do you think the middle child is always different?
By misc11
@misc11 (384)
United States
April 13, 2011 10:57am CST
do you think middle children are always different than the other siblings? It doesn't matter if you have boys or girls, I think the middle children are always the different ones...not in a good or bad way....just different from the rest of their siblings. I am the middle child and I feel like my two siblings have always related to each other a lot more than me. They have a lot more in common. If I look at my friends, the ones that are middle children are also different from their siblings. I don't mean not as close to their siblings, just more unique. Do you think this is true? If so, why do you think middle children are the unique sibling in the family?
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18 responses
@malena5235 (1)
• United States
20 Apr 11
I do believe that the middle child is usually different. I am in fact the middle child, and my younger sister and older sister have tons more in common than I do w/ either one. They both have children, both work for a pizza place, both smoke. I do not have children, and do not want them, have never smoked, and would not want to settle for a job at a pizza place.
@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
27 Apr 11
What a funny but interesting topic.Its funny because I am the middle child and I feel exactly like you said "Unique and sometimes out of place"
I have no idea why middle children are often the most bizarre but maybe the middle child inherits more weird traits from both parents then the rest of the children.
^^
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
16 Apr 11
I think the middle child is the one who is most of the time deprived of the parents attention.the middle child is the one who is most of the time left out in the family.I think that most of the middle children are attention getters,that's why most of the singers or actors are middle children.they love being showered by the attention of others.I think though that the middle child has the greatest post in the family.there won't be too much expectations from her/him,unlike being the eldest.s/he won't be babied and overprotected like the youngest,and the middle child is free to do anything.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
I think not always. It depends on how a child is treated in the family. Sometimes if the child is given always favor and suddenly change ... here comes the curiosity of looking attention.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
15 Apr 11
Everyone is different, my dear friend. Everyone is unique and very special and this is what they taught us in Psychology.
According to a really famous psychologist, Adler
eldest siblings are possessive, authoritative and determined
The middle child is always ambitious and competitive. Middle children can adapt and acquire great positive social skills. Here you are!
The last child is a bit over indulged and has poor social empathy.
Only child are social and a bit spoil but lonely.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
14 Apr 11
I can only relate to my five children, two girls and three boys. They have all something in common. My first and third child have much in common in characters. As my second and fifth child have their character in common. Then my third and fourth child can spend much time doing their own things, enjoy themselves. But my first, second and fifth child like to have friends all the time around them. Each one of them are completing one another.
@masang (295)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
I'm a middle child. I can relate what you have said. I'm different from my 2 siblings. I'm closer to them but I noticed that I'm different in terms of how I handle myself and in terms of relationship.
@emochique0712 (37)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
i think it only applies to 3 siblings. in our family, since i'm the only girl and 3guys. altough when we got older we all became close but when we were still kids, i can only count on my younger brother. our eldest is someone i can't really get along with even until now. my youngest brother was too young to know my secrets so sometimes it would depend. our eldest and our youngest seems to have the same interests that's why they get along well. nobody would really seem different if one can only relate to another especially if there's 4 of your children. it's not going to be that hard.
@fedeborgo (104)
• Argentina
14 Apr 11
i dont know.... in my family we hav everything you want, beatufuls, uglys, talls, shorts, fats, crazys, specials, good and evil. what would you chouse?
@Gothicana (458)
• United States
13 Apr 11
no I dont think so.
I got 4 daughters and they are all unique and very diffrent.You sure can see that they are siblings but that is all
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
hello misc,
I can relate to your topic.
I am a mother of 3 kids and i can say that the middle one is really different from the other two.
The eldest and the youngest seems to get along well more,and the middle one always outcast himself.
The middle one seldom play or inter-act with the two.
I've seek some advice or let's say on a research regarding the middle child's behavior and i found that ...middle child syndrome is the cause of it.
I bet you know already what i mean about "middle child syndrome"
have a good day
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
13 Apr 11
I am not sure why but middle children do seem to be a little different. On my husband's side a lot different. The brother who is totally immoral and completely different then the other two is the middle child. I find that my first middle child (I have four kids) finds more things that are "Unfair!", usually things her older sister gets to do because of age or her little sister doesn't have to do because of age. Maybe it's the doubling up of issues. I am not sure but I refuse to feed into her tantrums and things are not so bad for us as some other seem to have it.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
13 Apr 11
The older child seems to be the role model and example for other siblings to follow. the youngest child always seems to get their own way because they have learned by wathing everyone else. the middle child can often get lost in the shuffle , going on unnoticed. All children of the family should be treated equally but sometimes the balance will falter.