being a working mom
By Janice
@jadeflowerjan (140)
Philippines
April 13, 2011 8:54am CST
i hope all those other working moms read this. I am now a single mom, I have been separated from my husband so that i will finally be free from his selfish grip. He doesn't give us, his family top priority. Now that I am doing things alone financially, I am rather lucky that I have my mom who does most of the household chores and taking care of my kid for me. I am just soooooo lucky! I seem to find it difficult to earn online, but if I do work outside, my time won't be flexible, so how about my child's needs? can you give me more tips on how to make my child feel that although mommy janice is working full time now, i still love him so much. he told me, mom, u don't have time for me anymore, u don't love me anymore. My son doesn't understand that I have fears like what if my son immediately loses the financial support that he's been receiving from my ex? I will have to shoulder everything, right? So I feel so torn apart, but i can't go back living with my ex coz it was such a hellish life.
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6 responses
@wiggles18 (2506)
• Canada
13 Apr 11
You could try freelance writing for Triond. Personally, I wrote over 350 articles(70 hours of work) over the course of a year, in my spare time- Now, I am PASSIVELY bringing in around $100 USD every MONTH.
It may not sound like much, but every month that 100 dollars helps me pay off a few bills.
I have a link in my profile, or you can simply go to the site...
Good luck!
@jadeflowerjan (140)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
thanks,
are u just spinning the articles or do u write them urself? the problem with my situation is that i do work as an online writer at home, and i am a filipino, i am not a native writer, so writing in english can prove to be quite challenging, really...the thing is that my son wants me to do some things with him and i can't do it since i have to focus on work, he feels really bad. how much does it pay for every article? can i invite u as friend?
but it's okay, i will soon recover...i will try to learn wordpress and try to become a webmaster, it will help me earn more without having to write that much, then i can have more time to think of better ways to do some stuff that my son and I will both love...
@wiggles18 (2506)
• Canada
13 Apr 11
I write my own stuff.
They do not pay per article- they pay based on how many views each article gets every month- that way you continue to make money even if you decide to stop writing.
From how you use the English language in Mylot, I feel you shall have no problem at all using Triond.
If you use that link in my profile to sign up, I will easily be able to add you as a friend- you can add anyone over there as a friend :D
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
13 Apr 11
See I thought of doing writing articles on the internet to make money but there are few things that I worry is I think my English is not that good, I might mistakes here and there, second, what I always talk about mostly is about my son, my family, my hobbies... so it is not like something would be interestd in...
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
13 Apr 11
I'm a stay home mom but I would understand it is difficult for the mom and sad for the kid. One of my friends has to work and put her daughter at her sister. She told me once that she is so sad and felt like she is missing out a lot in her motherhood but unfortunately she has to work to help with the financial situation.
Even if I go out and do food shopping, I miss my son only for a couple of hours not seeing him.
How old is your child? if he is very small like less than 10 years old, I don't think they would understand about the parents have to work to make money at all, I gues you just have to squeeze out some time to spend with him as much as you can.
My husband puts his job the first priority as well and I'm thinking he is gonna ba one of those dad who always work, work and work... but iit is life and he has gotta do when he has gotta do to support the family...
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
14 Apr 11
yea.. I understand being a single mom is not easy especially you have to work, I hope you the best, enjoy spending time with your son as much as you could
@jadeflowerjan (140)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
you know what, i am already separated from my husband, we aren't together anymore, so that's it...squeezing in time for my son is very difficult. i have to work online, it pays better than the typical work that we have here in the philippines, and the skills that i have as a writer is in demand too...
@ann815 (54)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
i too is a single parent to two lovely boys. i have been separated to nearly 7 years. i am working full time and just like you, my mom takes care of the boys for me. its true that most times our children will feel that we spend less and less time with them but i have talked to them and explained our situation. luckily, the boys are loved well enough that they understand that mommy needs to go to work everyday.
working online is an alternative but it does pick up slow. :) the additional income it generates will definitely help. a guess a lot of people here write articles and get paid. i have also heard of odesk. i have friends who makes a little money there too. :)
good luck. :)
@jadeflowerjan (140)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
well, working online is better than working full time in any company here in the philippines, the expenses are too high and you have to travel, do many stuff...the pay is quite decent too...not bad actually, i will try to improve my skills as a va since it will help me improve my fianances. u don't quite understand my situation, maybe ur from the states or any 1st world country. but thanks for the comment, i really appreciate it...i actually love the fact that we both have our moms to help us.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Apr 11
I am sorry to hear that. You are right, at least right now your mom can help you in this tough time. But the finance is important today. Please try to explain to your child about why you have to go to work. You can still be with him with you are back to work. And when you have a day off work, you can bring him to the park. Especially when he also goes to school one day, then he will understand it well. People all have different tasks. You are responsible to earn money for your family. And your child shall behave good in the school.
I love China
@jadeflowerjan (140)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
Yes, I have been trying to do what you have been mentioning. Also, I have observed that he is slowly coping with the stress now. It will soon be fine for everyone.
@jadeflowerjan (140)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
yes, i agree, flexibility is the key, it is hard now, because i am still establishing my career as an online article writer, but when I get the hang of it...i will just keep on earning and working my way up financially, then hopefully during weekends, i won't have to surf the net to find a better way to earn money, but just spend it with my son, we'll be cooking spaghetti, or roasting chicken, eat in a pizza house...thanks for the advice...u remind me of what matters most in life...
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
I can understand how hard it is for a mother to leave her child for work. I am a working mom and I have 2 sons aged 6 and 4. When they were younger, I left them in a care of a nanny and they would complain and beg me to stay at home and play with them. I explained to them that I had to work so we can buy things and pay for what we needed. It helped that I've been working since my kids were 2 months old. they sort of grew up and got used to the idea of me going to my office and them being left with the nanny while I was away. Being a working mom, I would always make sure I have quality time with my kids (at least 30 minutes each child everyday when I come home from work.) I also showed my kids my office so they know where I go everyday. In time, I know that your child will get used to having a working mom.
@jadeflowerjan (140)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
thanks for encouraging me...my child is kinda used to it now, but there was once when he really cried and told me...mom, u always don't have time for me anymore...i think u don't love me. i really pitied myself and actually didn't know how to answer. if i tell him stuff like, hey...what if ur dad will stop giving money...he wouldn't understand those stuff, right? so do u have any more ways for me to explain things to him? i only told him that "james, dear, if i don't work, we won't have anything to eat, shop,. and do other stuff..." he told me, then just be with me, it's fine not to eat and go out...it's like he wants me, the old stay at home, full time mom, part time writer mommy janice back...i really pity my situation now, but my situation before...i mean, our life before with my ex is worse...so i think this is just something that we need to go through together. i don't know what exactly to ask God already...well, aside from financial blessing, i don't know what to pray for...crazy, right?
