Money and it's impact on relationships...

Wrong world; little girls don't dream of marrying rich men anymore, they dream of getting that college education and taking care of themselves. They longer want to be housewives and to be honest about it more men are becoming house husbands, and they love it. In the years to come women will be bring most of the income into the household. More women are in college that men, I know I am there to see with my own eyes, and it was just stated my the profession of the class, that there are more women graduating from Harvard University than men. I think it is okay the the spin of the dime is on the other side.

Personally I think it would often depend on each situation as I am sure there are many sides to every story and situation out there for sure. I have actually seen men who did sit at home while their wife worked, and do not mind it at all. A lot of times I think it just is something that needs to be worked out when a couple first decides to get married depending on what type of income they expect, etc. and then accept it from there. Men can be Great housemen, cooks, etc. It just is not natural seeing for most people out there for sure.

Yes i think its true... But not fair. And i have been in the situation your describe with alot of money and boyfriend not earning much.. Not living in a very great area. I know my partner felt bad but we were also wasting alot of money and even breaking my stuff. I think money has nothing to do with love, maybe attraction. but money does not = love.

If you want honesty. I wouldnt want to marry a wife with little or no money. You see I am a very intelligent person. And I really get turn off if I feel you waste your time in school to not get a good job. OR if you dont have any qualifications. I know love is strong and it is possible for me to end up in a situation where I love the person so much in which i would want to marry them even if they have low money. But my mind isnt set right there right now. My future goals is to be rich, yes and i said rich. I am only in high school at the moment though. And my other goal is to marry a lady having a career similar to mine making alot of cash. One thing I have observe from past relationship of other couples that I wish will not happen to me. I have notice that couples in which each person are rich tend to last for a short period of time because they hardly have any financial problems so they find that they are hardly communicating and mostly focused on their career. then the time will come when a little argument is going to break out and that argument will escalate so much. They will then realize that they really doesn't need each other and that they can do without each other and so the relationship will end. That is what I dont want in my relationship. But otherwise from that I would really want to be in a relationship where me and my wife are each making huge some of money. As i really want my kids to enjoy all that I couldnt enjoy when I was smaller. But i guess every parent wants that for their child.

For me yes it is the truth they can help there parents and the relatives or else friends also.

What you've mentioned is a genuine thought. But its more of a thought amongst the young ones. The one I would with due respects call "immature". They don't understand that money is just a means to have what you want and not the end. Once the maturity sets in, you tend to realize what really means in life and what doesn't. Thats when you start looking for some who just can't buy you costly gifts but the one with whom you will enjoy the simplest things in life the most. I would personally date a female who is good for me in that she's understanding, humble, loyal and definitely very very loving. Regarding the other thing that men are called worthless if they don't earn, yes thats true. But that is changing in recent times. There are number of couples now where the men take care of the house while the women work in the outside world. Its just a matter of perception and things are changing now. It mostly depends on our bringing up. A kid brought up in a household where the man has to earn to be a real man will continue to believe in the old ways.

Well, i do not think it is all about the money. My bf dates me and he knows i am not a rich girl! ;) WEll I know he too is not very loose on the money side, and we both are employees with a bit of obligation to support our families. i guess, now it does not matter as much as it would matter when we get married and he is not able to provide to our family, children basic needs, schooling expenses, and stuffs.

I think just like with everything else, it changes with time. In my generation, this is not the 'norm'. The man is expected to take care of the family. But my kids probably will not feel that way unless they are 'taught' it. Not that I want to get in a discussion about race, but it's kind of the same thing... My generation, was taught races shouldn't mix, but now this is not an issue. I haven't raised my kids to think it's wrong. So their veiws on it are different and have changed with time... I date men for their personalities, charm, sense of humor, morals, beliefs, etc... not because of how much they make. I prefer men with little because usually the ones with money are cocky, arrogent and think they are better than everyone else. Money comes and money goes... True love will be there through good times and bad.

Honestly, women today go for the money rather than their feelings. With the poverty all over the world. People are thinking of ways for a better life. And the easy way out of being poor is marrying someone who is rich. Don't they know about the pre-nuptial agreement? It's not just the women but the men also. They look for a rich girl and marry them to get their trust fund or millions worth. People are being materialistic and practical nowadays. For me, I'm still the naive type. I still go for LOVE. NOT MONEY. You can work things out with little money. Just don't be too ambitious and jealous.

i did.... it wasn't the money that counted, it was his effort in making his life (financially) better that mattered to me... dating a poor guy is not the same as dating a lazy loser... just my thoughts on it :)

Relationships can have so many different ups and downs. so much has to go into a relationship to keep it going and satisfying to everyone. having financial difficulties only intensifies what goes on in the relationship. we should not let money rule our hearts. we should let love do that instead.