but it does not make him a bad man. We have our ups and downs and when I get really mad I tell myself I want this over. However, when the anger is no longer there I still find myself wanting to spend the rest of my life with him.
I don't commit when I'm not sure I can't keep my part. That's the reason when I got married and I committed my self to be by his side through riches and poor always whatever happens then I know there's no going back. It will be different though if my partner is abusive. In the first place, I would never marry a man who shows signs of being abusive. I would get to know the person very well first.
Have a nice day...
@stanly012992 (241)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Marriage is sacred commitment between man and woman.This are blessing given by God to prove their love to one each other.This are the institution of forever love of a couple marriage sealed by the words of God and they are no longer two they're now one mind, body and, spirit in the sight of Lord God.